Different families have different parent-child relationships, and some children are very clingy to their parents, talking to their parents about everything, which makes people envious. However, some children are alone, and if there is something in their hearts and do not say it to their parents, the parents will be very anxious. Today we will talk about how to cultivate and manage the parent-child relationship.
Respect and equality are the first keys to opening a child's heart
Although no matter how old the child is, it will always be their child in the eyes of the parents, but this does not mean that everything about the child must be controlled by the parents. With the development of society, the basic information flow of children is now much larger than before, so it is easier to precocious. In the child's mind, after establishing a complete value of right and wrong, he will treat himself as an adult. However, we blindly oppress our children as parents, which naturally makes children feel unequal, so when they need to talk to friends, they naturally do not treat their parents as friends of the same age. Therefore, when encountering major events and small things in the family, we may wish to seek the opinions of the children, discuss the problems on an equal footing, and let the children be respected. Children will feel more willing to communicate together, and when they encounter something in their hearts, they will also open their hearts to their parents like friends. When you enter the child's inner world, you can better understand the child's thoughts.
Lead by example and be the best role model.
The child's learning and imitation ability is very strong, the parent relationship is not good in the family, after the child grows up, there is a high probability that he will become a lonely person, not good at communicating with people, and refusing to be thousands of miles away. When facing parents, the relationship is always not very harmonious, and it is possible that one of the parents is closer. This is because the parents do not set a good example, so that children have fear of this aspect of interpersonal relationships. To know that between husband and wife, it is inevitable that there will be a mouth, but when arguing, please stay away from the child's visual and auditory range, or after the dispute is over, talk to the child, tell him that the quarrel between adults is just impulsive, parents still love each other, both love the child. In this way, children will not be afraid to build relationships with others, and the same is true for parents.
Express the love of parents for their children and don't be shy about saying it
In foreign countries, every day when children get up early and part with their parents, a sentence of "I love you" is always on the lips, which is an expression of love. But in China, conservative thinking continues. Don't say that for children, even between husband and wife, I will not say that I love you often, we believe that action represents everything. For adults, adults have mature values, autonomy, and love for action can be understood and accepted, while children are not, they do not take the breakfast that their parents prepare hard every morning as a manifestation of love, in the eyes of children, they can understand: people want to eat - I also want to eat - I can not cook - so parents do to eat for me - I will not starve. Today's children understand that "love" is a beautiful performance, but they cannot find them in every concern of their parents for their children. So we might as well say to our children every day when we send our children to school or go to work ourselves, "Love you, baby." Or as one parent, tell your child about what the other party has done to him. Fathers can tell their children that the mother, who works hard to prepare breakfast every day, loves him. Mothers can tell children that dads who work and earn money to support the family love both of us. The child knows what love and giving is, and he will also use love to treat his parents.
The parent-child relationship is like a chain, connecting parents and children, and only when the chain is tight can parents and children be more complete. Therefore, we should not be ashamed to express our love for our children, but should get along with our children as equals, and be a good teacher and close friend of our children's lives. Let the child open his heart, so that the family will be happy and happy.
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