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There are many extremely good women who eventually marry men who don't seem to be a good match for themselves, they may not be handsome, and their careers are not successful, but with them, they feel warm and at ease.
Taiwanese actress Jia Jingwen, after experiencing a failed marriage, is willing to marry a male star Xiu Jiekai, who is not known and is much younger than herself.
What she valued was nothing more than Xiu Jiekai's sincerity.
There are also Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin, Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun, these female stars who have seen the lights and wines of the entertainment industry, have chosen men who look far away from themselves and the conditions are not matched.
It's not that these men are brilliant or likable, what they have in common is that they are genuine.
Now these couples are also living very happily, and it is naturally not bad to have a marriage with a sincere foundation.
This reminds us that sometimes if you want to pursue a woman you like, you don't necessarily need to spend a lot of money, and you don't necessarily need to be as desperate as you are to be good to her, but to understand and take the initiative in the right place.
If you can offer them the following two things, it's easy to get into their hearts because that's what they really need.
One: Take the initiative to give her your respect, let her feel that someone recognizes her from the bottom of her heart and values her
Although women now pursue equality between men and women, gender equality, but China's thousands of years of conservative thinking, it is not so overnight that can be changed.
They still face a lot of prejudice and incomprehension in society and in the family.
In the workplace, if you do not achieve a relatively critical management position before the age of 35, the chances of promotion after the age of 35 are minimal.
If you are married and have children, the company will feel that you will devote most of your time and energy to your family and children, and you will not be able to cope with the work at full capacity.
If you are unmarried and childless, the company will feel that you will soon be married and have children, and there will be at least half a year to a year of inability to work, and it is even less likely to assign important positions to you.
Most seriously, some companies simply refuse to hire unmarried women after the age of 30 or require them to sign contracts that do not become pregnant for a certain period of time.
In the family, women's efforts are also neglected. They take on the core tasks of running a family and need to take care of the daily life of the family, but such efforts are often taken for granted.
In China, women's housework in the family has not been able to get a proper assessment.
Some time ago, there was a case in Guangdong, a full-time mother, three years of housework compensation is 10,000 yuan, which means that the efforts she made, in the legal recognition, are only worth less than 300 yuan per month.
In the face of such prejudice and pressure, what a woman needs most is not your valuable gift, not your booing and warming, but your recognition of her, the recognition of her ability, and the recognition of her giving.
If you can recognize a woman's value from the bottom of your heart, understand her hard work, and empathize with the pressure she suffers, then you will soon be able to enter this woman's heart.
Because she can feel your respect from the heart, it is a feeling of being valued. And to be valued, in other words, to be loved, once they feel it, they naturally look at you differently.
Two: Take the initiative to give her your understanding, let her feel that someone understands her, no longer isolated and helpless
This year, a middle-aged woman brushed the screen.
The woman's name was Su Min, 56 years old, from Zhengzhou. When her peers were all teaching their husbands and children, she made a deviant choice, leaving her family behind and driving herself out on her own.
It turned out that Su Min and her husband's relationship had been bad, and in her own words, the two people were like living in two worlds. Moreover, the husband is also particularly calculating in the economy, and he will be more generous to her and be generous to himself.
At first, Su Min thought about patience, wanted to wait for the children to finish the college entrance examination, and then divorce her husband, but she did not expect that this patience would be decades.
The children went to college, graduated from college, got jobs, started their own families, and had their own children. Su Min started helping her children with her children again.
Su Min really couldn't bear it, she didn't know when such a day would be a head, she had had enough of the life of being a nanny for her family, and finally, she took the first step of her "shocking world".
She drove a small polo all the way through Kunming, Lijiang, dali, and saw all the scenery she had not seen before. She opened her heart and completely got rid of her husband.
In fact, Su Min and her husband do not have any big contradictions that cannot be solved, and all that is wrong is encouragement and recognition.
If Su Min had first proposed to her husband that she was going to travel by car, her husband's attitude was to encourage her rather than ridicule her whimsy, I think now they will not be strangers and drift away.
When a woman makes a decision and asks for your opinion, if you can give her encouragement and help her perfect the plan, rather than being completely inappropriate or even dismissive, then the woman's impression of you will definitely be greatly improved.
If you want to develop further with her, it will be easy.
After all, what women really want is to understand, to understand, to support, not to misunderstand, deny and suppress.
The love women want is simple, they don't need much money, they don't need how good you are to them, what they really need is understanding, understanding, respect and understanding.
If you can do that, it's only a matter of time before it gets into their hearts.
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