Please let me eat, borrow money without talking!
Borrowing money is really realistic!
Borrowing money to see people's hearts, repaying money to see people's character.
Borrowing money exposes your true connections
Borrow money, you can see a person the most
How horrible it really is to borrow money, as mentioned above.
So, what is borrowing money?
Sogou Encyclopedia's definition of borrowing money is that others ask you to borrow money, and one is that you ask others to borrow money. Either way, the experience is not very good. For example, your WeChat dialog box suddenly pops up a message from an old classmate who has not been in touch for a long time.
Old classmate: Is it there? Busy or not?
Seeing the news, you were shocked, hesitated for half a day, and could not return? How to reply? What if I borrow money?
Just when you were struggling with how to get back, your old classmate called you.
Old classmate: The other party invites you to voice chat
yes! Simply collapsed, pick up or not to answer, for a long time no contact, suddenly answer the phone do not know what to say...
Old classmate: The other party has canceled
At this time, you are relieved, and then after five minutes to reply to your old classmates.
Me: Ah, yes, what's wrong, just went to the toilet, didn't look at the phone [cover your face]
Old classmate: It's okay, it's just that something is looking for you
Me: Ah, what's the matter
Old classmate: Can you borrow me some money, something happened on my side, I am in a hurry to use the money, I will pay you back in two days, or I will pay you back next month's salary.
At this time, the chat, and fell into a new embarrassment, how to do, borrow or not to borrow, hundreds of years have not been in contact with how suddenly find me to borrow money, is he not a good friend, if you are in a hurry to use money, why not find a family to help, in addition to me, is he still looking for someone else to borrow money?
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After reading the above content, I don't know how many people have the same feeling, if there is a real experience, you can play the "same feeling" in the message area and communicate together.
In fact, borrowing money is not necessarily a bad thing, nor is it a shameful thing, but it depends on the motivation for borrowing money and who borrows money. If the family or individual really has an emergency, you must borrow money, then family and friends to help, get through the difficulties together, and then return the money to others, and express gratitude, it is quite perfect, not only solve the tricky things, but also enhance the feelings between relatives and friends. However, there is a kind of borrowing money, it seems to make people very speechless, the borrower himself does not feel embarrassed, the person who is borrowed money is embarrassed, and the five toes can be cut out of the three rooms and two halls to drill in.
Take a chestnut.
A few years ago, when we were still using QQ, when we were not yet financially independent, a high school classmate, the relationship was average, it had been a long time without contact, suddenly sent me a message, called, the purpose was very direct, said that she encountered an emergency, can you borrow some money. I don't know where the other party saw that I had money, and probably thought I was better at talking, so she contacted me with a glimmer of hope, but what she never expected was the failure of this loan. Why didn't you borrow it? Because the school borrowed a few dollars from me and didn't seem to have paid them back. Well, I know everything, that's it.
Another time, also an old classmate, suddenly sent me a message, and then called, or the same thing, said that he encountered something, wanted to ask me to borrow money, at that time, I was not off work, busy dealing with some things. Then, a phone call came and asked me to borrow one or two thousand yuan, which I did not borrow, because at that time, I was really not rich, my body was sick, I had to go to the hospital every week to get medicine, if I lent it out, I might be a little more stressed, when is it a new problem. Therefore, I still politely refused, of course, after this time, this classmate has not been contacted so far.
There's another story, which is more representative, that happened to my friend. The friend is a young man from North Drift, who has been working hard in Beijing for several years, living in a staff dormitory, and the daily expenses of life are not large, and he has some savings. One day, an elder who had not been in contact for a long time asked her to borrow money, and the reason for borrowing money was that the family encountered some urgent matters and needed to use money, and it seemed as if she was borrowing ten thousand or twenty thousand. Of course, this friend is also relatively simple, at that time, I thought that the other party really encountered something urgent at home, and was ready to borrow money from the other party, but I felt unsteady in my heart, so I asked my family about it, and there was nothing happening in her family, so what was this borrowing money to do? Moreover, even if you encounter an emergency, why not find the closest friend, or the best friend to borrow, but find a relative of the younger generation who does not have much contact to borrow, how to analyze how unreasonable. So, the friend asked the elder what to do with the money, and as a result, the other party had no serious reason, and it was all made up. Of course, in the end, the money was not lent out, and the elder still angrily said a bunch of bad things about the juniors, which ended.
The above experience, I don't know if you have, anyway, I personally only experienced these few pieces, if there are more outrageous, you can also type in the message area or private message, we analyze and analyze together.
Of course, this issue is not about telling stories for the sake of borrowing money, and what is told behind the story still needs to be said. First of all, it is still that sentence, borrowing money is not necessarily a bad thing, it is not that we choose to refuse when we encounter borrowing money, and we must analyze specific problems.
Under what circumstances can I borrow money?
First, who borrows it? If it is your own parents, brothers and sisters, best friends, then of course you have to borrow. Second, evaluate the reasons for borrowing money, for example, parents need a sum of money to do business capital turnover; for example, brothers and sisters want to buy a house and a car; for example, friends want to get married, and they are nervous, these reasons are completely acceptable, of course, you can borrow. Third, for the money lent out by people close to you, you must have an expectation in your heart, that is, no matter when the other party can pay back, early repayment can also be returned, late repayment can also be, do not affect feelings because of the sooner or later repayment of money.
Under what circumstances can I not borrow money?
First, people who have not been in contact for eight hundred years will ask you to borrow money as soon as they are contacted, and they can refuse. This is not the indifference of human nature, nor the degeneration of morality, but to learn to be a clear person. After all, in the adult world, everyone's life is not easy, no one has no reason to help you unconditionally, and the person who borrows money is calling me your classmate, I am your relative, I am what you are, and many other reasons to morally kidnap you, so that I feel that the fault of the whole thing lies in you, sorry, it is 2022, this set is no longer popular.
Second, the money borrowed before has not been repaid, and it is repaid and borrowed again. I don't know how the other party is so kind to come again, anyway, the money borrowed before, many times I hesitated again, did not open my mouth to ask, as a result, he came to ask me to borrow the second time, the third time, my mother, I highly doubt, his address book list as long as I have a good friend, otherwise, how can this "luck" fall on me.
Third, the economic foundation is not good, can not reasonably control their desires, can only rely on the demolition of the east wall to make up for the west wall to live a life, can not borrow without borrowing, because the loan may not be repaid, or, the repayment date is far away. I don't need to say, just ask if you dare to borrow, unless you are worried that he will starve to death, temporarily help, but you can not guarantee that the short help will make any changes to his life, borrowing money is not meaningful.
Are you there? Busy or not? I have something to tell you... There is something to say, don't ask if you are not busy, don't ask if you are busy, whether you are busy or not depends on who it is, if the leader sends a message, how busy you do not have to reply, if there is an emergency, do not sleep in the middle of the night to deal with. If you feel embarrassed to open your mouth, then it is best not to open your mouth first, and then think about it.
Finally, say something warm, be kind, be helpful, and be a person who contributes to the family and society. Therefore, in the future, whenever it comes to sensitive things such as borrowing money, we must make rational and accurate analysis and judgment, and then deal with it, and assume corresponding responsibility for our own practices. Originally, there is no absolute right and wrong in many things, the key lies in what your starting point is, what you care about, what you value, then you do what you do. After all, apart from life and death, there is not much to do, and it is done.
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January 12, 2022
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