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"Live proudly and not delicately", I don't know how many women in life can do it. However, on the road of life where everything is unknown, if you can have such a persistent woman, it is difficult to live as a winner in life.
Everyone hopes that their life can be smooth and stable all their lives, enjoy the nourishment of loyal love, and be comfortable in the life of material abundance. However, life is not a fairy tale world, there are sunshine and warm times, there are also stormy times, everything is difficult to transfer to personal will, here, there are objective reality of the shackles, there are tests from nature, so only see the tricks, is the best response to the gifts of life.
Guo Wanying, daughter of the rich Guo Biao. She used all the glory and suffering she personally experienced to tell all female friends a simple but practical philosophy of life: "Be a woman like a flower and not like a flower, don't be squeamish and arrogant." ”
Regarding the literal meaning, Zixi feels that it is very simple, that is, as a woman, she must live like a flower to bloom with unique charm, but also put an end to the squeamishness and weakness of flowers. Be a flower that can grow in the greenhouse, but also adapt to the changing climate outside, even if there is wind and rain, you must not be afraid of fearlessness, in the face of the test of suffering, you must hold your head high, straighten your waist to accept the baptism of the challenge storm.
When Guo Wanying was 6 years old, her father was invited by Sun Yat-sen to return to Shanghai to establish the Yong'an Department Store in the center of Shanghai. The fourth oldest in the family, she became the fourth lady of the proper, and she was also the child who was most liked by her father.
So-called, the deeper the love, the more trouble there is. Guo Biao not only personally taught her the fundamentals of self-cultivation, but also taught her the truth of being a human being in the process of practice: "Be like a flower and not like a flower, don't be squeamish and arrogant." ”
It is also this profound teaching that makes Guo Wanying have the mentality of not being alarmed and the measure of forbearance and benevolence that ordinary girls do not have on the road to human growth, not only did not become a burden on others, but also made herself more powerful in the wind and rain, completely relying on her own strength, crossing one sad hurdle after another in life, and finally winning the most real respect.
Emotionally, she suffered the most ruthless betrayal of her husband
In 1943, Guo Wanying had a difficult delivery in the hospital, and her husband was entangled with a widow to the point of oblivion. It was a crucial moment when a woman needed her husband to be by her side the most, but she could only face the great test of life and death alone, the kind of experience of having to accept the most painful torture from the spirit while suffering from the greatest physical pain, if it happened to a woman, she would definitely die of depression.
However, Guo Wanying made a decision beyond the imagination of ordinary people, she actually calmly knocked on the widow's door, faced with the chaos of a room, smiled slightly, and said to her husband Wu Yuji: "I will take you home." ”
In the later life, she is still as she was at the beginning, mindlessly handling everything for her husband, life, everywhere is full of the shadow of ritual, and it is precisely because of her tolerance and generosity that she does not care about the previous suspicions, and finally restores the feelings of the two people to the original love.
In addition, there is a pillar that supports her strong face, that is, the words that her father has always inspired her: "Be proud and not petite." ”
Squeamish or weak, Zixi believes that for women, they are all a double-edged sword, when men's minds are on their own, they are a good "weapon" for pampering, but when a man has distracting thoughts and empathy, weakness becomes the most fatal weakness, for example, in the face of men's betrayal, whether it is to choose a cry, two, three hanging nonsense or a spilled tear, can only push the man farther, cheating more rationally. Therefore, when it is time to put away the "petite", it must be put away in time.
In life, another big "disaster" once again tested her will
After the founding of New China, the Guo family prepared to flee to the United States, but Guo Wanying chose to stay for the sake of her husband and children. Since then, she has lost the financial support of her mother's family and can only rely on working outside the home to subsidize the family.
Not long after, the husband was arrested and imprisoned, and life became more difficult.
In addition to getting up early every day to work greedily to earn money, she also had to find time to visit her husband Wu Yujun.
Onlookers watched her have a good day but chose to live a hard life, and they all expressed their heartache and puzzlement: Why don't you want to go to the United States with your mother's family to enjoy happiness?
But she laughed at life, thinking that it was the reward that life gave her.
Zixi's understanding of setbacks or tribulations on the road of human growth is that a lifetime is long, and visiting with suffering is also the normal and natural nature of life. And the rebirth after suffering is more like the transformation of butterflies, all the suffering in front of you, but the beauty of dancing for the future one day.
I believe that this is also one of the reasons why Guo Wanying can optimistically and calmly accept the baptism of suffering.
Later, Wu Yuji died of lung disease, and it was very difficult for her to take the child alone, and because she was implicated by the family, she was forced to undergo labor reform. Moreover, because he had to pay off the debts he had owed for his husband, the family property and jewelry were also forced to confiscate.
From the fourth miss of the Guo family, who everyone envied, to the person who dared to insult and spit on anyone, instead of being depressed, she calmly followed the "storm" when she was hit by others with saliva and broomsticks.
When she was the most bitter and difficult, she would remember the words that her father taught her when she was a child: "Be like a flower and not like a flower, don't be squeamish and arrogant." ”
Therefore, no matter how much hardship and difficulty life has given her, she insists on believing that it is the paving stone of a better future, and insists on using the highest morale to meet the invasion of the "storms" from the most evil of human nature again and again at the lowest point of life. In the years of fighting against suffering, she never had the idea of bowing to fate, even if it was only a fleeting moment.
Even in those years of digging fish ponds and picking up river mud, she still maintained an elegant attitude: making St. Petersburg-style cakes from tin lunch boxes. Even when she was sent to do the dirty work of cleaning the toilet, she had to wear a beautiful cheongsam, and the elegant wind did not lose the prosperity of the year.
For the incredulity in the eyes of outsiders, her answer is simple and calm: "This is what people look like." ”
Tagore said: "Whether it is good times or bad times, life is an endless struggle against all kinds of difficulties, a battle of outnumbered enemies." ”
In this "battle" against suffering, Guo Wanying successfully saved herself, not only because she has the strength of "eating bitterly", but more importantly, she has a firm attitude towards life - real gold is not afraid of fire.
After surviving the calamity of the past, Guo Wanying was hired at the Shanghai Institute of Ceramics to teach professionals to learn English.
She finally used her indomitable and tenacious perseverance to bow to the hardships of life to win herself the respect and love that a teacher should have.
Her life can be said to be a portrayal of seeing the rainbow after the real sense of the storm.
Shen Yulun said: "The ideal has a strong driving force, the closer we get, the more we drive forward, in a difficult situation, even the hair is a sword." ”
Guo Wanying used her life experience to support this sentence very well. Moreover, she also gave such a practical "famous saying" to female friends: Be a woman like a flower and not like a flower, don't be squeamish and arrogant. (Figure from the network, graphics and text independent)