It is said that there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a hundred days, with the development of society and the transformation of people's hearts, I think that the current society is more and more becoming a filial piety in front of interests, and many similar things have happened around the author recently, talk about one of them.
Because of the needs of urban development, the self-built houses in our town have been demolished one after another, and almost every family can get one or two houses and hundreds of thousands of surpluses, and some people who do not want a house as long as they have money are getting more than 1 million or more. There is a couple in their 60s whose family is demolished, they want two sets of demolition houses to give their son a set, they keep a set and then there are 300,000 left in their hands, his son is not happy, let the old couple take out the 300,000 in hand and divide it into half to them, the old couple said they want to take part of the money to decorate, the rest of the money left for them to retire, after all, they are also old, there is no job and no pension, can only rely on the usual to do some odd jobs to make a little money, the son is not happy, pointing to the mother's head to let her hand over the bank card, the mother scolded him for being unfilial, He spent a lifetime of savings to marry him and have children, he has everything, but also worry about this little pension money in his parents' hands, but now for his son money is greater than everything, listening to the chattering accusations, his son is very irritable, a push down his mother, is a few feet, their noise attracted neighbors, see the mad dog like the son, everyone is persuaded to be dissuaded, and finally do not know who helped to report the police, this matter is over, how to deal with the follow-up I do not know, I do not know, But this son's behavior made me sick for a long time.
Because I am a mother, I am quite touched to see this kind of filial piety, as a mother, we love our children so much, whether it is sons or daughters, we do our best to raise them, only hope that they can live well in the future, and do not hold a mentality of wanting them to be filial piety in the future, I think most parents' love is selfless. So what is it that makes our children who love us wholeheartedly grow up to be like this?
I think there are two reasons for this.
First, parents are too doting on their children, infinite satisfaction of the child's requirements, even if the child does wrong, he is reluctant to correct it with appropriate means, like this long-term unilateral payment, and it is indiscriminate pampering, the child's grateful heart is completely extinguished, he feels that everything the parents do for them is deserved, he feels that what he does is right, he feels that his parents one day do not for themselves, not on their side is wrong, unforgivable!
Second, parents are too overly preoccupied and ignore their children's thoughts. Just like some parents come out and complain, I work hard around my children, and I don't go to work to take care of my children wholeheartedly, but why don't my children want to pay attention to me? If the child wants to communicate with you, you love to answer him, for a long time, he will not bother to pay attention to you, and when you think of communicating with him, he has already blocked you from the door of the heart. Over time, you don't understand the child, the choices made by the child you can't understand, and then you will feel that what you choose is for the good of the child, tough and natural, from then on, before you know it, the child will gradually drift away from you, and even hate you, want to stay away from you!
Everything has a cause, parents must also consider whether they are doing it reasonably when complaining about their children, the so-called dragon born dragon phoenix phoenix, mouse sons will punch holes, children are the epitome of parents, raising children is not difficult, but it is not easy to raise a good child, may the world really love the parents of children can have filial piety children!
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