The child's growth is only once, education can not be withdrawn and started again, and the influence of parents on children is a lifetime.
What kind of person a child will become in the future depends largely on the parents' family education.
A good family must begin with companionship, fall into education, and be loyal to the three views.
It starts with companionship,
Excellent children are accompanied
Now the pace of life is very fast, many parents in order to cope with the complicated work, overtime is a common thing, accompanied by children time is condensed very little.
However, it is a pity that the child grows up very quickly, and when he grows up, there are fewer places where you may need to be needed.
The most precious gift that parents give to their children in childhood has never been a toy or material satisfaction, but your attentive companionship.
Every excellent child is accompanied by his parents.
The real "companionship" is not to be with the child, but to be good at finding the child's shining point when accompanying, and trying to cultivate him.
So how do parents find their children's shining points when they accompany their children?
In fact, some of the child's special performances, or special "hobbies" are the highlights, have you noticed?
Children within 1 year of age, when they get any item, they will put it in their mouths at the first time;
A child of about 2 years old, staring at the small ants on the ground on the side of the road for half a day;
A child over 4 years old, who likes paper-cutting work, has not changed a second job in one morning...
Behind all the children's behavior, they point to a golden and valuable concept of "sensitive period".
Excellent parents can not only discover the unique "characteristics" of each stage of their children's growth, but also create a suitable environment for these "shining points" of their children.
Excellent parents can always seize the critical period of their children's development, give their children enough companionship, and make full use of the sensitive period when their children grow up only once in a lifetime.
3 years old is a key year to cultivate children's creativity, they encourage children to draw, make up stories, play with clay, do handicrafts;
5 years old is the most intimate and harmonious year of parent-child relationship, they often accompany and praise children;
6 years old is a year when children begin to have contradictions in their hearts and begin to rebel, and they give their children more patience.
Dr Montessori said the child is only in an environment that is appropriate for his age;
His mental life will develop naturally and reveal his inner secrets.
Just like a flower thrives, it needs water, sunlight and soil.
The secret garden in the hearts of children also needs to be cared for, watered, and cultivated by adults.
When you pour companionship, patience and love into your child, your child will naturally return to you with a star-like self.
Caught in education,
Teach your children to be human first
Successful family education produces a successful child, and failed family education pampers a failed child.
There is not a single good child who was raised by his parents.
No matter if you don't ask, you can't teach good children; if you are lax and sluggish, you can't raise excellent children.
For a child, studying hard may be the most important responsibility at some stage of his upbringing.
For parents, educating their children is a lifelong responsibility, and it is a success that no career can compare.
Educate children, first teach people. There is discipline, there is teaching, there is punishment, is the best love for children.
The "Fu Lei Family Letter" is one of the most famous family letters in modern China, among which a hundred family letters record the father-son friendship between Fu Lei and Fu Cong, and also break the truth of education.
"The first is to be a man, the second to be an artist, the third to be a musician, and finally to be a pianist."
This was Fu Lei's only advice when his son Fu Cong was about to study abroad.
In the field of education, there was once such a speech, spanning a hundred years and still exerting influence, he is the famous educator Mr. Liang Qichao.
Liang Qichao's family education was very successful, and the nine children in the family were all trained by him to become the pillars of the country.
The eldest son Liang Sicheng is the founder of architecture, the eldest daughter Liang Sishun is an expert in poetry research, and the younger son Liang Sili has become a rocket expert and has been selected as an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences...
In a speech more than 100 years ago, Liang Qichao mentioned:
The ultimate goal of education is not simply to instill knowledge, but to teach students to learn to be human.
Cultivate their fundamental wisdom, protect their free will, and ultimately let them have their own personality and outlook on life, and be a person who is not confused, not afraid, not worried, and stands tall against the heavens.
As Socrates said, education is not indoctrination, but igniting a flame in the heart.
Educating children, the most important thing is never the grade, the grade is only a temporary business card, and the character is the armor of a lifetime.
Raising a good and sound child is the true meaning of education.
Faithful to the Three Views,
The pattern of parents determines the height of the child
The parents' vision and mind are the starting line of the child, and the parents' pattern and vision determine the height that the child can reach in his life.
Different circles, the depth and breadth of understanding things are different; the pattern is different, and the way of handling things is naturally different.
As parents, we are the first teachers of our children, and our approach to problems and attitudes towards life reflect the truest character.
And the child will naturally learn and imitate in a subtle way, which in turn will affect the formation of his pattern.
Zeng Guofan said: "Those who seek great things are the first to pay attention to the pattern. ”
The size of the pattern in the mind determines whether the vision is long-term, and whether the vision is long-term determines the success or failure of things.
The same is true of education, parents have a big pattern, children can go a long way.
Parents with a big picture can create all kinds of possibilities, let children see their own abilities, find their own value, and thus become strong inside.
In the education of children, the general pattern of parents is reflected in not labeling children indiscriminately, understanding that children's character education is more important than ability.
Not grumpy, in the face of the child's sprinkling, always have a good temper, gentle and firm adherence to the principles of rational education.
Not arrogant, know how to strictly manage when it is strictly managed, let the child know what to do and what not to do; when it is time to let go, let the child try, to experience, to exercise.
Don't be discouraged, firmly believe that children always have a place to shine, just like the flowers in the garden, the flowering period is different. Don't be in a hurry, don't get angry, and let the child grow up slowly according to his original posture.
Life should be a "slow" art, slow down, in order to calmly appreciate the flowers blooming on the side of the road.
Educating children is like raising flowers, watching while raising them, waiting for the flowers to bloom.
Parents with a big picture view are never absent on the road of their children's growth.
Because they understand that father's love is not absent, and mother's love is not offside, in order to educate excellent children.
Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, and it is the parents' daily education that gives the child a different life.
It's easy to be a parent, it's hard to be a good parent.
On the road to parenting, remember that the most advanced family education must begin with companionship, education, and loyalty to the three views.
In this way, we can raise a sunny, confident and excellent good child.