Why are some children not close to their parents, and even hate their parents? Big boss to talk about it.
The first reason is that parents are too doting on their children. This kind of coddling is manifested in providing the child with everything that does not require his own struggle and effort to get, a house, a car, a job, and even a girlfriend or boyfriend, basically a one-stop service in life.
If it is like this, then the child will not be able to experience pain in the future, and if a person has never experienced pain in the process of growing up because of the blessing of his parents, then when this person leaves his parents and experiences the first pain in his life, he is likely to do something that deviates from his original line, which is coddling.
There are many people around us who are doting on children, and everyone can observe that these doted children are almost all out of the ordinary, and in the future, they will show hysteria in some things.
So what is not coddling? Not coddling is about rules. For example, the elders come to get up, this is a basic, minimum rule, if the child sees the elders do not get up, then it depends on the attitude of the parents, doting and not coddling are reflected here.
There is an elder in the family, whether the elder child likes it or not, he is at least higher than the child in terms of generation. Let the child get up, go get some tea leaves for the elders to brew, whether the child likes it or not, this thing should be done, this is called the rule.
In the previous family, some children saw the elders and if they did not get up, the parents would immediately click the child, or give the child a color, let the child get up, and then sit down, which is a minimum rule problem.
For example, when eating, the child picks up randomly with chopsticks, because some dishes he does not like to eat, just pick up and pick up in the dishes, then as a parent, what to do at this time? I will immediately stop him, and even give him a severe punishment, which is something that has been required since childhood, and this is called a rule.
Without these rules, you see what will happen to your child in the future. The characteristics he shows in eating and treating people will be like a child in elementary school, which is a terrible thing.
So the first reason for this is coddling, and the consequence of this coddling is that the child is very likely to be unfilial, and will hate his parents, dislike his parents for being poor, or dislike his parents for not providing convenience in life, etc. He will bring the set of society over, which is very terrible.
The second reason for hating one's parents is the difference in thinking, which means that parents may themselves be unqualified. After the child learned a lot of truths when he was older, he expressed disapproval of his parents' behavior. We watch the TV series "Country Love", in which Xie Guangkun really tickles people's teeth, just like Xie Guangkun's thoughts, his interference with his own children has led to his son Xie Yongqiang's nest and filial piety, and even caused the child to hate his parents.
To sum up, there are two reasons, one is that the thinking is different, it is possible that the parents interfere too much, and the second is that the child is too doting, and these two situations may cause the child to hate the parents.