Why is it said that parents are the main reason for the post-90s generation to become unmarried?

Everyone has different requirements for their other half, and people of different ages in different eras have different concepts of mate selection. In the past, the living conditions of the people on the mainland were limited, and most people did not have high requirements for their other half, as long as the other party was down-to-earth and could live a stable life with themselves, even if they were good marriage partners.

But now with the improvement of quality of life and the development of society, the concept of mate selection of many young people has quietly changed, and the requirements for the other half have also increased significantly. In addition to the hard conditions of height and length, young people will also require their other half to have a certain economic strength and three views to be able to live in harmony with themselves.

The post-90s generation is often referred to as the rebellious generation, the Beat generation, because they lived in a special period and enjoyed a completely different education from their predecessors. The post-90s generation lives in the modern society with the rapid development of Internet of Things technology, and has begun to contact a variety of emerging electronic products since childhood.

This also allows them to communicate better with others, to be exposed to a variety of cultures in the world in advance, and to be more advanced and open-minded. With the increasing popularity of compulsory education, young people are beginning to pursue higher education and begin to consciously think about themselves.

As a result, they have a stronger sense of personality and prefer to live according to their ideal way. When faced with the topic of marriage and childbearing, the post-90s generation showed completely opposite concepts and attitudes from their predecessors. Most of the post-90s generation are not willing to easily get married and have children, and even many people are the main force of the Dink family.

The large-scale emergence of this kind of thinking after the 90s is mainly because of the education of their parents, which has had a profound impact on their life cognition.

I believe that most people recall their childhood and will be impressed by the scene of their parents arguing. Young children do not understand what marriage is and what love is.

They just wonder that their parents, who seem to love and harmonize in ordinary days, will insult each other at that moment, and even turn against each other like enemies and fight hard. It is precisely because parents show their children a highly discordant family life that these children are afraid of their future marriage.

Anyone wants their family to be happy, and even if the parents are united for various reasons, the child will still think that they are in love. When parents quarrel, children will only naively think that they have encountered some contradictions and fail to control their emotions for a while.

But as time passes and their sense of self grows, these children come to realize that reality is harsh and real, and that these parents do not currently choose to divorce because they are concerned that their children are still young. Every year after the end of the college entrance examination, the divorce rate in various regions will increase slightly.

Many couples with discord are patient for their children, just in order to be able to completely liberate at this moment and find their new life. Because they worry that young children who lose the company of either parent will have more serious character defects or suffer unnecessary criticism and ridicule in their daily lives.

Only when the child is guaranteed to be an adult can accept the reality, they dare to let go. Compared with their predecessors, this is already a huge improvement, because people will no longer aggrieved themselves for the harmony of family life. Love and marriage are also no longer necessities in life.

From a personal point of view, focusing on personal feelings and pursuing personal life can obviously improve a person's quality of life and happiness. But unfortunately, we are not a completely independent individual, and we also need to take into account the feelings of our children in life. Young children are not able to understand the meaning of living alone, and in their view, only if their parents live together in harmony, life is happy and complete.

At an early age, unarmed children can only choose to rely on their parents. The lack of father's and mother's love can cause a huge blow to the child's psychology. These children originally longed for marriage and love, but the unhappy life of their parents shattered their illusions.

The endless quarrels of their parents accompanied their growth, so much so that they desperately wanted to run away from marriage quickly. As the level of education increases, these children will continue to develop their own ideas. In the process of forming their own worldview and outlook on life, they will also combine their family situation and think about whether they really need marriage.

It just so happens that the growth of this generation is accompanied by the Internet, and they can receive the ideas and cultures of other countries more quickly than their own grandparents. This makes them no longer stubbornly adhere to the tradition of passing on the generations, and realize that most of the pressures in life are given to them by the outside world.

The post-90s generation, who have been only children since childhood, are more accustomed to and have long enjoyed the life of being alone, and they do not feel lonely when they are single, but feel that their quality of life has been improved. Of course, everyone's thinking will change, and choosing infertility means that you need to accept external criticism and criticism for a long time.

Maybe some people will compromise because of external pressures, and maybe one day in the future, they will be able to meet the person who really opens their hearts. Of course, there are also a group of people who are very special, who understand that they are victims of their parents' unhappy marriages, and also find that they have serious character defects as a result.

They choose to run away from marriage in order not to keep the next generation from following their old path. The free post-90s are more willing to spend time to realize their own value, and perhaps with the passage of time and the development of society, infertile young people will become more and more numerous.