Traditionally, sons have been considered heirs. Families without sons will be laughed at as "broken queens". This phenomenon is even more pronounced, especially in rural areas.
With the opening of the second child, more and more families are participating in the army of having a second child. Some families are really lucky, a son and a daughter have made up the word "good", which is also the best combination in people's eyes. After all, a boy as a "military coat" and a girl as a "little cotton jacket" must be very happy in his old age.
However, in reality, many families are not so lucky, even if they have a second child, they do not expect to have a son, and finally become two daughters. At this time, Bao Ma will face a lot of pressure. Some in-laws will feel that if they only give birth to daughters and no sons, there will be no descendants. I always feel that this is a manifestation of "breaking the queen".
01 Rural women are pregnant 5 times, only to give birth to a son.
Maybe you will feel that this is all in what era, and boys and girls are the same. But in fact, in some rural areas, the concept of son preference is still very deep.
There is a saying that goes: Do not persuade others to be good without suffering. When we are not in the living environment of the person concerned, we cannot feel the pressure that the outside world gives to women because we cannot give birth to a son.
Zeng Xianchun, a rural mother in the documentary "Shengmen", is already the mother of 2 girls. But in order to have a boy, in order not to be talked about by the villagers, she desperately conceived this boy, which was her fifth pregnancy. Just to fight a boy.
The pressure she was under was beyond our comprehension.
My husband's family is also rural, a small town in Shandong. They have a bad custom there, and families without sons are indeed talked about. Be ridiculed by others. The whole family will not be able to stand it for a long time, which is a status quo that is difficult to change.
"For families that only have daughters and no sons, are they really broken?" One netizen expressed his opinion. Although the truth is a bit heartfelt, it is indeed a big truth, and it speaks to the hearts of people.
"I used to envy the pressure of having a daughter, but this time back to my hometown for the New Year, I found that two old houses in our hutong have collapsed, because they are all born daughters and married out after the old man died, and this home is completely gone."
"No matter how poor a son is, he must find a way to build the house once every 20 years." Just to marry a daughter-in-law to future generations of sons. Although it was a little tired, the home was still there. Maybe these problems do not exist in the city, but the countryside is too desolate to see, which may be the broken queen in their mouths..."
02 Only gave birth to a daughter, did not have a son, is it really a broken queen?
No son is a "broken queen", IMHO, this idea is really too backward. There was this idea in ancient times, and it was because in ancient times, it was emphasized that "husbands sing women, marry chickens with chickens, and marry dogs with dogs." In ancient times, the ignorant thought formed by the lack of status of women.
But now that we live in a new era, we with modern ideas should understand that we are boys and girls. They are all continuations of our lives. Boys and girls are all flesh and blood left over from us. Our veins run through us.
When we are old, boys and girls, they will also support us wholeheartedly. Therefore, as contemporary parents, we should no longer prefer sons to daughters. Nor should you feel that no son is a broken queen.
Boys and girls, as long as they are filial piety, are good children. The continuation of incense is not in gender, but in how we give our children to live, and ultimately how they are raised.
The daughter is excellent, and she can also grow the family. Now many families, if they have a second child, the second will follow the woman's surname, which is getting better and better. It shows that many modern parents have done the same and no longer prefer sons to daughters.
03 Regardless of men and women, when the child comes, it is fate.
Whether boys or girls, children come, choose us as parents, run to our home, is fate. This is a great thing. We shouldn't be picky about our children, and gender is not determined by children. What we have to do is to respect science, according to genetic probability, the probability of having a boy and a girl is the same. Therefore, as parents, we should not and cannot intervene artificially.
In fact, as long as you are a parent, you will understand that as long as you are healthy, you will be able to manage men and women. If it is a boy, it is not healthy, and it is also a tragedy. Zeng Xianchun, the rural mother in the "Shengmen" we mentioned earlier, tried her best to give birth to a son, but in the end it was a sad ending...
Because the child was born prematurely, he became cerebral palsy. Do you think it makes sense for a son to be spelled like this? For the rest of this child's life, he will rely on the care of his parents. It's really unfortunate.
As parents, we should not prefer sons to daughters. Nor should there be the idea that a daughter is a "broken queen". Sons and daughters are all flowing in our blood, and they are all our flesh and blood relatives.
May the boys and girls in the world grow up healthy and be loved by their parents!