The American psychologist William James said: "Sow an action, harvest a habit; sow a habit, harvest a character; sow a character, harvest a destiny." ”
The power of habit is extremely powerful, sending a person to heaven or dragging a person to hell.
Bad habits drive children to deviate from the right path, and good habits can push children forward on the road of life.
The ancients said, "Sex is close, habit is far away." ”
People's initial temperaments are similar, but in the process of growing up, affected by the living environment, people's habits have differences.
As the saying goes, "It takes a quarter of an hour for good to be good, and a year for good to be good." ”
The good habit of reading books will disappear in an instant, and then become infected with the habit of playing games on the Internet; and the bad habit of smoking often takes a long time to get rid of.
Therefore, only good habits cultivated from an early age can benefit children for life.
To educate children, start by cultivating good habits in children.
01. Do your own thing
In a person's life, many habits are formed from early childhood.
The last emperor Puyi, when he was young, it was natural that the food came to open his mouth, the clothes came to stretch out, the travel was accompanied by someone to lead the way, and when he became a civilian, he was much worse in terms of self-care in life, the clothes were worn backwards, and the buttons were confused is a common thing, once sweeping the street, sweeping and sweeping got lost, can't go back.
People always have to take care of themselves. Life, always have to experience it yourself, is life.
In this way, when one day parents should let go, they will not be too worried, and the children will not be full of fear.
02. Everything is sooner rather than later
Many adults have "procrastination" and do things in a hurry until the last minute, which is a lack of "early" habits.
Cultivating children to "do everything sooner than later" can have plenty of time to deal with possible emergencies, so as to develop a calm attitude.
For example, be sure to let your child finish homework before playing.
03. Participate in housework and cultivate a sense of responsibility
Don't always think that your child is still young and can't do anything.
Let the child do some housework as much as he can, mainly to cultivate the child's sense of family responsibility, so that he understands that he is a member of the family and has the obligation to help the family share some things.
The habit of doing housework in a child is also very beneficial for him to start a new family as an adult. Women go up to the halls and down to the kitchen; men can cook good dishes, which contribute to family harmony.
04. Develop a reading habit
Be sure to let your child read a lot, reading is really important!
There is no need to limit the child to read classic masterpieces, first start with the child's interest, as long as the child develops the habit of reading, can calm down and read the book.
Parents' words and deeds are very important, and they should also like to read and often accompany their children to read.
The benefits of reading a lot are: accumulating vocabulary, enhancing language sense, improving writing ability, expanding knowledge, and improving oral expression ability.
A well-read, well-informed child with endless potential.
05. Learn to choose, know how to make trade-offs
We all understand that life has to be given up, but when we really have to give up, especially when we give up our favorite people and things, we will fall into deep pain.
Cultivating a child's ability to choose from an early age, willing to be conscious, is also to cultivate a habit of thinking, which will allow him to have his own clear goals when faced with major choices in later life.
The sooner someone has a goal of their own, the greater the chance of success.
06. Live a regular life
Regular life is one of the factors of good health.
Morning and dusk are reversed, the meal time is not fixed, and if you want to play, you can play all night, which is also a manifestation of lack of self-control.
Help children develop regular living habits, such as getting up at what time of the day, eating breakfast at what time, doing homework at what time, reading at what time, and going to bed at what time.
Children who grow up in a regular life will spontaneously make plans for everything they do, and they are more endurance.
07. Learn to listen and be helpful
Parents must first be patient to listen to their children. Listening to your child is the greatest respect for your child.
Parents who listen to their children should also tell their children to listen patiently to others and understand others.
Let children learn to respect the opinions of others, so that children know how to help others.
Children who know how to listen to others and are helpful will have a high popularity and more connections in interpersonal communication when they grow up.
08. No mistake, if there is a mistake, it will be changed
It doesn't matter if the child makes a mistake, but repeat mistakes are not forgivable.
"Not two times", the same mistake is not made a second time, which is that adults are also difficult to do, so the key to requiring children to make mistakes must be changed is to cultivate children's habits of self-examination, often reflect on their own words and deeds.
09. Dare to try, dare to doubt
There is no stable path to success in the world, dynamic life always has a lot of randomness, and various factors are often unpredictable and elusive.
Therefore, if you want to succeed, you must have the courage to dare to try. In uncertain environments, the spirit of adventure is the rarest resource.
Encouraging children to try and also encouraging children to doubt is to cultivate children's spirit of courage and confidence, courage to take responsibility, and independent thinking.
10. Control your emotions
Don't think that children are small, if you want to cry, you should cry, if you want to laugh, you should laugh, if you want to lose your temper, you will lose your temper, in fact, controlling your emotions is a lifelong thing.
Children's emotions should have room for catharsis, and they must also have the habit of regulating and controlling.
For example, if the child encounters a problem and is irritable, tell the child that it is useless to encounter difficulties, irritability, and tantrums, it is better to do something else easy and small things first, let the heart calm down, and then turn back to solve the problem.
If your child has not yet developed these good habits, then, from now on, "force" the child to develop these 10 good habits, and it is difficult for the child to be excellent!
Because excellence is a habit!