With the opening up of the two-child and three-child policy, many post-80s and post-90s age-appropriate birth personnel have not been very impressed, but their parents have been moved.
Only children have long been adults, and even some have their own families, lonely and lonely old parents have the idea of having another one, to make up for the regret of not having a son or daughter when they were young. Especially after getting older, I really have an unclear desire for children, and I always feel that I need a cute child around me.
As a result, these middle-aged parents began to have a second child, completely ignoring their own one-child and reaching the age of parenthood.
【Mother-in-law got pregnant just half a year after marriage】
Xiaoli and her boyfriend have been in love for many years, and finally decided to get married after getting to know each other's families. Since both of them are still relatively young and their careers are on the rise, the two discuss three years before considering having children.
Parents on both sides can ignore their career problems, always feel that they are using their career as an excuse, the purpose is to play. Especially Xiao li's in-laws feel that the current young people have no sense of responsibility at all, the matter of having children is not just a matter of the two of them, this is related to the whole big family, they have long wanted to hold their grandchildren, Xiao Li's two sons have been shirking, making them very angry.
After Xiao Li got married, her in-laws began to give birth to children, but there has been no result. The more the in-laws thought about it, the more angry they became, so they simply planned to have one of their own. The son and daughter-in-law can't count on it, and it's okay to count on themselves.
Not to mention, the two in-laws are really quite powerful, the first month said to give birth to themselves, the second month really got pregnant.
Xiao Li is going crazy, she has just been married for half a year, and her mother-in-law is actually pregnant, what is this called?
【Should parents who have children have more children when they reach adulthood?
Xiao Li's two sons quarreled because of her mother-in-law's pregnancy, Xiao Li felt that this was too ridiculous, she was firmly disagreed with her mother-in-law's birth, and demanded that the mother-in-law must beat the child. Xiao Li's husband actually does not approve of his mother having a child at such an old age, and his face is not good, not to say, the key is too dangerous. Xiao li gave her husband an ultimatum, either the mother-in-law went to get a fetus, or they divorced.
Xiaoli listed the reasons why the mother-in-law should not have a child:
First, their two-year-old children may be born in less than two years, and their uncle is less than three years older than his nephew, looking like brothers.
Second, although the in-laws have a pension, but they are older, in case of physical problems in the future, who will raise this child? At that time, it is not their husband and wife to take over the plate, it is difficult enough to raise their own children, and they also have to raise a little uncle.
Third, the mother-in-law looks like a fifty-year-old person, how dangerous is it to have a child at such an age, have they considered it, in case there is a three long and two short?
Fourth, what if the mother-in-law really gives birth to a confinement, she can't always serve the old mother-in-law as a daughter-in-law, she hasn't given birth to a child yet, this is not a trouble.
[Don't do inappropriate things at an inappropriate age]
In fact, although Xiaoli's in-laws can still be called middle-aged, their physical state is to enter the state of old age. After the age of fifty, all organs of the body will age, and the energy cannot be compared with young people, and it becomes a big problem to have children after giving birth.
And giving birth to a child at such an old age is a challenge for adults and children, and the complications of pregnancy in advanced maternal age are very terrible, and the physical fitness of children born at this advanced age will not be too good, and it is easy to bring some small problems of one kind or another. These may sound like nothing, but when it comes to money, it is not a small amount, and the average family cannot afford it.
Being a parent at the age when you are about to become a grandparent is not a good thing for yourself or for your current children. As parents, we should still consider our adult children, the courage on their shoulders is not easy, and parents should not add burdens to them anymore.
It is expected to be a daughter-in-law's opposition, because the mother-in-law's pregnancy is likely to hurt the interests of their small family, so it is very normal for the daughter-in-law to oppose.