Hello everyone, I'm Star Hero!
Xiaoxia has a question for parents, what do you think is "coddling"?
Xiaoxia believes that this comic is very aptly expressed.
Therefore, today Xiaoxia wants to discuss with you how to avoid making "love" become "coddling".
"Coddling" is a kind of cognition
For coddling, in fact, it comes from everyone's perception of love.
If in a family, everyone eats fish and does not eat fish bones, everyone is equal, so parents give meat to their children to eat, at most, to give children less fish spines and more tender meat, which is actually not a coddling.
But if in a family, the whole family is thrifty and thrifty, the child is generous, and all the requirements of the child must be met, such a family relationship is unequal, which is considered coddling.
In fact, the child's world is very simple, eat what you like, and don't eat what you think is not delicious, which is natural.
But whether it is the previously popular "only give children the tip of strawberries" or give all the fish meat to children, such behavior is undoubtedly a decisive factor in making children develop bad qualities of wasting food and not being grateful.
Is self-sacrificing parenting wrong?
In fact, Xiaoxia understands that many parents will unconsciously put their children in the most important position in the family and want to provide the best living conditions for their children, which is actually beyond reproach.
The reasons for determining a child's personality must be diverse, and the self-sacrificing pampering of parents is not necessarily wrong.
The decisive factor is whether parents convey the concept of "self-sacrifice" to their children.
For example, if my mother hopes that other people in the family will eat more of the fish body part of the meat, she will take the initiative to take the fish head part away first, and say that she likes to eat the fish head.
If the mother has not expressed from beginning to end that "in order to let the child eat more meat, so choose the fish head part with more bones", such obscure love can be experienced with the maturity of the child's vision.
Maybe one day, the child suddenly realized that his mother never ate only fish heads, and the fish meat was eaten by himself, because he also loved his mother, so he would also propose "I also want to taste the fish head" and "the fish head is also very delicious".
Love is wordless, but love can be felt, and the filial piety advocated by China for thousands of years is that the ancients felt the wordless affection of parents for their children again and again, which was born.
However, as a parent, correcting the child's bad habits must be premised on excellent family education:
"Mom, the tip of the strawberry is very sweet, can I eat only the tip of the strawberry?"
"Of course you can!"
"What about the rest?"
"The rest of the mother helps you eat."
"Does Mom think the rest is delicious?"
"It's not as sweet as the pointed part, but it's also delicious, and Mom is willing to help you eat the rest." But baby, this rule can only be in our home Oh, if you only eat strawberry tips outside, others will not be able to eat sweet strawberry tips, so eat them all outside! ”
"Okay, thank you Mom!"
In the process of getting along with children, parents must remember to let "love" exist only in the form of love, and do not meet all the needs of children by sacrificing the rights of others in the family.
Don't be that "fishbone-loving" mom!
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