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When I was young, I felt very unfair, and my mother called my grandparents "Daddy, Mommy" with my father, and my father called "Uncle, Mother" with my grandmother.
However, this is the local custom, and a woman is a member of the in-laws after she gets married.
Mother said that before the big family has not been separated, the head of the family is the grandmother, the family's snacks, fruit grandma and aunt eat casually, but the mother and aunt three are very rigid, work in the front, eat behind, even cooking, grandma has to paste a few tortillas, the whole family in addition to the three daughters-in-law, all eat white noodle steamed buns, only three daughters-in-law eat tortillas.
Grandma wouldn't let them eat tortillas directly, but the three daughters-in-law were very knowledgeable and took the tortillas directly.
My sister got married in 2002, because of the influence of her original family, she pointed out with her brother-in-law: I call your parents, and you also want to call my parents.
It was also from that era that the name of our region changed.
This is a step forward, representing that the times have quietly changed.
Who knows that changing and changing will change too much, probably the old people can't think of anything, and now there are daughters-in-law who refuse to call their in-laws "parents".
Netizens broke the news that the sister-in-law never called her father, and her father brought a baby for her for 10 years
After reading a netizen's revelation, the netizen's revelation can be divided into the following aspects:
1. The younger brother has been married for more than ten years, and the sister-in-law never calls out to her father.
2. Every New Year's Festival, the sister-in-law resists returning to her in-laws' house, and she wants to be in her own small home, even if she returns to her in-laws' home, it is not suitable.
3. The sister-in-law refuses to associate with the relatives of the in-laws' family, and does not allow the in-laws to live in their own homes, but allows the mother-in-law's family to visit at any time.
4. The sister-in-law refuses to lend money to the in-laws, even if it is for emergency use, it is not allowed to borrow and repay. But when my brother bought a house, his relatives helped.
5. Dad has helped his sister-in-law to bring a baby for 10 years, and he still can't change a "dad", which really makes people feel chilly.
After reading the netizen's breaking news content, there are some feelings, but from the content point of view, I believe that these exist, but it must be incomplete, this is from the uncle's point of view to evaluate the sister-in-law, a sentence revealed his prejudice against the sister-in-law, "Dad helped her with the baby for 10 years", which has exposed some of his own problems.
This daughter-in-law may be introverted, not good at interacting with people, as for not allowing the in-laws to come to their own homes, but allowing the mother-in-law to come to their own homes, it is very unnecessary to say it, she is not familiar with the in-laws, and the mother-in-law is a family, can live with her sister-in-law, should she live with the sister-in-law?
Look again, the father-in-law with the baby, not to help the daughter-in-law with the baby, can not do everything to the daughter-in-law, to help is also to help the son.
The daughter-in-law is not called "Daddy", and to evaluate her, it is necessary to see if the son-in-law is normal to call the father-in-law and mother-in-law.
In order to be objective and comprehensive, we can accurately evaluate a person.
Looking at it again, brothers and sisters were close to each other when they were young, and once they became a family, they became relatives and outsiders to a small family, which must be accepted.
And about the matter of borrowing money, if you have indeed helped the small two at the beginning, then the small two have a grateful heart, should not be not to help, really do not help, that is, there is really a problem.
A small family is a family of two people, don't always blame one person
This brother has always been accusing the younger daughter-in-law, never mentioned the younger brother, the sister-in-law and the in-laws do not have a good relationship, it must not be unilateral, but also depends on the attitude of the in-laws to her, in addition to the key person is her husband.
He should blame his brother, not his daughter-in-law.
If all his accusations were true, it would be all the more important to blame his brother.
Since the wife has these double-standard behaviors, as another important member of the small family, shouldn't she stand up and point out her problems?
For example, on the issue of salutation, if he can call his parents-in-law "Mommy and Daddy" and his wife refuses to call his mom and dad "Mommy and Daddy", then he must stand up and talk to his wife about this matter.
For example, if the wife is cheerful and optimistic in front of the mother-in-law's family, but refuses to communicate in front of the in-laws, allowing a transition period, there must always be a familiar stage, but if this has always been the case, then it is also necessary to stand up and talk about this issue.
In real life, there are often similar cases, the daughter-in-law is very strong, the son basically listens to the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law becomes the object of criticism by others, and the cowardly man seems to have done nothing wrong.
The younger sister-in-law is not good to her parents, do not directly accuse the daughter-in-law, the correct way is to communicate with the younger brother and point out the brother's wrong behavior, which is the right reason.
Because the result of blaming the younger daughter-in-law can only be to make the younger daughter-in-law reject the family even more, this matter should be done by the younger brother.
The key figure in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the man in the middle
People are always talking about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, always throwing the pot to these two daughters, easy to ignore the most critical issues, if it is not the man in the middle, who knows whom of these two people, who cares about whom?
If the son has a high emotional intelligence and can handle housework, then the mother will definitely not break up with the daughter-in-law, even if there is a small contradiction, it will not be tight.
If the son's emotional intelligence is low, even if the daughter-in-law's emotional intelligence is high, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family contradictions is still wave after wave.
Therefore, in the future, when encountering the problem of contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women should first remain calm and analyze men's problems first, and the contradictions may be solved.