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The recent online hit "Female Psychologist", with a female psychologist as the main line, has launched a variety of psychological phenomena in society.
Jing Mama has studied psychological counselors before, and I remember that the teacher said a word, every day we see all kinds of news in the newspaper, and in these news we can feel the psychological activities behind us!
Everyone has a lot of mental activity every day, but if these mental activities are too extreme, it is very likely that a psychological problem will be formed!
Jiang Jing is a 30-year-old girl, beautiful and temperamental, but also can play the piano, which in the eyes of many people belong to the winner in life, but do not know that Jiang Jing has a very serious psychological problem. She would be unable to control herself from eating, and after eating, she would run to the toilet and cut her own throat and spit it out.
It turned out that Jiang Jing had a very strong mother, and Jiang Jing's mother regarded her as an appendage.
What Jiang Jing's mother often says to her daughter is constantly kidnapping the child, I hope you haven't said it
★ You are the flesh that fell from my body, and you have to tell me what you do!
It seems that when the mother gives birth to the child, the child must live according to the mother's plan!
★ Mom just wants you to be good, all for your good!
Many mothers kidnap their children in the name of their children's goodness, so that their children have no freedom and no space of their own.
★ Look at the child's diary say I look!
The child's diary is originally to record some words that the child does not want to say to others, and the mother peeking at the child's diary is a violation of the child's boundaries and a distrust of the child!
★ Constantly criticizing and demeaning children, to whom to see? Long skill, rebellious!
Many parents especially like to suppress their children in the process of their children's growth, hoping to make children better progress, but they do not know that their children are in the process of oppression, and slowly they feel that they are not good, they are not good, they will be very inferior, and it is difficult for the children who are suppressed to become material!
Jiang Jing's growth process is constantly filled with her mother's rebuke, her mother's oppression makes her feel suffocated, she is trapped by her mother in the name of love in the home, no freedom, not even self!
Later, the two broke out into a very fierce quarrel, Jiang Jing was locked in the room by her mother, and even wanted to commit suicide at one point, she felt that her 30 years of life were fragmented, no goals and no dreams.
The mother is too strong, and it is difficult for the child to escape the three endings when he grows up, and it is difficult to have a chance
There is no opinion
Because the child has been walking smoothly in the path planned by the mother since childhood, so the child can not withstand setbacks at all, even he does not have the ability to walk on his own, once the mother is old and has no way to help him go, he will become very dazed, no goal and no dream, his whole life seems to be in accordance with the guidance of the mother step by step!
There is no obvious sense of boundaries between children and parents, children have no way to establish their own independent personality, no way to have their own ability to think independently!
Children who do not have an opinion are also difficult to innovate, and it is even more difficult to have a career in the future.
Children can become very inferior
Children who are suppressed by their mothers from an early age will become very inferior.
When the child is young, all the evaluation of himself is mainly from outsiders, especially his parents, if the mother always feels that "the child is stupid, the child is stupid, the child is not good", then the child will agree with the view that he can't do it, and the child feels that he is not good in his heart, and he will become very inferior.
It is difficult to take the initiative to interact with others after growing up, and the psychology of inferiority will make children miss many opportunities, and will also make children's lives worse and worse!
Children are pessimistic about the future and have a very low sense of happiness
Knowing the last high praise of the answer, his mother is particularly strong, vain and emotional. When I was in high school, I wanted to go to Hong Kong Disneyland, but my parents didn't allow it, and my mother even said very angrily, "I don't allow you to go, you can't go for the rest of your life, believe it or not!" ”
Slowly this netizen is no longer willing to chat with his mother, nor is he willing to talk to his mother more, especially after he found a boyfriend, his mother dislikes his boyfriend and is poor, and often quarrels occur between mother and daughter!
The following netizen with the same experience said: I am 32 years old, my mother has picked the object all the way, picked away the people who are good and sincere to me, and the ones who are picked are the power positions of others, bringing only others to look down on me and deceive!
The mother is too strong and always interferes in the child's life, which will cause the child to be very pessimistic about the future, and it is easy to obtain happiness.
Therefore, as a mother, you should put more energy on your own growth, give your child enough care and love, and give your child help when she needs it, rather than caring for your child meticulously, or even trapping your child.
Finally, give the parent a poem by Gibran:
Your children are not your children, they are the children that life desires for itself.
They have come through you, but not because of you.
Even though they are by your side, they do not belong to you.
You can give them love, but you can't give thoughts,
Because they have their own thoughts.
You can build houses to shade their bodies, but not their hearts.
For their hearts dwell in the house of tomorrow, even in your dreams, you have no place to visit.
You can try to emulate them, but you can't try to make them like you.
Because life will not go backwards, nor will it stay in the past.
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