A 'new type of nibbling on the old' spread rapidly, and the poor majority of parents did not realize it, mistakenly believing that their children were filial piety
The nibbling old people are not a new group, and a few years ago there were many nibbling old people around us.
At that time, the old man mainly referred to the fact that the children reached the age when they should work but were at home and were unwilling to find a job, because they were afraid of hard work, and they had to rely on, that is, their parents.
But the current nibbling old people are different from before, and have evolved into a new type of nibbling old way, this new type of nibbling old age spread rapidly, and the poor majority of parents are unaware of it, mistakenly believing that their children are filial piety.
Lan Lan has lived in her mother-in-law's house since she became pregnant, the reason is of course to better take care of the fetus, the mother-in-law willingly makes nutritious meals for Lan Lan every day, and takes on the heavy responsibility of taking care of Lan Lan and the fetus.
After the child was born smoothly, she waited for Lan Lan to have a confinement, and her mother-in-law was preparing to go home, but Lan Lan said that her mother-in-law had experience in taking care of the child, so she wanted her mother-in-law to stay and take care of her grandson.
So the mother-in-law stayed again, Lan Lan and her husband did not come home after work every night, eating and drinking everywhere outside, and even on weekends, they often traveled with friends by car, completely handing over the child to the mother-in-law.
In the eyes of the mother-in-law, this is the trust of the children in her, but she is completely unaware that she has fallen into the trap of a new type of old age.
New nibbling on the old mode
1, find a variety of reasons to nibble on the parents' money
Nowadays, many young people will win the compassion of their parents on the grounds that the cost of raising children is large and the family's financial burden is heavy.
After all, the elderly are reluctant to watch their children, especially their grandchildren, suffer, so since their pension or pension to take out a part of the sponsorship of children, of course, these money children can not be repaid.
2, nibble on the energy of parents
Parents will naturally weaken their energy after they are old, but children do not know how to understand their parents, and often leave their grandchildren to their parents to take care of.
Or every three or five years, they take their children to visit their grandparents as an excuse, and eat and drink by the way.
They don't think about how tired their parents are at cooking a meal, they just think about how happy they are to be able to cook one less meal.
3, nibble on the physical strength of parents
Some children will use the excuse that they are too busy at work or too tired, and always complain in front of their parents that they have no time to take care of their children and no time to clean the house.
At this time, parents will volunteer to take on the responsibility of cleaning the home and taking care of the child, even if they have limited physical strength, they are still happy to do it.
How to get rid of the new type of nibbling old?
1. Establish the child's correct three views
After the child is born, their first teacher is the parent, and what kind of person the child will become in the future is actually directly related to the parents' education when they are young.
Parents should let their children know their responsibilities and responsibilities, so that they can establish the correct three views and be able to independently assume their own lives when they grow up.
2. Cultivate children's professionalism and enterprising spirit
We are most afraid of a person who does not want to make progress, because this means that their life can be seen at a glance, when life loses its pursuit, it is obviously very difficult to let them face life hard and become responsible people.
Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's enterprising spirit from an early age, and let them know that everything must be fought hard and cannot be given up lightly, so that it is possible to have a better life.
3. Teach children to learn to be grateful
Gratitude is a word we have often mentioned in recent years, which is actually related to the fact that more and more people do not know how to be grateful.
Parents must let their children learn to be grateful from an early age, so that children know that no one should pay for them unconditionally, even parents, after the children become adults, they have no responsibility to pay for their lives.
Therefore, children should always be grateful, not only to their parents, but also to others, so that they can pass on their love and warmth.
Children should understand the true filial piety to their parents, of course, this filial piety is not a superficial work, let alone a new type of nibbling on the elderly.
Instead, we should put ourselves in the shoes of our parents, so that they can have a happy and happy old age, rather than worrying about their children all their lives.