Jane Nelson's book Positive Discipline advocates positive discipline for children.
One of the core ideas of this book is that when you face your child, whether the child's performance is good or bad, you must be able to be both kind and firm, that is, you must be gentle but not without principles. If we can create a peaceful and bounded growth environment for children, let children always feel that we love him unconditionally, and at the same time, we can let children learn relevant social survival skills in the process of growing up, so as to achieve the purpose of positive discipline.
Dr. Jane Nelson is an American educator and psychologist, a mother of seven children and a grandmother or grandmother of 22 children, whose theoretical foundation of positive discipline is that of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Drex, both of whom were among the greatest psychologists of the 1930s. Micro-book classes also plan to share some of their works, such as Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence", Drakes's "Child Challenge" and so on. Based on their theories of psychology, Jane Nelson developed a systematic approach to education, the "positive discipline" we share today.
When it comes to nurturing children, Jane Nelson believes that the most important are seven perceptual abilities and skills. Because most of the child's bad behavior is caused by the lack of these perceptual abilities and skills. So what are these seven abilities?
The first is the perception of personal ability, the ability to feel one's own ability, and the feeling that "I can do it."
The second is the perception of my own value in important relationships, the ability to feel my own value in relationships, and the knowledge that everyone really needs me.
The third is the perception of one's own power or influence in life, the perception of one's own abilities and influence, and the knowledge that you can control what happens to you.
The fourth is the ability to introspect, the ability to understand individual emotions, and the ability to use this understanding to achieve self-discipline and self-control.
The fifth is strong interpersonal communication skills, good at cooperating with others, and building friendships based on communication, collaboration, consultation, sharing, empathy and listening.
The sixth is to have a strong overall grasp of the ability to deal with various restrictions and behavioral consequences in daily life with a sense of responsibility, adaptability, flexibility and integrity.
The seventh is that the judgment ability is strong, and the situation can be evaluated according to wisdom and according to appropriate values.