This airtight emotional concentration makes the child carry a deep sense of guilt, accompanied by a huge sense of repression, and there is no way to escape.
Love, which should be gentle and flowing, is fixed in this controlled emotional exploitation.
What is the sense of self-motivation?
To take a classic "fish eating story": the mother has eaten the fish head for a lifetime, but before dying, she tells the child, "In fact, the mother does not like to eat the fish head, just to leave the fish meat for you." This story is widely circulated as a model of "great maternal love". If the mother is already satisfied when she sees her child eating fish, why should she tell the child the truth before dying, so that the child can bear this guilt for a lifetime and cannot repay it. Controlling others with a sense of guilt is the most unmoving force.
Many children who grow up under the "self-moved" mother's love, their fathers are responsible for making money to support the family, and it can be said that they are seriously absent from the growth of their children, and the mother is becoming more and more powerful in contracting the responsibility of the child. The father's busy self and the mother's busy self make a child lack the spiritual nutrition necessary for healthy growth, and under such "malnutrition" growth, it is impossible to form a sound personality. If you want your child to grow up healthily, you must have the right love and education from your parents.
Parents educate their children about the right concepts
1. Think from the child's point of view
Support the child's opinion of handling things without prejudice, maintain an atmosphere of no evaluation, and let the child fully display his creative ability. —Aldo Hepburn
2, correct the mind, "self-moving" is not advisable
If you want your child to grow better, parents must first correct their own thinking, and when educating their children, they must calm their own mentality and not be overly "self-moved".
Don't manage your child too rigidly, guide your child not to be bound by stereotypes, and develop the value concept of inner emptiness in your child. Trigger children to think, imagine and be creative. —Wells Linda
Everyone who has paid is hoping to return in his bones. This is irrevocable human nature, and there is nothing to blame.
But because of this, people who bear this kind of payment will feel pressure. Because they understood that it all had a price tag, and for a commodity they didn't want, they were tied to the payment counter and waited for that unbearable bill. To put it bluntly, the "hard work" in your eyes, in the eyes of the other party, is just a "strong buy and strong sell". What's so touching about it?