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We launched the eighth issue of "Good Book Cloud Sharing"
"Positive Discipline"
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In 1981, Dr. Jane Nelson published his first book, Positive Discipline, which gradually made the concept of positive discipline accepted and pursued by more and more people. Today, "Positive Discipline" has become the "golden rule" for disciplining children. Its ideas and methods have spread to nearly 70 countries and regions.
The book is a detailed introduction to the most effective positive discipline and parenting tools that have been tested for many years, and is suitable for primary and secondary school teachers and parents who are committed to making their children better or improving parent-child relationships.
Unwinding is beneficial and bookish for life. Ningxiang City for the whole people to read good books cloud sharing. Hello everyone, I am Sun Ting, a teacher at Ningxiang Country Garden School, and the good book I share with you today is Jane Nelson's "Positive Discipline".
For decades, this book has helped thousands of families discipline their children efficiently and without arrogance or punishment. Of course, I am also one of the practitioners and beneficiaries.
Kindness and firmness are the basic principles of positive discipline and are at its core.
What is kindness and what is firmness? Kindness is to respect the child, to love and accept the child unconditionally. Firmness is to respect oneself, to respect the needs of the situation, and to establish the necessary rules and order.
Many parents are often too kind or too determined with their children, always switching back and forth between the two.
To be kind and firm, it is difficult for many parents.
Let's look at a case.
Modern parents pay attention to parent-child reading, and generally choose to tell stories to their children before going to bed. What do you do when your child doesn't want to sleep and begs you to tell another story? Let's take a look at the different practices of the three parents individually.
Parent A said: Okay, I'll talk about another one.
Parent B said: I have already talked about 3, don't talk about it, go to bed!
Parent C said: We have told 3 stories today, and my mother knows that you enjoy listening to stories and want to hear more. But mom has been working for a day, she is already very tired, and now it is also your time to sleep. Come, let's hold one, and we'll continue tomorrow night, okay?
Who is kind and firm? Obviously, it is Parent C, parent C expresses that the child is very eager to listen to the story, but he is also very tired, and while identifying with the child's feelings, he also needs to sincerely express his feelings. When the child listened, he thought to himself, mom looks really tired, she loves me, and will continue to tell me stories tomorrow. In this way, Parent C respects both the child and himself.
If you are a parent A, it is good to think that your child loves to read. Curiosity is so rare that I need to satisfy. So, despite the fatigue of his day's work, he continued to tell his children one more story. Then the child will think, well, the parents have satisfied me again, too good. After talking about this, I want him to talk about another one!
If you're a parent B, thinking I've met you for 3 stories, enough. Hurry to sleep, I have to report it yet. When the child heard this, he was going to be sad, you didn't tell me a story, you didn't love me! Maybe, it's time to start shedding tears.
Too kind, will spoil the child, so that the child does not know the boundaries; too firm, will hit the child's self-confidence, but also destroy the parent-child relationship.
Only by being kind and firm in parallel, and not being arrogant and unscrupulous, can we cultivate high-quality children. To learn more about positive discipline, open Jane Nelson's book Positive Discipline.
Good book cloud sharing, thank you for listening!
Sun Ting
The teacher is 32 years old
Kindness and firmness go hand in hand, and let every mistake become an opportunity to learn!
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