There is such a post on the Internet: "Bao Ma, how long can you use 200 yuan?" ”
Many people below answer.
Someone said: "Coordinates in Changsha, Hunan, with 2 children, every day pork, beef, mutton are exchanged, 200 can be enough for 3 people to spend a week." ”
In the face of someone's questioning, she smiled: "After the meat is discounted by 12 or 14 pounds, is one pound not enough to eat four meals?" Cut out a small piece of stir-fried side dishes on the line. ”
No one raises the bar anymore, and Bao Ma's heartache understands that she can not eat it herself, as long as she lets the children eat well.
There are also people who are more sadistic, saying that 200 yuan can spend half a month, or even longer.
It's hard to imagine, but it's also a reality.
Full-time moms are a special status, they have no income, but they worry about the life of a family, in order to reduce the opportunity to reach out, they can save money.
But even so, it is easy to cause the husband to question: "Give you so much money, where did you spend it?" ”
What would you do in the face of such doubts?
The husband earns 10,000 a month and questions the wife's two hearts
Gaili, who lives in Xuchang, encountered such a problem.
Jie Li is a bao mom, since having a daughter, she has been at home full-time with her baby, and her husband's work is also solid, with a monthly income ranging from thousands to tens of thousands.
Now that her daughter is older, her husband thinks that the family has at least 7 figures of savings, that is, one million, but Gaili tells him that the family has almost no savings, which makes it difficult for her husband to accept.
The husband thinks that his wife must have two hearts, and must take the money to subsidize the mother's family, otherwise, he earns ten thousand yuan a month, how can he have no savings.
And the demolition of the old house, there is a subsidy of 48200 yuan, this money he did not take a penny, all to his wife, the more he thought about it, the more angry he became, he found a mediator, trying to find out where his wife spent all the money.
But Jie Li told everyone that it was really not herself who spent money indiscriminately, and she had a ledger, which carefully recorded every call cost, which was also a living expense, and there was no special expense, and even cosmetics and clothes were not bought.
What the husband does not understand is that he transfers about 3,000 to his wife every month, in addition to giving cash, where does all this money go?
Under the inquiry, the wife revealed that the husband's income does have tens of thousands, but not all to himself, only about 3,000 to himself, these money in addition to life, but also to the daughter living expenses, plus relatives between the personal expenses, can not save money at all.
As for the old house demolition subsidy of more than 40,000, all used in the house decoration, are recorded, check the post, and indeed as Jiali said, just when the staff was confused, the daughter said a word.
My daughter said: "My father likes to shop online the most, often buys things from home, and he spends a lot of money." ”
A word to wake up the dreamer, everyone let the man open the mobile phone, found that he spent 125505 yuan shopping in 2020, 85061 yuan spent shopping in 2021, it turned out that he was the person who spent the most money in the family.
The wife cried, she remembered the boxes of wine and tea leaves at home, and the pots that could not be used, and felt very wronged, she was thrifty and thrifty, but she did not get a little respect.
Her experience also allows us to see the heartache of a full-time housewife.
Asking for 100 yuan for living expenses, the wife humbly asked for help
Gaili is not alone in life, there is a woman on the Internet, it is more difficult than her.
The woman is a full-time mother, the child is only a few months, she went to the supermarket one day, bought some vegetables, felt that the money was not enough, called her husband to transfer 100 yuan to herself.
The husband did not answer the phone, but asked: "What kind of food do you need 100 yuan to buy?" The other day was not given you 50 dollars to buy groceries. ”
Across the screen, the fire is rising, the current price of the dish, 50 yuan to go to the supermarket is gone, how much can be left in a few days? I really don't know how expensive chai rice is.
The woman's temper was good, and she patiently explained: "Bought some vegetables and meat." And also took a picture to show my husband.
Seeing is believing, the shopping cart is full of items needed in life, and it is time to give money.
Who knew that her husband's attitude was not ordinary, he broke the casserole and asked in the end: "No money to buy meat?" Still buy milk to drink? ”
I really don't know what he thinks, there are old people and children at home, what's wrong with buying some meat?
My wife also explained: "My mother said that she wanted to eat ribs, so I bought some, and the milk she bought was also our mother's sleep recently." ”
The starting point is for the mother-in-law, where to find such a good daughter-in-law, the husband who has a little emotional intelligence will quickly transfer the money, and then say "wife, hard work."
The man's actions really made me angry, he circled two things from the picture, and then asked: "These snacks are also my mother's going to eat?" ”
To tell the truth, the pattern is really small, no matter who eats snacks, is it not worthy of a busy day to reward yourself?
The wife said weakly: "I haven't eaten for a long time, so I will buy a little snack." ”
The husband immediately became angry: "Do you think my money came from the wind or did you pick it up?" ”
The other woman may have turned away long ago, but the woman still tried to communicate, she took out the snack, and then asked her husband to turn 50 for herself.
It is such a retreat, the husband still ignores it, so that the wife who is queuing up to check out is stared at by everyone, and this embarrassment overflows off the screen.
The wife's experience reveals the sad side of the full-time mother.
Even if you are also giving for your family, it is really difficult to have a good hand.
Behind the tears of his wife is forbearance and responsibility
There are always people who think that the life of a full-time mom is very comfortable and does not need to bear the pressure of 996 work.
But don't forget, they work 007, 365 days a year without rest, 24 hours a day.
Many people are reluctant to be full-time mothers, not because they don't like children, but because they can't stand the superiority of their husbands controlling money, as if he gives you living expenses and has the right to be superior.
Back home, your husband asks you to serve him to eat and live, and you are not at ease with spending money, check the whereabouts of the money one by one, you can't remember a little, he will question: "Did you spend the money on your mother's house?" ”
After a long time, your life will be very depressed, you can't see what you pay, and you will always be questioned.
If you feel unrealistic, look at the TV series "Little Shede", Nan Jianlong takes a magnifying glass to look at the ledger, you will understand.
Men are right to expect their wives to be diligent and frugal, but the premise is trust, if you don't even have basic trust, how can the relationship between husband and wife be maintained?
Remember the "escaped" Su Min?
Su Min just can't stand her husband's slamming, when she was a full-time mother, her husband asked her to keep a record of her living expenses every month, and if there was a match, she had to ask for half a day, which made her feel very depressed.
In order to live like this, Su Min wants to be a waiter and also has an income, so that she can afford the living expenses AA system without looking at her husband's face.
After taking care of her daughter's child in kindergarten, Su Min chose to run away from home, saying that she wanted to take a vacation to her life and did not want to make her emotions too depressed.
After reading the experience of these full-time mothers, I understood Su Min, she didn't want much, just to be respected and understood, but there was no way to get it in her husband.
I also hope that men can understand their wives a little more, husband and wife work together, in order to break the gold, you have more trust in your wife, will let the other party have more sense of security that is respected.
A woman can work hard and complain about her children, but don't forget that the reason why she is willing to give up her career and go home is because she has a sense of responsibility and because of her love for her husband and children.
Give a thumbs up and go, and may every wife be treated kindly.