Wen/Lan Mama on parenting
Since the implementation of double reduction education, extending the after-school time in school not only reduces the time burden of working families to pick up and drop off children, but also allows children to get a certain improvement in the efficiency of learning, it is obvious that the efficiency of writing homework with everyone in school is much higher than the supervision and urging after returning home.
However, some parents are worried that their children's academic performance will be affected by more flexible time after the double reduction education, especially working-class parents have to go to work in the morning, and they have to be busy with housework and chores after work in the evening, so that in a more urgent time, many parents will have a more tired and tired mental illusion.
In fact, good education is not in "whether there is time", but in "whether there is quality", the child after school three hours seems to rush by, in fact, there is a regular plan to act for parent-child companionship, and family education are very helpful, and the long road of educating children has never had the word "simple", understand the "frost into manna" is also to educate children should have the mentality and perseverance.
So, in the face of the learning ability improvement under the double reduction education, how should parents "turn frost into manna"? Lan Mama believes that she will do the following three things in the 3 hours after catching the child and believe that the child is not bad:
Hour 1: 18:00-19:00
Recommendation: Dinner interaction
18:00-19:00 This natural stage is the first free activity time after the child returns home from school, if the parents do not guide this time period, the child will easily fall into watching TV, playing mobile phones or playing games and other sluggish self-amusement, want to guide the child to develop good learning ability, in fact, the guidance of parents and the shaping of the environment is essential, and those we see excellent students, are also over the basis of self-motivation to continuously improve, work hard and overcome.
Speaking of the cultivation of children's learning ability, many parents are blindly limited to reading, or learning, in fact, the lack of autonomy of labor is easy to be affected by limitations in the ability to exert, many "only read the sages, two ears do not hear things outside the window" children, even if the learning ability is good, will eventually be eliminated because of the lack of self-care ability, the 17-year-old was escorted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and three years later because of poor self-care ability was withdrawn from school "prodigy" Wei Yongkang sounded the alarm bell for countless parents.
Therefore, good learning ability to build on the ability to bear hardships and stand hard work in terms of self-care ability, usually children after school 18:00-19:00 this hour through dinner interaction to cultivate children's housework ability, the child's endurance, labor, and self-care ability have a good touch, and participatory dinner interaction for the child itself is also a very meaningful life experience, are said "do-it-yourself things are the most fragrant", in the face of dinner we why not try to let the children choose it?
Among them, dinner interactions include the following:
Before meals
Food selection
Picking vegetables
cleaning
Hand over the ingredients
After a meal
Put away the dishes and chopsticks
Wipe the table
Sweeping
Set up a dining chair
Hour 2: 19:00-20:00
Recommendation: Take a break for a walk
After the double reduction education, children have more "optional space" at home, in order to better improve the child's learning ability, some parents will attach some homework to their children, hoping to improve their children's learning ability and knowledge mastery by constantly brushing questions, in fact, the child's basic knowledge is important, but it is more important to understand their own ability, and many children are not learning ability is worse than others, nor is it not hard enough, but it is just a lack of "self-examination" ability in the learning process.
How important is the "self-test" ability? It can constrain a person's consciousness, behavior including quality, if our self-inspection awareness is weak, it is easy to make mistakes, which is why the company should formulate a penalty constraint mechanism for employees, it is precisely because of the self-inspection awareness that employees can prevent errors and better improve the quality of work.
In fact, the child's learning is the same, cultivating the child's self-examination ability is more important than constantly brushing the questions, if you do not fully understand yourself, how to learn from each other? Therefore, we pay attention to the child's learning ability at the same time to pay attention to the child's psychological state, of which the leisure walk after the meal is the relaxation period of the improvement of parent-child relationship, after dinner to take the child to the park, the community for a walk, not only can promote post-meal digestion, parents can also use some references to enhance the child's self-examination awareness.
For example: longboard scooters
Talk about interests
"Why do you like to play longboard scooters?"
Talk about goals
"What is your ultimate goal in playing longboard scooters, hobbies, or to become a qualified dancer?"
Talk about the process
"Just that action, if you pay attention to it, believe that this mistake will not happen to you"
Talk about failure
"The place of failure is precisely the opportunity for you to break through yourself, and learning is the same, dare to face it, and believe that you can definitely succeed!"
Hour 3: 20:00-21:00
Recommended: Bedtime interaction
Speaking of parent-child interaction with children, when children and parents are out early and return late, the interaction that can feel each other's temperature at close range is concentrated in the golden moment of one hour before going to bed, at this time, if parents can seize 1 hour before going to bed to interact and communicate with their children, their growth, learning and education have substantial significance.
Among them, bedtime interaction includes the following categories:
Storytelling
Vivid and interesting stories, can improve children's innovation, expression and thinking ability, many parents complain that children and their own interaction frequency is not enough, in fact, it is just the lack of common language between us and children, if parents can create some common language, for children, parent-child relationship, including education have a good advanced effect, which is rich and interesting stories are common language creation for all ages.
If you interact with your child through storytelling before going to bed, parents can start from simple paintings and folk tales, and open the child's vision and state of mind from an easy-to-understand perspective, you will find that the common language between us and the child will become more and more active, and it should be noted that the usual and children do not follow the script when telling stories, and look at the pictures through interesting sounds, which is of great significance to the child's language expression, imagination and thinking creation.
Say today
Some people say that "the reason why you don't work hard enough is because you don't realize your shortcomings", in fact, it is quite reasonable to carefully review this sentence, many times what we lack is not a positive self-motivation, but not deep enough to recognize their own problems, especially the primary and secondary school students who are receiving compulsory education, the knowledge learned every day needs to be warm and new to better consolidate the foundation.
On the importance of consolidating the foundation, discussing today's summary ability is the best way to test a person's learning mentality, usually before going to bed with the child to chat more about "what interesting things happened today", but also to guide the child to strengthen their memory, interest and creativity, if the child is mediocre, but hard, may wish to talk to the child before going to bed today, through the improvement of the ability to consolidate the basic strength.
Talk about tomorrow
Cultivate children's good learning ability, in addition to housework ability, self-examination ability, creative ability and summary ability, planning ability is also a good self-motivated drive, before going to bed and children can talk about things can not miss the "talk about tomorrow" plan arrangement, many children to the primary school, junior high school age is rarely bed, it is because of the sense of discipline that time to abide by will have a certain degree of stress at the spiritual level, and the cultivation of children's "talk about tomorrow" planning ability is also to enhance the next day's action efficiency.
Talking to children about tomorrow we can start from two aspects: interests, goals, etc.:
Such as interests:
"What are you going to do tomorrow after school"
"Would you like to drink a cup of hot milk before going to school tomorrow?"
"We're going to get up tomorrow at what time"
"What do you want to eat for breakfast and lunch tomorrow?"
target:
"Your language recitation doesn't seem to be familiar enough, do you want to get up early tomorrow to review it?"
"I heard that you have studied very hard recently, it seems that the morning reading effect is good, and I will refuel tomorrow."
"The class teacher explained that there is a language test tomorrow, when are you going to review your notes?"
"Your class notes are becoming clearer and easier to understand, and it would be better if you took them out every morning to see if they worked out!"
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