Picking up the children after school, many parents gathered together and began to complain about all kinds. The central idea revolves around a word called "independence." In the minds of parents, independence is a skill that children must light up, after all, parents have limited time to protect them, and they must be strong.
But when it comes to independence, most children can't do it. Because behind them, there are always worried parents, eager to take care of everything for them. Even the future life path has been prepared for the child early, as long as it is obedient and obedient.
Therefore, children do not have independent skills, and parents stand 90% of the reasons. You know, independence is not a skill that comes with it, but a habit formed by acquired education. Everything should start from the education of parents, rather than allowing children to teach themselves.
Tracing back to the roots, it is natural to start with education.
First, if you lose your temper indiscriminately, you must be ruthless in education
Everyone has a small temper, but be careful not to sprinkle anger on your loved ones. Perhaps it is the reason why they are usually too spoiled, many children like to lose their temper, give their parents a face at every turn, and even drop things. Parents should be relentless in this behavior and resolutely not condone it.
Be clear: No one wants to put up with a child's bad temper except parents and family. People who walk into school, go to society, and throw tantrums at will be automatically excluded by everyone.
Second, there is no concept of time, and strict discipline should be exercised
Time is like sand in your hand, fleeting and never to be caught. But at the same time, it is the most precious thing in the world, and with time, everything can be created. If the child does not have the concept of time, then the parents must "fiercely" help them correct, be sure to realize the importance of time, and use it wisely.
Quite simply, let the child arrange his own time and do what he loves. Remember: don't force anything, and don't put pressure on your child. Help can be provided appropriately and they can be taught to make plans, but they cannot interfere with the child's thoughts.
Third, to evade responsibility, we must be severely punished
In this society, what is most needed is responsibility and responsibility to occupy a place. If the child likes to escape when things happen, and does not have the courage to bear the mistake, then the parents must be severely punished. When necessary, the punishment can be increased and this behavior can be severely eliminated.
It is a terrible thing not to take responsibility, and it will not be able to take on the heavy responsibilities of family and society in the future. To put it simply, a child's life is likely to be so mediocre and has been living in his comfort zone.
Tips for parents:
The old man often said: The Son does not teach, the Father is at fault.
Taking advantage of the young age of children is the golden age of education. Children are in the stage of ignorance, their three views have not been cultivated, and even the ability to distinguish between right and wrong is not available. Parents take this opportunity to convey all the correct ideas and opinions into their children's hearts.
Only children who are good at managing emotions, have a sense of time and are brave enough to take responsibility can truly become independent. In life, all the little details, they can do to the extreme. Even without the help of parents, children can do the current things step by step.
Written at the end: Only by being independent can children fly farther and higher. Even without the protection of their parents, they have the courage to live themselves. In education, we must learn to be generous and generous, and where we should be stern, we must resolutely not give children room to retreat; where we should praise, we will never be stingy.
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