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In life, in addition to our parents, brothers and sisters are our closest relatives, but also the most trustworthy and reliable dependence. For example, when I was a child, my brother was bullied, as long as I went home and said to my brother, no problem, my brother must be the one who unconditionally helped my brother fight. When I grew up, my brother chased my girlfriend, and my brother helped me to be a person who threaded a needle and made good things.
Such brotherhood makes us more certain: brothers and sisters will always be our biggest backers, the ones we can rely on at any time.
However, there is one thing that many people do not realize, that is, brothers and sisters are actually a kind of network, they are not what you and I should rely on, let alone unconditional dependence.
Our ancestors have long warned us: "Brothers do not share common wealth." However, many people do not think so, and narrowly understand "non-common wealth" as not sharing each other's money. As long as you don't take it directly from the other person's pocket and spend it yourself, it is "not a common wealth". But I don't know: the meaning of this "non-common wealth" is much more profound than imagined.
Haiyang and Haitao are brothers, and when they were young, they had both time to fight with each other and brothers to help each other. After growing up and marrying their wives and having children, the two families are still close.
Brother Ocean himself to do plastic steel doors and windows business, because he can speak the Tao, so the business is not bad, although it is some small work, but also not idle, a few years later, but also accumulated a certain amount of original funds.
The younger brother joined the work of the younger brother a few years later, engaged in the construction industry. After the newcomer became the "old man", he introduced some engineering work to his brother, which was highly profitable and easier than that of individual users. The brother was very happy, he didn't have to bother to go out a little bit to find work, and the younger brother introduced a project enough for him to be busy for several months.
The brother will also give the younger brother some commission, in the younger brother's view, although the brother gives less benefits than others, but who let them be brothers, let the brother earn more is not impossible, in the end, the fat water did not flow to the outsiders' fields.
After two years of cooperation, the brothers never gave his brother a penny, no matter how much engineering work his brother introduced to him, and no matter how big the work was.
At first, it was the sister-in-law who was dissatisfied, thinking that the eldest uncle was too unsophisticated. The younger brother is straight, but he can't be treated as a fool by the shrewd brother, right?
Whenever the sister-in-law calculates the "benefit fee", the younger brother will always stand up to defend the brother and say: "What is the hurry, Party A has not settled the bill for him, you can't let him pay the benefit fee to us first, it is all his own family." ”
Later, the unscrupulous brother was also angry.
There was a estrangement between the brothers because the distribution of the land compensation that should have been divided equally between the brothers was wrong.
At that time, the relevant departments said that the money was not hand-held and could not be obtained for a long time. The two brothers asked their uncle for fifty percent through friendship. At that time, my brother went to the finance alone to withdraw the money.
The younger brother thought that when the brother returned with the money, he would definitely share half of himself. Because the other fifty percent don't know when they'll get it. As a result, the brother did not give his brother a penny, but directly said in front of his parents: "The remaining fifty percent belong to Haitao." "It means that if you want to come back, you will bear the loss yourself." Anyway, I got my money back no less.
The younger brother was not lightly angered that time, and his heart began to be dissatisfied with his brother.
Next, the brother's act of pretending to be stupid directly annoyed the younger brother.
After the project money came down, the brother got all the money, but he didn't allocate a dime to the younger brother. The younger brother couldn't help but open his mouth: "Brother, what about my share." ”
"What about your share, to introduce your brother to work and bring a kickback?" Besides, you still lack those children? The older brother sent his younger brother away with such ease.
Later, the younger brother did not take the initiative to help his brother introduce any engineering work, and as soon as the brother was idle, he asked his brother: "Why haven't you found a few jobs?" ”
Each time, my brother's answer was the same: No.
I don't know when it started, but my brother heard something about what my brother introduced to others about installing plastic steel doors and windows. He found his brother and asked, "Tao, I'm your brother, so you can't eat?" Your niece still has to spend money on college. ”
At the beginning, my brother still kept advising him not to listen to other people's blind rumors.
Later, the brother began to harshly accuse him, and in front of his parents: "If you do this brother, you have money not to let your brother earn, but give it to irrelevant outsiders." Your conscience is simply feeding the dog. ”
"Do you know what it means to repay the favor?" I threw in the peach, did you repay it with a lee? You know that your daughter has to spend money to go to college, that is, she is not studying well, you buy her a college study. What about my son, don't you have to pay tuition for junior high school? You have a wife and children to raise, my wife and children who to provide? I introduce the project to others, people give ten thousand, introduce you, you give three thousand I did not say half a word. But you, you have to make inches, and then you don't give a penny, I have to live, I am your brother, not your father, there is no obligation to be relied on by you for no reason. ”
"Brothers and sisters are a kind of network, not a matter of rightful consideration." How many people can really understand this sentence?
In life, how many brothers and sisters who originally lived in harmony finally became "enemies" who were not even as good as strangers because of their interests?
"Peach to Li, repay with peach", should be the normal relationship maintenance in interpersonal communication, etiquette and exchanges, the old ancestors have always taught us this. Even the brothers of a mother and brother cannot escape this "rule of the game".
Napoleon said: "There are not enough people to rely on, and the only way to survive is to rely on themselves." ”
Rely on the mountains to fall, rely on everyone to run. Basically, everyone can say such a warning statement, but few people really understand its true meaning, and only use this kind of words as a great truth for others.
Unless you personally experience a "unreliable" experience, you can understand what this sentence is trying to convey.
In the eyes of our Chinese, brothers and sisters are the closest relationship and the most unconditionally dependent. Therefore, in life, when encountering things, no matter how big or small, I always think of finding brothers and sisters to help. Especially for the kind of relatives who are willing to pay, we are more willing to expect them to help us more, because there is no cost.
However, those who have this kind of natural thinking forget that there is another sentence: "Brother, settle the account." ”
Depending on others at no cost, the dependent person will be tired, because he himself will live, and the meaning of his life is not for his brothers and sisters, but for himself, for his own small family. Help within the scope of ability, more for the benefit of equality, there are benefits, do not forget to share a piece of brothers ...
If a person is holding on to the affection of brothers and sisters and wantonly consumes family affection, the human feelings are returned by others, and the benefits are all their own. Well, such a sentiment is not far away at all...