The child is in the third grade of elementary school. Xiaomei chatted with colleagues.
A colleague said that he told the child, "How do people come from?" When it is said that the child has overcome all the other brothers and is only after he is united with the mother's egg, he has him, and praises: "You are the most powerful, the most excellent, so you came into this world." ”
The co-worker's children's eyes widened, full of surprise, and looked a little incredulous: "Really, I'm so good!" ”
At the same time, he replied affirmatively and with certainty: "Yes! ”
Oh, how good it is, a way of saying that increases a child's self-confidence.
Xiaomei returned home, and at the same time, she also learned to tell the child, "How did people come from?" ”
As a result, she did not see the expression of surprise in the child's eyes, but only heard the child say with some disappointment: "Then other children are also very good." ”
Xiao Mei was frightened, and she really didn't know how to answer.
Oh, and it was something that really happened to two friends around me.
Now that their children have grown up, the child who was full of surprises in his eyes has always been sunny and confident, optimistic and cheerful, and full of vitality. His mother was sometimes afraid of his pride, did not say anything less about him in her studies, and sometimes poured cold water on him. But the child is still arrogant, and the academic performance is considered to be the middle and upper reaches.
And the child who said that others were also very good, his mother has been trying to cultivate his cheerful and optimistic self-confidence, and often learns how to praise children online, and does not praise children less. The child is very sensible, study hard, the learning attitude never let the adults worry, is still with a little inferiority, obviously all the top ten in the class, but also feel that they are not good enough, sometimes his mother also sighed behind the back: "This IQ, emotional intelligence, personality, some things are born, anyway, obviously more cheerful than when I was a child, even if I have not worked hard in vain over the years!" ”
Sometimes I have to admit that although the impact of the environment on people is great, the influence of genes should not be underestimated.
I think of a line in the movie "Hello, Li Huanying" that I don't know how many people cry: "My child, as long as you are healthy and happy."
It's just that sometimes, I also wonder, if the child has no ability, no good job, will he be happy?
Therefore, the first thing is to cultivate children to have a sunny heart, and then to have a good body, and finally to have a good result, maybe it will be perfect.
Dreams still have to be perfect, otherwise, how can it be called dreams?