My mother called and asked if I wanted to go back to my mother's house during the holidays. For special reasons, my daughter and I have not returned to our mother's house for more than a year, although some want to go back, but the child is about to end this semester, or stay at home and let the child review it.
Mom was a little upset when she heard that I wasn't going back. Because she most wanted to meet my daughter, her most beloved granddaughter.
There's a reason a mother hurts her daughter. The last time my mother came over, when she was napping, my daughter saw that she didn't have a pillow and deliberately took out one of her pillows to give her. After my mother experienced this incident, everyone said that her granddaughter was sensible and good to her.
My husband came home from work to see that I was not happy, and when he learned that it was the mother-in-law who wanted to see her daughter, she could only comfort me: "In this situation, my daughter will end this semester for ten days. ”
For me, who is married far away, I am ashamed that I can't often go home to visit my parents and spend more time with them. Then again, my mother used to say that my daughter's filial piety to the elderly had something to do with my and my husband's education. Don't look at your daughter so young, I know a lot of things.
I think that being with your children from an early age is a big advantage. We can slowly guide children to learn filial piety from the small things around us. Among them, there are a few aspects that I think I can share with you my experience.
Lead by example
As the parents of our children, we are also the children of our parents, and we will pay attention to every word and deed we usually do. For example, my mother-in-law does not live with us, but every weekend, as long as I can find time, I will buy delicious dishes, delicious seasonal fruits, and take my daughter to see my mother-in-law.
When I go back to my mother-in-law's house for dinner, every time I let my daughter play with her grandfather and grandmother, so that the child and the two of them can enhance their relationship. The child, who is good to her, is very clear in his heart. Grandparents are good to her, and she will know how to filial piety to them.
Every three or five days, I would call my mother's house once and take care of my mother and father's body, so that they would not be too worried and take care of their bodies.
It is through such words and deeds that the daughter is now very sensible, respectful and caring for the elders.
Learn to share
I often hear friends around me say that children are too selfish and always don't know how to share. Children have grown up from a blank piece of paper to today, and parents have played an important role in it.
Parents must teach their children to learn to share in order not to be selfish. For example, some children will think of eating more when they see the fruits they like to eat, and even some children will hide them and eat them.
Then, parents must stand up and educate their children not to do this, and the fruits bought by parents can be shared by everyone, and cannot be occupied by one person independently.
Don't spoil children
After my daughter went to kindergarten, she refused me to dress her and shoes, insisting on doing her own thing. I thought about it for a while, since the child has to learn the ability to take care of himself, then let her, after all, the child will always have a day to grow up, sooner or later to learn to let go of the child.
As a parent, don't be too spoiled for your child, go to school, but also feed him, help him get dressed, it can be said that it is a big package, never let the child do it. If this continues for a long time, the child will feel that the parents should do these things, and it will be troublesome.
Training children to do what they can and make them not dependent on their parents should be a step towards cultivating children's excellent qualities.
Look back on life with your child
With the passage of time, people's memories will slowly disappear. The same is true for children, as children get older, he may forget things when he was a child, forget how his father and mother took care of him, and forget the good parent-child time of childhood.
I think it's a good thing to often look back on my life with my children. I often look back with my daughter about her childhood.
For example, on weekends, I would open the parent-child photo album and, according to the timeline, look for a photo of my daughter when she was 1 year old, which was held by her parents and could not walk. When my daughter saw such photos, she would often hold me, burrow her head into my arms, and play the role of a baby.
Whenever this time comes, I feel very emotional, the child from birth to now, like a blink of an eye.
Written at the end: We are the children of others, but also the parents of children, it can be said that we have played an important role in three generations. We are filial to our parents, and children who grow up in imitation will surely learn filial piety. (The picture is from the network, if there is infringement, it must be deleted)