Remember the lonely mother who gave birth to twin daughters 11 years ago while doing IVF at the age of 60?
Back 11 years ago, 60-year-old Sheng Hailin risked her rebirth after losing her only daughter, hoping to soothe the trauma of losing her independence, and she became the oldest mother in China.
At the time, it was also known as the "miracle of maternal love."
The premise of this miracle is heartbreaking, she lost her only daughter, and at the end of her life, her life has since fallen into darkness, so she chose danger, plucked up the courage, and chose to be a mother again at the age of 60, once again shouldering the burden of raising children like young people.
60 years old, for Chinese, has entered the old age, is the best age to enjoy the old age after retirement.
Pregnant in October at the age of 60, the difficulties and dangers endured are unimaginable to many people, menopause, IVF, pregnancy in October, health stress, taking medicine, injections... Every step is very dangerous, it can be said that it is a frightening step.
During her pregnancy, Sheng Hailin experienced dangers and painful tortures that are unimaginable to ordinary people, such as heavy bleeding, body pain and body puffiness.
The results of the test tube are gratifying, and the twin daughters are healthy and lovely, which brings a lot of comfort to Sheng Hailin.
After giving birth to the twins, she once said that she is still in good health, and believes that when she is 100 years old, her twin daughters will be 40 years old, which will be the happiest moment of her life.
However, with the passage of time, Sheng Hailin gradually felt the pressure on herself, even if she had a pension of more than 10,000 yuan per month, she still could not meet the expenses of the entire family
Caring for twin daughters is far more difficult than you think on your own. Ms. Sheng felt more and more powerless, and finally asked her aunt to take care of her in all aspects. From the time the child turned 100 days old, Ms. Sheng, who was a doctor, began to make money, and her first job was to give health care lectures all over the country.
"A nanny works full-time, one is an hourly worker, and spends more than ten thousand yuan a month on children and nannies."
And when Ms. Sheng's daughter had just reached the age of elementary school, Ms. Sheng's husband suffered a stroke and fell. This made Ms. Sheng feel haggard, not only to take care of her two daughters who had just entered elementary school, but also to take care of her husband who was paralyzed in bed.
In order to make time to go out and earn money, Ms. Sheng has sent her children to boarding schools since last year, picking them up on Friday nights and delivering them on Sunday nights.
"During the time of his stroke, the whole family was in chaos! It took 2 babysitters to barely maintain it, and now that he is in better health, he has eased up a little. ”
Ms. Sheng, who was exhausted, said: I knew that I would not have children. Because she was afraid that the day she was away, the children would not have the ability to take care of themselves and would have no one to take care of them.
Without these 2 daughters, with the salaries of Ms. Sheng and her husband, the old couple should be very rich in their later years. But the reality is that the family now spends more than 16,000 a month.
"The child's monthly tutoring fee is 4,800 yuan, the nanny's monthly tuition is 4,000 yuan, a child's annual tuition fee is 21,000 yuan, fortunately, the school exempts a person, and the husband's rehabilitation costs, which do not include daily living expenses."
Ms. Sheng said that what she can do now is to use the rest of her time to accumulate more wealth for her children. "The only thing to worry about is how long I can hold on. I don't want to walk in front of my child, I hope to raise my child as an adult, and I only hope that my child can have no worries before she becomes an adult, and can receive education like a normal child.
Ms. Sheng's experience is actually very sad, the pain of losing her independence is difficult to describe in words, if there is no twin daughter, who can guarantee that Ms. Sheng will not be crushed by sadness and missing her daughter in these years?
Everyone has the right to choose, they can plan their own life direction, but before choosing, they must be rational, not because of excessive emotions and lead to their choice of a "different path from ordinary people", and eventually regret it for life.
None of us can predict the unexpected, and the only thing we can do is try to accept it. Sheng Hailin's only daughter Tingting passed away because of a gas leak, and her husband passed away, as parents, each of us can feel the sad despair of Sheng Hailin and his wife, but life will go on, we can't be immersed in sadness forever, we need to look forward.