In Hefei, Anhui Province, Sheng Hailin's daughter and son-in-law died unexpectedly, in order to find sustenance, in 2010, she risked death through test tube technology to give birth to twin daughters, who are now 11 years old. Looking back on 11 years of experience, Sheng Hailin feels that the process is too hard, she has to go to various places to give lectures to earn money and raise children, but also to take care of her wife who has suffered a stroke, and can only find happiness in her troubles and pains. Facing the future, she said that she will return to her family more and live for herself, because they can live well because they live.
I know the story of this mother, she is an optimistic and kind woman, but unfortunately her life is too bitter, and her daughter and son-in-law who are dependent on each other have left her because of accidents.
In order to relieve the pain of thinking about the daughter, he wanted to adopt but did not succeed, and finally consulted with her husband, and painstakingly gave birth to twin daughters through medical technology.
Everyone lives their own lives. Whether it is good or not, fortunate or not, whether it is worth it or not, only the parties have the only right to speak.
Now eleven years later, whether she still feels the way she expected when she was determined to go to IVF, only she knows.
Advanced maternal age is a very dangerous thing for both the mother and the child, so few people will choose to have a baby in an advanced state. But for some couples who have lost their independence, they have experienced the pain of losing their children, and in their hearts, they have already regarded their children as all. Therefore, many of them will still choose to give it a go, even if they have to go through hardships, but also bear the burden of raising another child. We should choose to respect and understand this, and hope that their relatives, friends and society can give this family some support and help.
Every family has its own helplessness, life is their own life, the road is their own choice, as long as the parties feel happy and happy, others have no right to point fingers. Auntie's economic conditions are good, cultural literacy is high, physical fitness is high, mentality is good, the children she gave birth to are also very healthy, aunts must be able to raise well, but the wife has suffered a stroke, she herself does not dare to get sick, and the pressure on the aunt is really big.
One thing is certain: without the advent of these two angelic daughters, the old couple's old age must have been painful and lonely, and although it is very hard now, the happiness and happiness are far greater than the sins and sufferings they have suffered.
Another reminder is that Ms. Sheng's experience cannot be copied. The physiological limits of an elderly mother will itself have many unpredictable risks, and her tenacious perseverance is not something that ordinary people can have and bear.
Pregnant women of advanced age are prone to lack of energy in caring for their children. Today's children have a high cost of living, their thoughts are more complex, and it may be difficult to communicate effectively at the spiritual level. This is both irresponsible to children and irresponsible to society. Therefore, the average elderly woman who wants to have a second child and a third child really needs to think calmly and clearly, according to her economic base, age, physical condition, etc., she needs to consider clearly before making a decision, and do not make impulsive choices for a while.
If there is no better economic foundation to back it up, it may be more difficult to go.
But that's all that has been said. But to see two lovely daughters growing up healthy, bless them!