Author| Inspector (1971 words, about 4 minutes to read)
Every newborn child is like a clean and pure white paper.
At that time, they did not have their own independent ideas, but needed to form a unique personality step by step in the education of the day after tomorrow.
As the parents of the first enlightenment teacher, the influence on their children is extremely important, parents and children in the same environment, with them day and night, the impact on them, even continues to their entire life.
Generally speaking, after the age of 3, young children will enter kindergarten to learn, when they come into contact with other people, see the every move of others, and are likely to blindly imitate due to lack of principles. If the parents do not correct in time, or are not willing to educate in time, then the child is likely to form some bad habits.
As the saying goes, "3 years old to see big, 6 years old to see old", children before the age of 6, is the golden time for parents to enlighten them.
If the child before the age of 6 has these "actions", the parents should manage it, and they must "make a cruel hand" to correct it, and the heartache will be more pitted.
★ "Spoofing"
If children dare to threaten their parents, parents must not be soft-hearted
Crying is the nature of children and a means for them to express their emotions.
If they have a very strong need for something, but the parents do not meet them in time, they will use crying to threaten the parents and fulfill their wishes.
Perhaps many parents will choose to compromise and meet their children's requirements, but this compromise for a long time will make the child think that it is precisely because of their own crying that they have achieved their goal, and they do not understand that this is the love of parents for themselves. Therefore, the compromise of parents is not the correct education of children, if the child has this behavior, parents must not be soft-hearted.
The first time such behavior occurs, it is necessary to educate them in a timely manner.
● First of all, oral education can be used, ask them why they bought this thing, if it is just a simple like and there are many similar toys at home, then parents should tell their children why they do not buy it.
If this oral education has no obvious effect, the child will become more and more threatening to cry, then the parents can not be soft-hearted, let the child know that the parents are principled, not everything will be compromised, the necessary strict education, in order to let the child have some restraint.
Of course, the way of being too violent is not the education we advocate, and making children obedient is not a solution that can be solved by violence, and the "lesson" should also be divided into weight and occasion.
If the child is outside and there is a splashing and rolling, then the parents can adopt the measure of calmly watching from the side, let the child "play a one-man show", when they see that the parents do not respond, and their purpose can not be achieved, the child will understand the principles of the parents.
★ "Lying casually"
Learning to lie is a very serious thing, and parents can't easily tolerate it once they find out
Lying is a means of protecting oneself for children.
They are afraid that their parents will scold them and that they will be deprived of their rights, so they learn to lie to their parents.
But lying is not a good behavior, their lies are likely to have very serious consequences, once they have developed the habit of lying from an early age, then they will treat lying as an instinct. If nothing is true, when they grow up, they are likely to become unreliable people or even "liars" in the eyes of others, and they will not benefit themselves while hurting others.
Therefore, once parents find out about such behavior of their children, they must use "thunder" means to curb their thoughts.
In fact, children's lies are easy to see through, if parents turn a blind eye and follow their children, then it is a kind of shielding and aiding abuse of their lies, which will only make them develop worse habits.
And if it is a white lie, parents should also teach them in time, the purpose of the white lie itself is not wrong, but we can not praise them because it is a white lie. There is no good or bad in a lie, and if they are not taught how to distinguish between their nature, they will be lost in the lie, and gradually they will learn to lie about everything.
★ "No size, no rules"
Rules and courtesy are essential qualities for a small child
If a child does not understand the rules and manners at a very young age, then they will not make any great achievements in their lives.
There is a certain degree of doing any thing, and once you exceed this degree, it may cause very terrible consequences. And rules and courtesy are the norms and standards by which we prevent ourselves from doing something very terrible.
If a child does not follow such norms and standards, and does not pay attention to the rules, then they will lose their bottom line.
This kind of unscrupulous arrogance is likely to cause very great harm, and this kind of behavior is also a double-edged sword, harming others and harming oneself at the same time.
● From the age of 2, children should be told how to control their emotions
What you want to eat well, what you want your parents to do, say slowly. And in public places, we must abide by the corresponding rules, and we cannot be treated specially because the children are small.
Once the child has no sense of rules, then when he grows up, he will develop a solipsistic personality, so that when a child enters the society, it is easy to suffer losses and bumps, and the road of life will be more bumpy.
While the children are small, education is still too late, the rules are set from an early age, and the habit is raised from an early age.
When we carefully care for the small saplings to thrive, we are actually laying more shade for our future lives. Children understand the rules, pragmatic and serious, then their future life will be better.
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When children are 3 to 6 years old, it is the golden time of their education, if parents find that their children have the above behaviors, they must strictly stop it. And blind indulgence will only add fuel to the fire, allowing them to go further and further down the wrong path.
Rules and courtesy is a way for them to carry forward their talents, polite treatment is the embodiment of nurturing morality, only by doing a good job of education, teaching them how to behave and how to do things, they will grow healthier, but also true love for them.
Parents, does your child have the above behaviors?
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