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"Men who are willing to spend money for you may not love you, but men who are not willing to spend money for you must not love you." 」 This is a sentence that I naturally remembered after watching a video about "the wife buys strawberries in the supermarket and is publicly reprimanded by her husband for spending money indiscriminately".
Although this is a bit absolute, it is not entirely unreasonable.
Let's first review the incident: in a supermarket in Wuhan, a couple pushed a shopping cart to buy family items, and in the fruit area, the wife picked up a box of strawberries and put it into the shopping cart.
Subsequently, the embarrassment that surprised her came, and the husband quickly picked out the strawberries in the shopping cart and put them back in place, and scolded his wife: "You don't look at the price, so expensive you can also buy?" ”
It was a box of strawberries priced at $4999, and it contained 12 strawberries.
The husband said that they originally just wanted to buy some snacks for the children, but he did not expect his wife to put such an expensive box of strawberries into the shopping cart, which he thought was a matter of life.
In the end, the wife did not dare to willfully put the box of strawberries back into the shopping cart. However, it is not difficult to see in the video that there is only helplessness in her eyes except grievances.
In this regard, many netizens said: This man is too picky, a box of strawberries are reluctant to buy for his wife to eat; some netizens expressed understanding: this man is shy, or that this is a good man who knows how to save and live a solid life.
Zixi himself is more inclined: this man has a certain degree of "door-slamming" trend, can not absolutely say that he does not love his wife, at least not enough love, at least in the wife's good mood and the choice to cover the money, this man unabashedly chose to cover the money.
Don't raise the bar, say what 4 yuan more than a strawberry is not worth buying, this man just does not want to spend money wrongly and so on. At least, his attitude is there, a man who loves his wife will give his wife the minimum respect, especially in a public place like a supermarket, he will not think of his wife's face problem. Whether you are slamming the door or being frugal, there is no need to object with a blank face without even caring about the dignity of the wife.
Wives and husbands are equal to the family status, and no one dominates anyone, or who should command whom, who should obey whom. There is something to discuss, there is something to talk about slowly, I believe that the wife will also understand, even if there is a little love for the box of strawberries, at least it will not be aggrieved in the heart, at least she will understand the husband's good intentions for the family to make careful calculations.
Obviously, the man in this video, his attitude does not consider the problem of his wife's face at all, in addition to accusing this woman of not living a life, is very ignorant.
Furthermore, what does a truly frugal man look like? It is a man who only cuts the door to himself and is generous to his wife and children. That's the real good guy who deserves our thumbs up.
Frugality is a good quality, but slamming is a manifestation of selfishness.
A man, faced with the needs of his beloved woman, will not put all his mind on whether this thing is worth it, but will consider how much happiness this thing will bring to his beloved woman.
What if the value of the commodity exceeds one's own temporary expectations, but it is not really unaffordable, what about the occasional "luxury"?
50 yuan, but also have to cut from the wife's teeth, even at the expense of the wife's dignity. It seems that there is a lot of "majesty" of the head of the family, and if it is not allowed to spend money indiscriminately, the wife must listen honestly, and dare not have the slightest resistance, let alone dare to act willfully. In fact, it will only be labeled more firmly by others as a man who has no ability to support his family.
Whether you have money or not, frugality is a virtue. Similarly, whether you have money or not, slamming the door, especially for your lover and family, is really not worth looking at.
A good man who lives frugally and loves his wife, if he really can't afford to buy more than 4 dollars a strawberry, he will only secretly blame his incompetence and inability to provide a good life for his wife, and even if his wife wants to eat a few strawberries, it has become an infinite luxury. Or quietly discuss with your wife and buy it next time; or simply grit your teeth and buy the next box, and buy less other things.
Men who cut the door will feel sorry for their wives to spend money, the reasons and excuses can be described as various, and the attitude is even tougher and more domineering.
Love and unlove are really obvious, and frugality and slamming are really not so difficult to distinguish. The so-called "a hundred years of repair to the same boat, a thousand years to repair the sleep together", it is not easy for men and women to be connected, it is also a rare fate to become a husband and wife, to cherish the fate, do not hurt the husband and wife for a little sesame small thing or a little money, that, it is really too worthless.
Be a husband's distressed wife, be a wife's understanding of the husband, eat what is delicious will think of the next time to take a partner to taste, travel to see the beautiful scenery will also think of the next time to bring their lover to swim together, so and so, the heart is always loaded with partners, life will only be left with frugal life of the small days, saving the chaotic life of the door across the heart.