Text: East Hedge
Figure: From the network
One
At the age of 33, after my divorce, I met my current husband Li Ming. He is 35 years old, a talented person, very cultured. He has a snack bar, and I appreciate that he does everything himself and works hard.
His ex-wife could not eat the hardships of running a snack bar, and after meeting the father of the gold lord, she kicked him in the foot, leaving a 3-year-old daughter for him to raise. The same is divorced, the same is the end of the world fell into the world, I can't help but feel sorry for him. We soon talked about marriage and got married, but after my parents and friends learned about his situation, they told me to think carefully about it.
I know that his conditions are not good now, but with his hard-working strength, I believe that good times will come.
After marriage, we lived in a small, old, dark, damp, and inaccessible place. Li Ming apologetically told me, Zhenzhen, I have wronged you, and when we make money, we must buy a good house.
I looked into his sincere eyes and nodded confidently.
In addition to my own financial work, I also found a part-time job to take accounts for a friend's company, working hard to make money
Because our company is in the new development zone, takeaways are reluctant to deliver, and several nearby fast food restaurants are not delicious, so in the afternoon, colleagues have to go far away to buy things to pad their stomachs, but sometimes they can't take care of it when they are busy, and they work hungry, and everyone feels that there is no motivation.
After I saw this business opportunity, I suggested that Li Ming, in the afternoon, when there were no customers in the store, let him run errands to buy and send afternoon tea, and also deliver snacks and snacks in his own store. Colleagues are also encouraged to send circle of friends to publicize, but also to engage in some likes, free tasting activities.
Gradually, there were more customers in the snack bar, the business was better, and Li Ming directly praised me for being smart and capable.
After making money, Li Ming's ambitions were even greater. I put the snack bar out and opened a small clothing processing factory, specializing in helping large factories.
I believe that husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken. We are all struggling towards the goal of buying a house, tired and happy. I thought with relief that everything was slowly getting better.
Two
But to my surprise, a year later, Li Ming's father suffered a stroke. Although hemiplegic, he has limited mobility and often travels to and from the hospital for treatment. Moreover, his daughter has also reached the age of kindergarten, and Li Ming wants his children to go to the city to receive a better education.
After consulting with me, he took the old man and the child from his hometown.
Their arrival not only filled the small house, but also brought us a lot of trouble from the economy and life.
The father-in-law had to be hospitalized for the first two days, and the mother-in-law could not take care of the child if she could take care of him. Li Ming's factory has just started, and he is busy all day long.
So he suggested to me simply quit my underpaid job and return to my family. Although I was reluctant to do that job, I had no other choice but to resign.
Relatives and friends all said that I was stupid, did not do a good job, went home to be a housewife, and was careful that their family used me as a free nanny.
I don't think so, since they are all family, I should stabilize the rear and let Li Ming work hard in the front.
To tell the truth, in addition to the heavy family burden, Li Ming is a good man and very good to me. So I cherish this marriage especially and reduce the burden for him, and I have an unshirkable responsibility.
Since then, I have been running to the hospital for three days and two days to help take care of the elderly. He also had to pick up his daughter every day to and from school and to interest classes. Within two months, I lost a lot of weight.
And his parents were very calm to accept my care, without a word of thanks, and gave me a feeling of inaccessibility.
His daughter's relationship with me, although a little better than at the beginning, still refused to call me "mom".
Three
I was always like an outsider in this home, and they lacked a necessary glue.
The mother-in-law is always hinting at holding her grandson. Li Ming couldn't walk when he saw someone else's cute child. I think it's time to have a child that belongs to me and Li Ming.
Therefore, I actively prepared to get pregnant, but after more than half a year, my stomach still did not see a trace of movement, and my mother-in-law could not help but sneer at me. I was in a hurry and dragged Li Ming to the hospital for examination.
In the end I found out that there was nothing wrong with me. And because he was often busy with business in recent years, he got up early and greedy, stayed up late to pull goods, smoked and drank, and suffered from weak sperm, and it was difficult to adjust for a year and a half.
After discussion, we chose to do IVF.
Doing test tubes sounds commonplace, but people who have experienced it know how terrible it is. The step of pumping eggs alone is painful.
I succeeded for the third time, and when the doctor told me that the embryo had been successfully implanted into my body, I stroked my still flat stomach and felt very happy.
Due to the instability of the fetus, for the first three months, I had to beat the yellow carcass to protect the fetus, and the ass was beaten into a sieve and hard into a wooden board, which was particularly guilty. However, I can bear it.
When his parents learned that I was pregnant, they obviously got a lot better for me.
Li Ming's factory has many orders and makes a lot of money.
In order to have a good environment for the birth of the child, I advise him to take advantage of the fact that he has some money in his hand, the house price is not too high, and buy a house early.
To be honest, I have selfish intentions. If Li Ming buys a house at this time, it belongs to the property after marriage. Even in the future, in the unlikely event that we divorce, I will be able to guarantee it.
Four
The factory wasn't that busy, so I dragged him to see the house. After reading many sets, there is finally one set that satisfies us all. But when the salesman asked him if he wanted to make a deposit, he replied: I'll think about it. He took my hand and left.
My heart was cold little by little, obviously he had money, why wouldn't he give me and my child a more comfortable environment?
He explained to me that he couldn't get his money out of steam now.
I was so angry that I didn't want to pay any more attention to him.
Since then, the atmosphere in the family has sunk a lot, and he has also used the excuse of being busy and rarely returns.
One weekend morning, his daughter didn't want to stay home and was clamoring to go out with me to buy groceries.
When she came back, the little girl was very excited, jumping three times when she walked the stairs, and before she reached the door, she began to shout "Grandma".
The mother-in-law opened the door and answered at the door, smiling and waiting for her to come up, and from time to time she had to look back at her father-in-law in the house.
I carried the basket of vegetables and followed my daughter, who knows, when my daughter stepped on the last step of the stairs, she stepped on a pool of water, and the soles of her feet slipped and rolled down in our exclamations.
I hurriedly dropped the dish in my hand and rushed up to try to support her, but instead of holding her, I was tripped by her powerful impact, and the two rolled all the way down like melons.
But when I slowly stood up, I felt a warm current rushing out of my lower body, and my mother-in-law pointed to my pants and said, "There is blood!" ”
I couldn't stand anymore and slowly collapsed against the wall.
Five
The child who stayed in my belly for three months did not save in the end. I lay on my hospital bed, in pain, and the tears did not stop.
Li Ming was also very sad, he regretted that he did not listen to me, did not buy a house earlier, let me live in this chaotic environment, otherwise, the child would not be gone.
I said coldly, now it's too late to say regret.
After being discharged from the hospital, Li Ming was still so busy, as soon as he got home, he muttered to his parents, not knowing what he was talking about.
I had no time to take care of it and immersed myself in sadness every day.
One night, Li Ming went to a foreign country with a friend who was not at home. When I went out to the bathroom, I overheard my mother-in-law talking to someone on the phone.
The old man had a little ear back, and spoke loudly, only to hear her saying loudly in the house: "I am a rural old lady, what money do you have?" My son only bought a house in the past few days, paid a down payment of 300,000 yuan, and the rest had to be loaned, where does he still have money to lend you? ”
As soon as I heard this, I couldn't help but stop and pay the down payment? Why don't you tell me when you buy a house?
I quietly went back into the room and couldn't sleep anymore.
At this time, the neighbor came and knocked on the door, saying that Li Ming's phone could not be called, and his car blocked the neighbor's car and asked me to move.
After I moved the car, I saw that the car was a bit messy, so I picked it up. I actually found a purchase contract for the house we had previously looked for, and the owner was his mother's name.
I suddenly understood.
Six
I couldn't be calmer anymore and went home with a home purchase contract.
The next night, Li Ming returned.
I took the purchase contract from the drawer and threw it in front of him. His face suddenly turned white, and he said playfully: That was bought by my mother, and it has nothing to do with me!
I sneered: Do your parents have so much money to buy a house? I quit my job and went home to help you take your daughter, waited for your parents, and gave birth to a child for you, how much I suffered, I didn't expect that you didn't treat me as your family, and you kept guarding me.
I thought of giving my whole heart, but I got such a terrible result! My tears kept flowing down.
Li Ming suddenly panicked, constantly explaining and begging for forgiveness. It is said that his first wife took all his money and was afraid of repeating the same mistakes and losing money, so she bought a house in his mother's name.
However, in my opinion, explanation is tantamount to disguise.
After leaving the baby confinement, I moved back to my mother's house. After my parents knew the ins and outs of the matter, they scolded Li Ming fiercely.
Then he began to scold me again, "When we first asked you to think twice, you insisted on getting married, and now it's okay, their family is guarding against you, and they don't even let you know when they buy a house. ”
I was sobbing on the side, I was already married if I didn't marry, what else could I do, would I have to divorce again?
The parents also had nothing to say and kept sighing.
Seven
That night, I couldn't sleep anymore. He was so wary of me, what was the point of this day? Don't divorce to keep for the New Year?
But I had already given so much, and I saw that life was getting better and better, and then I was gone, and when he married another one, people would sit back and enjoy it.
Besides, if I'm divorced, I won't necessarily find someone more suitable than Li Ming.
So, divorce is not a good solution to the problem.
When Li Ming came back, I cut off my parents and took him to my room.
He said, Zhenzhen, I have seriously thought about it these days, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I don't want to divorce. We are all remarried people, and it would be too ugly to divorce again, and it would be bad for everyone.
I made it very clear: "It is okay not to divorce, first: I want to go out to work, and I will also help you manage things in the factory, so I will ask a nanny to take care of it at home." Second: the next house must only have my name written on it. ”
Li Ming hesitated for a moment before he made up his mind to say yes.
Later, I stayed in the factory, he ran outside the business to pull orders, husband and wife cooperation, business to a higher level.
Subsequently, our relationship got better and better, and his parents were happy to see it, telling others that I was better than my former daughter-in-law.
Usually, he also takes me out to meet his friends. His friend said he had found the treasure and found a Kennaisuke. He put his arm around me and had a satisfied smile on his face.
I thought the storm had passed, who knows, one day, the police called and said that one of Li Ming's bank cards was suspected of telecommunications fraud, the victim had already reported to the police, and the police had filed a case.
Li Ming was taken aback and thought back to a friend of his who had borrowed him a bank card. He couldn't wipe his face and lent it out, and then forgot about it.
Who knew that this friend had taken it to fraud and was pulled into the sinkhole by the judicial department.
Li Ming quickly went to the bank to check, and sure enough, all the funds were frozen, and the personal credit report was also blacklisted.
Li Ming was so anxious that he confused the square inches and called the friend, but he couldn't find it again, so I immediately pulled him to report the case. Unfortunately, within a few days, our cash flow also went wrong.
Initially, it was a cloth manufacturer who said that it found Li Ming's personal credit report at the beginning, and it was a cloth manufacturer who said that there was a problem with Li Ming's personal credit and did not dare to ship it.
Then, other manufacturers do not ship, and constantly come to collect bills. Not tens of thousands of things, but hundreds of thousands of things.
Li Ming sold the house he had bought, but could not find a suitable buyer, and this side could not wait.
He was in a hurry to sleep, and his whole being was about to collapse!
Eight
When I saw him like that, I didn't feel good about myself, and I wanted to help him, but I still had some scruples.
Thinking about it, I am still willing to gamble. If I lose the bet, I can only admit it, and if the bet wins, I will get more.
I told him that I could borrow money for you, but you had to write me a letter of guarantee, and once you got through this difficult time, you had to pay it back immediately, otherwise, I wouldn't be a good person.
Li Ming listened to my words, it was like a drowning person grabbed the last rope, which did not agree.
So I took out all my savings and told him that it was borrowed from someone else, only 180,000, which was far from enough.
I went back to my mother's house and explained the situation to my parents and brothers. As soon as my relatives heard about such a situation, they were anxious, and my father said: Now that such a thing has happened, do you still want to be with him? If that's the case, it's only going to bother you.
My mother cried and said to me: Hundreds of thousands, not ordinary people can bear. You're still young, leave him and find another one! Otherwise, you'll have to suffer for the rest of your life, and mom doesn't want to see you like that.
My brother also hated that iron could not become steel, saying that I was a little clever in my usual way, but at the critical moment, I dropped the chain.
I'm good to say, let them look at my face, lend me money, and let Li Ming get through the difficulties.
They shook their heads helplessly and sighed, but in total they borrowed 150,000.
Using my personal connections again, I begged my grandfather to tell my grandmother to borrow another 80,000 from my former colleagues and girlfriends.
Li Ming himself borrowed 100,000 yuan from his relatives and friends at an interest rate higher than the bank, and only then did he barely maintain the normal operation of the business.
Fortunately, within two months, his friend had been arrested, and Li Ming's credit was restored. When we heard the news, I breathed a long sigh of relief and finally let us survive.
Li Ming hugged me tightly and said to me emotionally: Thank you, wife! You are really my lucky star, without you, I certainly can't pass this hurdle.
I knew I had won the bet.
Since that credit reporting incident, his family has changed a lot about me. In particular, when he first told him to be wary of my mother-in-law, he almost treated me as a pro-girlfriend.
Half a year later, he took me, who was two months pregnant, to our most famous local community, and said to me boldly: You pick a good one, I will pay the down payment, I will pay the mortgage, and only write your name.
I certainly wouldn't be polite with him and picked the biggest low-rise house with a terrace. A family of young and old, just right.
Women, not only to know how to pay properly, but also to know how to fight for themselves, so that men can be grateful to Dade, in order to make themselves invincible.