As the saying goes: It is difficult for a clean official to break the family's affairs, and the family has a scripture that is difficult to read.
When people reach middle age, they know that many contradictions in the family have traces to follow.
Sibling conflicts, family disputes, all this is "cause and effect".
Parents spoil, children are disrespectful
Li Meijin, an educator, said: Excessive coddling brings the ruthlessness of children.
The doting of parents will not allow the child to grow up correctly, but will only put him on a distorted life.
I read a report before: there was a girl in the circle of friends who scolded her father. The reason is that her father can't come up with 1,000 yuan for living expenses.
In the picture, the father's tone is extremely humble. His daughter, on the other hand, put these chats in the circle of friends, insulting her father as a rat in the gutter and unable to get on the table.
She even claimed to the outside world that her parents abused her and used cruel means to persecute her life. This poor parent could not have imagined that the child who ate porridge and vegetables every day was a real white-eyed wolf.
When people reach middle age, they realize that coddling is the beginning of family misfortune. The doting of parents is digging their own graves.
Children who grow up from coddling cannot truly appreciate the true value and meaning of "love". The pampering and arrogance of the parents will only amplify his selfishness and narrow-mindedness, and finally make the child become a cold-blooded and ruthless person.
Therefore, in the matter of educating children, parents must keep a clear head and put an end to coddling. Not only is it to give your children a future, but also to give yourself a future that you will not regret.
Parents are biased and brothers and sisters are feuding
Before seeing a "tree hole" share on Weibo: A girl grew up in her grandmother's parents since she was a child, and she has rarely seen her parents since she can remember.
Her life is taken care of by her grandmother, and even the tuition fee for school is paid for by her grandmother picking up bottles. Later, after the death of her grandmother, the girl never returned home.
One day, the girl suddenly received a phone call from her father.
The father said that he would borrow 100,000 yuan from the girl to buy a house for his brother. The girl hung up the phone after listening.
But the matter was far from over, the girl's father took his mother and brother from the countryside all the way to find the girl's place to work, crying and making trouble at the gate, saying that the girl was not filial piety.
The girl cried to netizens that she grew up, her parents did not really manage her, the only time was when she was admitted to college, her parents paid her a tuition fee.
The girl said that her parents' selfish preferences had ruined her childhood and were now ruining her life. She hated her parents, hated her brother, and hated herself even more for being a girl.
After reading this sharing, many people expressed their heartache for this girl. Many parents of the older generation think that the daughter who marries out spills out the water, and after the daughter marries into someone else's house, she is no longer their daughter, and if she does not fish a little more, how can she compensate herself?
It is precisely because of the selfishness of parents that the misfortune between children is caused.
Some people say that the love of parents for their children is, "Ten fingers bite which one hurts."
But at the same time, there is a saying that says, "Ten fingers sticking out is not ordinary." ”
The love of parents for their children may really be light and heavy, more or less, which is a common human feeling, but such love cannot be based on exploiting one child to complete another child.
When people reach middle age, they know how important it is for their parents to be impartial.
Parents can set the balance in the family and divide love equally among each child, so as not to lead to the end of brothers' enmity and sisterly jealousy.
Parents are clear, home and things are happy
The "Letter of the Family of Zeng Guofan" reads: "Brothers and nephews in the family, but remember the eight words of grandfather: pig, vegetable, fish, book, morning, sweep, examination, treasure." Reading, growing vegetables, raising fish, feeding pigs, for the sake of home; getting up early, cleaning, practicing sacrifices, and treating relatives and neighbors well are the ways to govern the family. ”
Since he was a child, Zeng Guofan has been influenced by the ears of his family. He deeply understands the importance of parenting for children. It is also because of the excellent family style of Qingming that the Zeng family has become a rare century-old noble family today.
When people reach middle age, they know that parenthood is also a science.
In a family, parents are equivalent to the existence of "house beams". If the beams are not correct, the home will collapse, and if the beams are just right, the home can really prosper.
In fact, everything in the human world cannot escape the word "cause and effect". The family is not harmonious, the brothers and sisters are feuding, and the brothers are opposed, mostly because the upper beam is not correct, and the lower beam is dumped.
At this age, we have also become parents of our children, wanting to stay away from the aftermath. We must straighten ourselves out and be sober, so as not to suffer the consequences of ourselves.