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There are two facts: women are just more careful, patient, and thoughtful than men; men after marriage can only be regarded as half a man. As I read before: "People say that a woman is half a man, which is a good thing." Because the married man is only half a man left. ”
As for where to start, we must take into account the emotions of the daughter-in-law and the life of the family, and we have to change the original intention, including the original intention and filial piety.
Otherwise, how can there be an old saying that only a good daughter-in-law can have a good son. Otherwise, no matter how good the son is, his goodness and filial piety will be greatly reduced.
For example, many married men can only sneak in the matter of filial piety to their parents, and dare not speak out, because after their wives know, they will quarrel, and even make the chickens and dogs restless, and then shake out the old things that are old sesame and rotten.
It is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs, and life is like this, so do not underestimate the influence of your daughter-in-law on your son. Maybe the son still has a filial piety, but he can show less.
Whether the daughter-in-law is good or not depends on whether the daughter-in-law is good or not, and the good is also exchanged for good. In the case that there is no problem with the daughter-in-law's character, the mother-in-law's kindness to the daughter-in-law is actually the love and fulfillment of the son, and it is also accumulating her own blessings. Those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed to come are blessed.
In marriage and family, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, people cannot be too shrewd, and their sense of interest cannot be too heavy. In line with the wish of living in harmony, with a tolerant and considerate affection, do what you can do, don't worry too much, don't worry too deeply, such as having to see the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law so thoroughly.
These are very subjective ideas, in short, sincerely change the heart, even if you can't change it, you have no shame, it is enough. When you are young, you love people a lot, and when you are old, someone will love you.
02
Listening to my aunt talk about the trivialities of family life, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I felt very real. In the past, people said that raising children to prevent old age, in fact, there are more places to need daughters-in-law than sons. The son is like a superhuman superman, who can only play a role in key moments and when things are happening.
However, the lives of ordinary people are piled up by small things, except for life, old age, illness and death, where there is nothing too big.
So the aunt jokingly said, "Your brother, often takes my money, but doesn't do my business." "For example, she asked her uncle to buy something, every time she sent the money first, she also forced her aunt to receive it, and as a result, she couldn't see anything today, and Ming'er couldn't see anything."
Call over to remind, the uncle always promised to promise, and when he turned around to answer the phone, he forgot.
The aunt also knows that her son is busy, holding several positions, busy with the trivial matters of purchasing goods and reconciling accounts every day, sometimes she confesses her son's affairs, and the son turns around to give it to her daughter-in-law, and in the end, the person who does things is the daughter-in-law.
When I am older, I always can't keep up with the pace of the times, but I use the products of the new era, there are many places I can't understand, and I don't always say that I let my son put down the serious matter in his hand and come to help himself solve it. This includes consulting what business, what business to handle, and changing the charger.
Sometimes the aunt will also think that if she has a daughter, she may not have to bother her daughter-in-law when she encounters everything, but on second thought, she is also a woman, and after a woman has a family, the focus of life will only be placed on her own small home, unless it is particularly close to herself.
Life is like this, and when you really step into this kind of life, you can understand that sentence, you can only see your daughter-in-law in front of you, and many contents in life are inseparable from women.
Generally speaking, men are also particularly careless and reluctant to ask about trivial matters, so they often have a perfunctory attitude towards the small things you explain, and even fool them to the point of being almost on the line. If you explain more things, you will even be irritable and ask you why you have so many things.
Even if the son is idle, in fact, he can't say too much to you, on the contrary, in the case of a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is the daughter-in-law who can accompany you to chat about the parents, although it is also an ordinary life, but the tranquility and harmony will still make people have a sense of satisfaction from the heart.
When they reach the age, people really don't have much desire, and the things they ask for are simple, but these simple life contents are not something that everyone can enjoy, and they don't pay when they are young, and they don't gain when they are old.
03
As the saying goes: ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law. This is never a lie, and you must also believe that the little things in life must be counted on the daughter-in-law. The son is the one who makes decisions at critical moments, rarely takes care of the content of family life, and has no time or mind.
For example, there is a neighbor in the hometown, the mother-in-law is older, only herself, do not live in the hometown, but occasionally come back to get things, clean the yard, are daughter-in-law pick-up.
There are too many trivial contents of life, and everything is counting on the son, and this expectation will definitely fail, after all, he also has to support his family. Perhaps only when you enter this kind of life can you have a deep understanding, but remember that there is nothing wrong with accumulating your own blessings when you are young.
Good is exchanged for good, sincerity is exchanged for sincerity, mother-in-law is good to daughter-in-law, not to ask you to directly take on the responsibilities that belong to her for daughter-in-law, but you have to show the affection between the family, at least when the daughter-in-law encounters difficulties, when you are young, when you are capable, you can lend a helping hand.
After all, if the daughter-in-law can feel valued and warm in this family, then she will certainly not destroy such a harmonious atmosphere. Or be tainted by the family atmosphere and become gentle and stable, kind and tolerant.
Love your daughter-in-law, in fact, you will not lose anything, even if she does not remember your good, but if she can remember your good, is a grateful person, then after the old age, you can also gain a "daughter", and even she does more than the daughter. He always relies on his own children and daughters, and is harsh and harsh on his daughter-in-law, and is careful about what causes he sows and what fruits he produces.
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