Text/Little Fan Emotion
Cheng Sanmin secretly mortgaged the family's house from his wife. He took out 300,000 yuan from the loan to Cheng Shu to repay the debts owed by the homestay.
When Cheng Man's mother, Ma Chunmei, found out, she pulled him to reason, and as a result, Cheng Sanmin threw Ma Chunmei to the ground and fell to her feet.
Cheng Qiao hurriedly sent his mother to the hospital for examination, and at the hospital gate, Cheng Man and Cheng Shu had an argument.
This illness of Cheng Mu has completely torn away the hidden pain of eccentric parents in multi-child families, and witnessed the superiority of children favored by parents and unloved children.
When parents are sick, it is like looking in a mirror and completely illuminating the "filial piety" of children.
1 Cheng Buck, the eldest of the Cheng family, Dun Hou honest, is the appearance of most children, is the object of mother's preference
The old Cheng Buck has the appearance of a brother, opens a small shop, and has a bad life. It is said that the mother is partial to the son, and the Cheng family is no exception, and the Cheng mother played by Ni Ping has always liked her son.
As a son, Cheng Qiao is already quite good, although there is no great skill, the daughter-in-law fights with him all day, but he never provokes his parents to be angry, and he is also a qualified son.
When the mother asks him what about your father? He froze for a moment before he answered his mother truthfully. Dad is gone.
Ma Chunmei immediately complained: This old thing, he also does not pay medical expenses, this is gone? I tell you, if I go to beat a 110, I will be abused by him, and it is not too little to sentence him to life imprisonment on the basis of his guilt.
Of course, Cheng's mother complained duplicitously in front of her son. Cheng Qiao also understood in his heart. Since he was a child, he had watched his parents quarrel, and he already had a set of ways to deal with it. He hurried to comfort his mother:
"My father is gone, he is also afraid that you will look at him upset, he is good, you can't see the heart is not disturbed."
As soon as Cheng's voice fell, he was snatched by his mother: "Why don't you see your eyes and don't have chaos?" Even if he came to see me, I knew that I had a number in mind, and your father would like me to die now. ”
Ma Chunmei couldn't do anything with her husband, so she vented her grievances and resentment to her son.
Cheng Qiao explained to his mother: "My father just doesn't talk well, but in fact, he cares about you in his heart." ”
Although her mother's complaints have been said many times, Cheng Qiao can still bear to listen to her mother and let her mother vent her resentment in her heart.
Although he is not as good as his sister Cheng Man, he has achieved the company of his mother, helped his mother to ease her emotions, and let the depressed knots in her mother's heart be vented, which belongs to a good son.
Moreover, he was very concerned about his two younger sisters and did what he looked like a big brother.
Such a son is not the best, but it is also very good.
At the very least, he was not angry, reprimanded, impatient in the face of what his mother had said eight hundred times. He really did listening and persuading. In real life, are there fewer children who berate their parents because of nagging?
2 Cheng Man, the second eldest of the Cheng family, is also the best one, supporting his parents, but his father does not hurt his mother and does not love
Cheng Man is the most sensible of the three brothers and sisters of the Cheng family, because he is sensible, so he has no sense of existence at home. Her mother was partial to her brother, and she did everything good for her son. Her father spoiled her sister the most, and everything delicious was secretly given to her sister. In the New Year, her father went to Harbin to buy new clothes for her sister, but she wore the old clothes that her brother had beaten down.
Cheng Man is the one at home that his father does not love his mother.
In fact, her parents are not unsympathetic to her, and it is precisely because she is too sensible that her parents have given their energy to the more troublesome children. When a person invests more and more time and energy in a child, that child becomes more and more important in the hearts of parents. And this sensible child was directly ignored by his parents.
Since she was a child, she has a good academic performance, takes care of her sister, and the task of tutoring her sister's study is entrusted to her.
She helped others make up lessons and money, but helped her sister but always did not help to please, because her sister was disobedient, she was not less scolded by her parents.
It is such a Cheng Man, after the divorce with his children to Shanghai to work hard, relying on his own efforts, became a famous figure in the Shanghai venture capital industry, and the money was not less earned. She can help her parents with things at home. Cheng Man's only shortcoming is that he has a bad parent-child relationship with his daughter Doudou.
Until he met Kong Lingqi, with the help of Kong Lingqi, Cheng Man slowly changed his impulsive and impatient nature, and the parent-child relationship with his daughter became better and better.
After Cheng Man heard that her mother was ill, she went to the hospital to ask qing the original committee, and learned that her mother was quarreling with her father because of the house, so she rushed out of the ward.
Cheng Man scolded Cheng Shu: Are you in the water in your brain? I told you before, your homestay can't be opened, now you owe a bunch of debts, you let your father give his house to mortgage to help you pay off your debts, can you not be so selfish?
Cheng Man's temperament is like a boy, she is excellent and capable, she told his father when he was sick, don't worry about money. She can bravely stand up for her mother when she is wronged.
She is a person who can support her parents. Of course, this is also because of her excellence, she is capable. But more than that, the responsibility in her bones and the love for her family.
When she told Kong Lingqi in the car about her parents' eccentricity, her face was full of smiles, she did not complain because of her parents' eccentricity, she just told the grievances she had suffered in her childhood as a joke.
No hate, no regrets, no complaints. It is precisely because of this pattern, such a measure, coupled with the hard work of life, that she can fight her own country in Shanghai.
Hearing that his mother was sick, Cheng Man rushed directly into the ward after arriving at the hospital and asked his mother how he was concerned. The anxiety and worry were clear at a glance.
After the mother fell ill, the eldest and the second eldest showed filial piety and obligations as children, so how did the third elder, who was most loved by his parents, do it?
3 Cheng Shu, the third eldest of the Cheng family, is the most favored one of his parents, and he is also the most unsuccessful one
Cheng Shu is the old man in the family, the old daughter of her parents, she has a sweet mouth since she was a child, she will be spoiled, and Cheng Sanmin likes this little daughter the most. He hurt this little girl as much as he could.
The old man wants to open a homestay, obviously the eldest daughter opposes, but Cheng Sanmin still supports his daughter to open, and as a result, he owes a lot of money and human feelings, and after the homestay is opened, Cheng Shu does not take on the responsibility of a boss at all.
She broadcasts live all night, sleeps during the day, and entrusts the homestay to the staff management, while the employees she invites are relatives, and the cook's meal is not delicious. Under such circumstances, how can there be guests coming to the door?
If it were not for Liao Ran's appearance, it would be sooner or later that the homestay would close.
Cheng Shu heard that her mother was sick, and she was also very anxious, she hurried to the hospital, and her brother told her that it didn't matter, and asked her to go in quickly to see her mother.
But she couldn't go, afraid that her mother would nag her.
The mother was in the hospital room, and the daughter had already walked to the door, but she turned and left, saying that she would not go in, on the grounds that she was afraid of her mother's nagging. What does that say to an adult?
A mother's illness, the eldest and second have done what they should do, the most favored, the little daughter whose parents have paid the most showed her true face before the mother's illness.
A mother's illness has made two daughters raised in different parenting styles stand tall.
The brother said to her: Mom won't say anything about you, Mom may not say it very well. But in your case, Mom is quite supportive, right?
Cheng Shu said the truth, Cheng Shu opened a homestay, his mother did not ask people for help everywhere, and called relatives to come. The second elder of the Cheng family did everything they could to their young daughter. Unfortunately, Cheng Shu still did not open the homestay.
This is not to say, obviously he has walked to the hospital, nor does he say that he went in to see his mother. Compared with Cheng Man, who rushed into the ward, Cheng Shu's selfishness and coldness were nakedly expressed.
The one who is partialized is always fearless. This sentence has been verified by countless people.
The truth is that the child whose parents like and do their best to help often does not know how to be grateful, just like Cheng Shu. And the child who is not welcomed by his parents always pays the most.
In the just-finished "Human World", Zhou Bingkun, of the three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, was not as good as his brothers and sisters, and he was also the one who was not welcomed since he was a child. But it was he, an honest man who was not favored by others, and his wife Zheng Juan, who bore the burden of the three brothers and sisters.
Some people say that stupid children stay by their parents' side to repay the favor. In fact, I would like to say that in families with many children, it is often the person who is not welcomed by their parents who really comes to repay the favor.
Of course, everything is not absolute. However, the above situation accounts for a large proportion.
Cheng Man was far away in Shanghai, not around his parents. But she was able to support her parents in everything.
My friend's second brother was treated like this by his parents since he was a child, and later her second brother did business and became the boss. The old mother in the family was all in charge of him alone. His mother was sick and hospitalized, and his second brother was in his fifties at the time, and he could still remember his mother's reluctance to see him when he was a child. It can be seen that a person's childhood shadow can affect his life.
He said to his mother very aggrievedly that he still remembered that his mother liked his brother and liked his brother, but he did not like him as the second eldest.
When he said that, the boss, who was in charge of hundreds of people, had red eyes. He had been wronged for half a lifetime, and in his later years he took on the burden of taking care of his mother, just to prove to her that he was no worse than his brother and brother.
In the end, his old mother died, and he alone took care of everything. He did so, on the one hand, because of his filial piety, and on the other hand, he once again proved to his mother that he was not as useless as her mother saw.
He spent half his life breaking free from the shadow of his childhood, and spent another twenty years taking care of his wife. Did he really care about the old woman's praise?
He was just asking for a fair share of his childhood self.
4 Parents' love must be evenly distributed to the children, do not let them have childhood shadows
To what extent are the Cheng family's parents biased?
Cheng Sanmin took the house loan and sent 300,000 yuan to Cheng Shu, Cheng Shu was working out, she asked her father happily, is it not enough?
Cheng Sanmin smiled and said that there was your sister.
Cheng's mother deliberately cried at home, and when she heard that the eldest daughter wanted to help the little girl pay off her debts, she stopped crying.
Parents know that the eldest daughter can get by, and they are bent on letting Cheng Man help make up for Cheng Shu. They thought that Cheng Man had money, so there was something in the family to find Cheng Man, and the sister had something to find Cheng Man. However, they forgot that in order to make a person grow, it is useless to rely on help alone, and she must stand up on her own and work hard. If Cheng Shu did not open the homestay himself, it would be useless to rely on Cheng Man's support alone.
In fact, most of the time, the child who is favored by her parents will not be too good, because she does not have to worry about the future, and the child who is not welcomed by her parents will study hard because there is no way back. In order to gain the approval of her parents, she often desperately tries to learn. And the effect she received was also amazing.
But on the contrary, such a child will have a childhood shadow.
As a parent, you must give love to each of your children. The love of parents is like sunshine, to sprinkle every corner, instead of sprinkling the sun on one of the children and leaving the other child in the shadows all the time, it is unfair to this child.
Cheng Mu's illness is like a mirror, illuminating every child's heart for their parents, and even more illuminating the unfairness of their parents to their children. Parents' bias towards their children can become the shadow of their children, and they are more likely to become the hidden pain of their children's lives.
May you and I be the ones who can support our parents, but who can sprinkle the sunshine on every child.