How to take children in the future also has legal provisions?

Principal Li Xigui of Beijing No. 11 Middle School once said, "Children will never become what you expect, they will only become what you look like!" ”

And there are too few parents who really understand this sentence.

If parents also need to study and take exams, I think this sentence will definitely be printed on the first page of the textbook.

On January 1, 2022, the Family Education Promotion Law will be officially implemented, which means that Chinese families have officially entered the era of bringing babies according to law.

That is to say, the era of parents who threw up their hands and took care of the cabinet has passed, and they have clear responsibilities and obligations when they become parents in the future.

Among them, there are two aspects of educational responsibility, one is to help children adapt to school, and the other is to help children learn to live and become people who have the ability, ideas, and can create happiness for themselves.

The former parents are more serious, but most of them pay attention to academic performance, rather than a person with a comprehensive and personality in the future.

Most parents of the latter have ignored it, and even appeared that the mother accompanied her to the university, found that the child could not even cook a noodle, and finally almost starved to death.

And parents have two big misunderstandings when fulfilling their responsibilities, one is habitual outsourcing, or leaving professional things to professional people.

But can educating children really outsource?

Is it only the teacher's business to let children grow up? Is it a social thing? Is it a matter of education and training?

In the final analysis, it is a family's own business, and no amount of outsourcing can replace companionship, and companionship is the most beautiful and crucial part of a family relationship.

Another misunderstanding is to use the experience gained in the process of growing up to bring children how they grow up, and children can also feel that what they think is not good, and it is not good for children.

The most important of these are two things, that is, the attitude of our parents to us in that era, the era we grew up with is completely different from today's children, they are the generation that grew up on mobile phones, on the Internet, and in games.

Just as anime and martial arts were an integral part of our childhood, mobile phones, games, and the web were also an integral part of them.

When I was a child, my parents were afraid that watching too much TV would affect our studies, but did we have an impact?

Now the children are the same, their time consumption is the first place is still learning.

After sorting out the misunderstanding, what should we do?

Teacher Shen Zuyun also gave a very good family education program, which is divided into three steps:

The first step is very critical, that is, family relations, pedagogy is first of all relationship science, many learning problems, child growth problems, psychological problems are essentially relationship problems in the family.

There is a parent-child relationship, and the child is not a personal object, but a growing guest who comes into this world to accompany you.

We need to perform at all times, criticize regularly, and under normal circumstances most of the behavior of each child is good, and bad behavior is a minority, unless you water his bad.

Children are not encouraged because they are good, but because they are encouraged to be good.

The second step is the relationship between parents, and many problems in general children can be found in both husband and wife.

After all, words and deeds are far less than teaching by example, who you are determines who the child is, he imitates you all the time, and is always affected by the intimate relationship between you.

The third step is the relationship between parents and schools, our Chinese educational resources are very unbalanced, so the differences between teachers are certainly very large, but whether the teacher is good or not is not that you can make the other party good, that is an objective fact that cannot be changed for the time being.

At this time, doing a good job in the relationship between you and the teacher determines the relationship between the teacher and the student, and also determines the growth of the child.

For the teacher, also praise more, lubricate the relationship.

After doing a good job of the relationship foundation, the second step is to make family education special, to cooperate with the school, and to do what the school can't do.

In this way, families and schools can complement each other to guide the growth of children's comprehensive abilities and become a well-rounded person in the future.

What are the things that schools can't do?

Cultivating children's habits is one, this can not be handed over to the teacher, must be followed up by parents all the time.

Creating a rich life experience for children is also one, each family has their own unique place, to explore and experience it.

Another is to cultivate children's social emotional abilities, including self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and interpersonal skills.

Behind these is a person's sense of cooperation, perseverance, empathy, and ability to resist pressure, which is the comprehensive wisdom of future children to survive in this society.

How to cultivate it?

Quite simply, treat the family as a society, use more scale and use less rights.

Through the process of constantly reaching consensus, guarding the rules, and breaking through within the rules, we can increase our social-emotional abilities.

This is actually very easy to understand, there is certainty within the rules, there will be a sense of participation, but also to exercise the child's contract spirit, the spirit of innovation.

The last one, to have concentration, or to have the strategic determination of family education, that is, you must know your attitude towards your children, will not be the same as the clouds, what do people do, the training class does not have your education, the college entrance examination policy has changed your anxiety.

Don't be anxious, the family has determination, the child is safe, the family has a goal, and the child grows up to be healthy.

With the persistence of long-termism, the child can grow silently in your persistence, and finally grow into his own appearance, the look that you did not expect, but found that it is far beyond your expectations.