I believe that everyone has experienced passive comparison when they are young, that is, other people's children in the mouth of parents, in fact, such education is incorrect, and even sometimes children's psychological endurance will bury hidden dangers.
From the birth of the child, parents have countless comparison names, such as: comparing who speaks first, who can walk first, etc., each stage has a different comparison name.
But this kind of behavior does not consider whether the child's psychology can be accepted, and the child who grows up in the competition is like a mountain on his head, only the child breathes a little when he wins the "game", and then he has to throw himself into the next round of competition without stopping.
There are too many things to compare in a person's life, but when it comes to life, why let the child live or grow up in the shadows?
But such a mistake is actually difficult for many parents not to make, not to say how envious of the ability of other children, but in the stage of similar age, children can achieve skills, always hope that their children do not "fall behind".
In fact, the child is a very sensitive individual, and many times even if you don't say anything, he can feel that you are comparing him with others.
I believe that it is certainly not so realistic to completely eliminate the comparison mind, but can we try other ways, such as praising children?
Every day to praise the child, even if there is no advantage to create some advantages to boast, when you praise the child more, you will believe, the child will also believe.
Children who have been praised by their parents, when faced with occasional comparisons, children will not be so glass-hearted, after all, the parents' comparison hearts will always be inadvertently launched.
Parents will always unconsciously issue some emotions, such as: Eh? You see who people are, six or seven years old skating is so good.
At this time, the child only needs to know that he is good but I am not bad, because my mother just praised me for roller skating, or I will not, but my mother said that I am very capable of doing things.
The biggest significance of family education is to let children find their own advantages, and in family education, we must encourage children to be themselves and become the best self.