Each of us is a separate individual, this is not too much of a problem, even if it is a twin brother and sister, in the process of growing up, there will be their own experience, will have their own life, there is no two exactly the same thing, even if there is, which one do you want to be? Believe which one you don't want to be.
Becoming a unique you, this is a kind of dream and stubbornness in everyone's heart, so we are different, not all because we look different, but different experiences, different thoughts, which also creates three different views, and eventually life may be different.
Looking for a partner is the same, want to make each other closer, of course, will want to find a three-dimensional consistent, life goals are the same, the lifestyle is similar, the work experience is similar, life experience is similar, in short, the mind is similar to the person.
But think about it, how much is this situation? Can you find such a person completely? We also know very well that the pursuit of perfection in everything is simply not desirable. Why? Because perfection never exists in this world. No matter how perfect the same product is, no matter how complete the function, it is impossible to achieve 0 defects.
Even when watching the promotional video, this product is only a point that is important to promote, or it is a certain point, as long as it can be remembered, it is easy to use.
We look at Nokia as an example, those who desperately reduce the buttons of the mobile phone have become the current big coffee, and Nokia continues to add buttons to the top, but has become the last victim.
We are the same, the same in intimate relationships, we can't be like buying lottery tickets, every condition, every criterion, as precise as the six numbers, and finally a blue rose, this kind of love is really too much dick.
But think about it, what are the probabilities of winning the lottery ticket? Not to mention the probability of your three numbers in the whole, if you want to find the probability of all the numbers in that group, I think it is impossible to be higher than the probability of buying a lottery ticket. Even much lower. At the very least, the lottery has a standard measure, and if you win the lottery, you will only wear a hood in the past.
And feelings are not, feelings are that you have to take this prize for a lifetime, and from time to time you often wear a sleeve, creating the feeling of receiving the prize.
In order to make the feelings more grounded, in fact, we can think about this problem in turn in the feelings, that is, do we have to find people who are consistent in the three views and meet the standards of all conditions?
There is a kind of "disgust" that actually brings you closer to each other. Why?
First of all, talking about things that we hate will be closer and faster, for example, many of us have had the experience of blind dates, in blind dates, if we have been polite, it seems that the topic cannot be talked about faster and deeper. But if one side says he hates a show, you probably think the same thing, so you can talk deeply about it and have a good time.
Second, likes can be performed, but disgust is difficult to perform
We know that there are a lot of green tea black tea black tea or something, these can be played under the gentle surface, a good actor may be able to use this skill to win the love of many people, for disgust but not, disgust is a kind of involuntary thing from the heart, very emotional, but also very real. If in the process of falling in love, two people have not said what they hate, then there may be big problems in the future.
Finally, when it comes to the marriage relationship, if you want to make the feelings of two people deeper, then the things that are disgusted by the common are the driving force for the further development of the two people.
For example, both people hate being poor, so both people use their own best efforts to save this matter, although the two people do it in different ways, but the goal is the same.
For example, if two people hate to be thin, then eating must be aiming at a channel.
So we must first find out, love or marriage, it is impossible to achieve perfection, and disgust can reach agreement, more grounded, so whether two people are suitable for together, can find out what they hate together, than find out what they like more really.
So, what do you think?