There is a saying on the Internet that says:
You think that the journey of youth is the same end, who knows its name after the indefinite.
In this life, we will meet many people, but meeting is an accident, parting is the norm, most people can only accompany you on a journey.
Just like the line in "The Old Man of Mountains and Rivers": Everyone can only accompany you for a while, and sooner or later they will be separated.
Sometimes, whether it is love or friendship, there should not be too much greed, nor too much obsession, look down on it, cherish the fate, and follow the fate.
Gu Shiyun: White rabbit, east and west, clothes are not as good as new, people are not as good as old.
In this world, some people like the new, and some people miss the old. Liking the new or remembering the old is the common sentiment of people, but those who remember the old are easily injured.
People who miss the old have a kind of obsession in their hearts, they can't understand it, they can't put it down, they like to take the rest of their lives, to wait for a sentence to be unharmed.
As everyone knows, people's hearts are changeable, feelings are easy to be cold, and nothing is eternal and unchanging. This is true of love, and so is friendship.
Learn to let go, learn to follow fate, learn to move forward, and only then will you meet a more vivid life.
01. Nostalgic people are vulnerable
Netizen Ding Fei (pseudonym) is also a nostalgic person.
On Christmas Eve, she reunited with her girlfriend who had been separated for 7 years in the shopping mall of her hometown county, and after a recounting of the past, she was originally full of joy, and when she returned home, she found that she had been blocked.
Ding Fei and her girlfriend have been at the same table since junior high school.
Her girlfriend is from the townships around the county seat, and she was admitted to her key middle school because of her excellent grades. In the beginning, the two also had some friction, but over time, the relationship between the two got better and better.
After the high school stayed, the two lived in the dormitory of the same building and got tired of being together every day. Her girlfriend trusts her very much and will tell her any troubles.
In the second half of the second half of high school, the girlfriend and the boys in the class talked about love. Although love is a matter of two people, she is involved in it almost the whole time, helping to come up with ideas, shopping and eating together...
Because of the distraction of love, her girlfriend's academic performance was affected, and she failed the college entrance examination, but she was admitted to a good university.
After Ding Fei went to college, her girlfriend also began to work, and although the two were separated by two places, the connection between them was never stopped.
Her girlfriend also visited her with her boyfriend in the city where her university was located; every time she came home from vacation, she would also find her girlfriend to come out to dinner for the first time.
Later, her parents moved their family to a second-tier city, and she began to rarely go back.
Girlfriends and boyfriends are also busy making money to buy a house and get married, and the number of times the two see each other is much less.
02. Girlfriend love
On Christmas Eve of her senior year, she applied for an intern and was busy adapting to the work environment when she suddenly received a call from her girlfriend, and something had happened to her boyfriend.
The girlfriend lived with her boyfriend at that time, and the boyfriend took the money saved by the two to buy a house and used it to invest in business, who knew that he was deceived and lost everything.
The boyfriend could not accept it for a while, and borrowed wine all day to pour sorrow. That day, I rode an electric car out to buy wine and vegetables, and if I accidentally had an accident, people disappeared on the spot.
The girlfriend is penniless, and what's worse is that the girlfriend has been pregnant for more than 2 months. After Receiving the call, Ding Fei immediately booked a ticket and rushed to the dazed and grief-stricken girlfriend.
Girlfriend parents have always been harsh on girlfriends, girlfriends do not dare to tell the family; boyfriend parents do not know about girlfriends pregnant, they do not like girlfriends, after the incident, do not pay attention to girlfriends.
Ding Fei accompanied her girlfriend for half a month.
The girlfriend and boyfriend have a deep relationship, but considering the future of themselves and their children, the girlfriend decided to follow her advice and not have children.
Accompanied by her, the girlfriend went to the hospital. For the rest of the day, she stayed by her girlfriend's side, taking care of her, comforting her, and taking care of all the costs.
Her girlfriend is in a state of collapse every day, often holding her and crying bitterly, looking at her girlfriend's painful and helpless appearance, she is very distressed, and she can't even take care of the internship position.
At that time, she opened her mouth to her parents and took 5,000 yuan, and before leaving, she also gave the remaining 1,000 yuan in her card to her girlfriend.
After her girlfriend's mood slowly stabilized, she let her go back to her own business, and said that if she found a job in the future, she would definitely return 6,000 yuan to her.
03. On Christmas Eve, meet your girlfriend who has been separated for 7 years
After half a year, Ding Fei graduated from college, and after she implemented the work, she found that she could not contact her girlfriend, and her girlfriend changed all her contact information and completely disappeared.
She couldn't be relieved and asked people around.
However, no one in her hometown, including her girlfriends and colleagues she could contact, knew where her girlfriends had gone.
For the next few years, she kept thinking about her girlfriend.
She can't forget every day that in the best years, the two laughed and grew up together, and she can't forget the unreserved trust and dependence of her girlfriend on her when she was most vulnerable.
As the saying goes: If you don't forget it, there will be an echo.
On Christmas Eve this year, Ding Fei's grandmother fell ill and was hospitalized, she accompanied her mother back to her hometown to visit, and when shopping in the county mall, she inadvertently reunited with her girlfriend who had been away for 7 years.
She was overjoyed, completely ignoring the fact that there was a companion beside her girlfriend, and took her girlfriend's hand and almost jumped up.
The girlfriend is still the original shawl long hair, or the original appearance and figure, but it is much more mature than that year, the girlfriend was originally beautiful, and now it is more graceful.
The girlfriend's response was relatively cold, sending her companion away first, and then taking her to a nearby café to reminisce.
Ding Fei has not yet come out of the excitement, talking and asking in the café, and the girlfriend just listens quietly and responds lightly.
After some reminiscence, she learned that her girlfriend was about to get married, the man's family was in the jewelry business, and the companion just now was the girlfriend's fiancé...
Just when she found a good home for her girlfriend and felt sincerely happy, her girlfriend took out her mobile phone and added her, and transferred 30,000 to her.
The girlfriend said: "I originally owed you 6,000, and now I pay you back 30,000, thank you for your help." ”
04. She was blocked after reminiscing
Ding Fei never thought of letting her girlfriend pay back the money, but at the insistence of her girlfriend, she still accepted it first. The two talked for an hour at the café before saying goodbye and leaving.
That night, she felt that she still had a lot of words to say with her girlfriend, so she thought about asking her girlfriend to come out to dinner before leaving her hometown.
What Ding Fei did not expect was that she was actually blocked by her girlfriend.
She was stunned, and after calming down, she carefully recalled the details of the meeting, was she saying something wrong? Or shouldn't you take 30,000 yuan?
She was puzzled.
Ding Fei, who is grumpy, posted on the Internet, asking netizens to help analyze, what kind of psychology is the girlfriend out of, to blacken her?
Some netizens below said that perhaps the girlfriend is worried that Ding Fei's mouth will prevent her from running to a better person and a better life.
Some netizens said that for girlfriends, the pain of losing their lovers and children will be alleviated and forgotten with the passage of time, but the existence of Ding Fei will make the pain of the past be awakened from time to time.
In fact, I don't think you have to be too entangled, there are some things, even if you can figure it out, even if you can accept it, you will still be sad.
As Sanmao once said:
Knowing the implementation of zero is the norm of life, can occasionally talk, and the heart is still gentle, is a good friend.
Knowing that friendship is the norm, some people are destined to accompany you on a journey, do not have to force, too nostalgic people, easy to get hurt.
It is better to accept the loss calmly, after all, it is a great fate to be able to walk through a journey of mutual knowledge and interdependence in the vast sea of people.
In "Flowing Golden Years", it is said: Time is not old, we are not scattered.
In the play, the friendship between Jiang Nansun and Zhu Suosuo is enviable; but in real life, time will grow old and friends will disperse.
At the end of the day, it is better to let go with dignity. After all, people have to move forward, and the warm time of the past should stay in the bottom of your heart.
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