When you meet a polite child, you will always be unconsciously kind. Yes, politeness is a traditional virtue, a culture carved into the bones. Compared with grades, children's morality and upbringing are more important, so from an early age, educate them to become polite and nurturing people.
However, when things backfired, Kerry was the "baby bump" in the family, and his parents and family were extremely spoiled. In order not to let the child be wronged, for his requirements, it is basically responsive, and even exceeded the limit. Because in the eyes of the family, providing a material life within their reach is the way to love.
Originally thought that Kerry, who grew up in love, would become a kind and grateful child, but he turned out to be selfish and willful, and did not understand even the most basic courtesy. Shouting at your parents and family, you will lose your temper if you are slightly dissatisfied; you will also throw a variety of faces at others, without the slightest regard for the feelings of others.
Watching the child behave so uncultured, the parent realizes the mistake. They know very well that children's impolite behavior today is the result of parental education. The so-called cause and effect, it is the lack of education that makes the child become so arrogant and willful.
To be precise, children's lack of politeness stems either from their parents' excessive coddling or from their parents' lax discipline. The performance of not understanding politeness is even more varied: interrupting others at will, not greeting elders when meeting elders, refusing to admit mistakes, and so on. But no matter which kind of performance, it will affect or even ruin the future of the child.
How can the seeds of courtesy and upbringing be planted in the hearts of children?
First, appropriate guidance
There are no children who are born to know how to be polite, so the guidance of parents is particularly important, teaching them to say the right words and do the right things in the right place, and slowly develop habits. When encountering elders, teach children to take the initiative to say hello; when doing wrong things, guide children to admit mistakes...
The cultivation of politeness also needs to be gradual, and parents should not take too strong measures to avoid causing their rebellious psychology. At the same time, adults should also do a good job of maintenance and personally affect children.
Second, sincere praise
For children's excellent performance, parents should sincerely praise and praise their practices. In fact, children do not have much concept of politeness, and they don't even know which behaviors are polite and which are impolite. Parents can just use praise to guide their children.
Through praise and affirmation, the child will understand which actions are right and stick to them. Most importantly, parental praise stimulates their desire to express, as well as self-confidence, in one fell swoop.
Third, do not push
On the way to cultivating children's politeness, parents should keep in mind a principle - do not push, and never force children to do things he does not like. You know, each child's personality is different, if you are born timid and introverted, pushing will only be counterproductive, will make children more afraid.
Do not rush to achieve, politeness and cultivation are carved in the bones, as long as the child is polite in the heart, the behavior is lacking, it can also be slowly adjusted. In the end, inner cultivation is more important than superficial effort.
Write at the end: no courtesy, after all, is a label that is detrimental to the image, and it is necessary to take it off for the child early. However, parents must master the rhythm, starting with adjusting their mentality and education methods.
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