The greatest education is the emotional peace of the mother!

When everyone is born, the first thing they see is their mother, and the earliest education they receive is also from their mother.

As people grow up, some become politicians, businessmen, scientists, engineers, while others become tramps, drug addicts, perverts, murderers...

Mothers are crucial to the education of their children, and the brilliance of maternal love makes mothers the chief designers of the formation of children's psychology, character and thoughts. Some educators have even said, "A loving mother is better than a dozen special teachers."

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Mao Zedong's words and deeds are still the subject of discussion and research by scholars from all over the world, Mao Zedong can come out of a small mountain village in Hunan and become a great man of the Chinese nation, who is his enlightenment teacher, who is his guide?

Parents are the best teachers in a child's life, and looking back at history from today's perspective, it is not difficult for us to find that Mao Zedong's loving mother was the main person who really influenced his lifelong growth.

Mao Zedong's mother's surname was Wen, and she ranked seventh among the sisters of the same ethnic group, known as Wen Qijie. As an ordinary rural woman, Wen Qimei silently managed housework and raised her children all her life. She treats people and things, is simple and kind, and never educates him in a scolding manner.

For the young Mao Zedong, his mother gave him humility and gentleness, laying an important foundation for his future achievements. Mao Zedong had great respect for his mother.

Mao Zedong once said in a letter to his classmate Zou Yunzhen: "There are three kinds of people in the world, and the mother belongs to the third kind of person who harms others, who benefits himself but does not harm others, and who can harm himself and benefit others." ”

When Mao Zedong recalled the past, he once said humorously: "My family is divided into two parties, one party is my father, the ruling party; the opposition party is composed of me, my mother, my brother, and sometimes even the hired workers." ”

Mao Zedong had a cousin who had a very difficult life, and his father Mao Yichang wanted to buy his paddy field "by taking advantage of the danger of people", which was resolutely opposed by his mother, who often took Mao Zedong to help this poor relative.

The virtues of motherhood had a profound influence on Mao Zedong, and they penetrated silently into his young soul, making Mao Zedong extremely sympathetic to the weak from an early age, and like his mother, he often helped others and became a generation of great people.

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Xiao Wu is talented and has good conditions in all aspects. But people who are not as good as her in all aspects have a better life than her.

At the age of thirty, through a lot of reflection and study, she found the answer.

The reason is that she can't control her emotions and is insecure. When you are in love, you lose each other because of gains and losses; when you work, you offend your leaders because of your bad temper; in life, you lose friends because of your glass heart.

Why is she like this? Because she had a grumpy, anxious, vulnerable mother.

When she was very young, her mother entrusted her to others for work reasons. Mother will also tell Xiao Wu at any time that she does not want her.

During that time, the parents' feelings also had problems. Dad was busy at work, and she and mom were often the only ones in the house.

When her mother wanted to make Xiao Wu quiet, she would lock her in the bedroom and let her cry or beat her up. The hard work of raising a child makes the mother's mood very poor, and every time the father comes home, she will complain.

Mother was always sighing and depressed. When she was young, she had been trying to get her mother to notice her, but whatever she did was useless.

She strives to be perfect in everything, enters the best university, enters the first-class unit, and is appreciated by many people, but she still can't make her happy.

After all her efforts failed, she and her mother became increasingly estranged. Until she left home and lived alone.

Later, she realized that her mother had been influencing her, and it had taken her almost twenty years to overcome her character flaws.

Although she has achieved a lot of success in other aspects, this huge shortcoming has seriously hindered her development. During adolescence, others are only occasionally depressed, but Xiao Wu often cries sadly and loses sleep.

Studies have found that the sooner people can identify and control their emotions, the easier they are to succeed and be happy.

Someone once asked the CEO of a company: "What kind of employees do you like to hire the most"? The boss's answer was: "Emotional stability."

Through the above two stories, we understand that a good family and a peaceful mother are crucial to the growth of children.

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It is said that a good mother is better than a good teacher, in fact, a good mother is these three words:

01 "Quiet"

Many mothers have sharp eyes, can see the child's problem at a glance, often point out and repeatedly strengthen, and even say in front of many people where the child is not good.

In fact, mothers should not panic when they see their children's shortcomings, why? Because the child needs the mother to use good emotions to nurture and protect, only when the mother sees the child's shortcomings silently, can she give the child the inner growth momentum.

The mother's emotional instability will follow the whole family, the child is living in the mother's boat, and the slightest movement will have an impact on the child.

A mother who controls her emotions is the best parenting for her child.

02 "Weak"

Mothers should learn to show "weakness" in front of their children.

It is difficult for a child raised by a strong mother to be confident, and the child's self-confidence will be weakened a little bit in your state. A mother who can show weakness in front of her child must be confident and strong in her child's heart.

Learning to show weakness in front of the child is to realize the child's support, the mother who occupies the upper hand of the child everywhere, the child only stands down, and finally is willing to stand down, there is no little competition, there is no motivation, the extreme will pursue rebellion, destructiveness to complete the deformity of the self.

03 "Kindness"

The true strength of a mother is her kindness.

Because of the harmony and harmony of women in the family, people feel the tolerance and acceptance of the sea, and they are spectacular and untouchable, which is the broad world of children's growth.

Such a mother image is the rule, and the words are the direction.

On the contrary, pointing fingers and feet in front of the child, either shouting in the voice or nagging the mother, will make the child slowly feel that there is no place in the world that is comfortable, the child will lose the direction of the heart, and the mother will not have any ability to guide and become more frantic.

Sima Guang said: "Those who become mothers do not suffer from unkindness, but from knowing love and not knowing how to teach." ”

Psychology tells us: "Children's problems are mainly emotional problems, poor learning is because of negative emotional distress, parents' inner anxiety and impetuosity, more terrible than children's grades." ”

Only when the child is calm in his heart, can he absorb, precipitate, think rationally, see, and create, and can he be truly excellent!

As a mother, remember that being able to control your emotions is the most correct education for your child.

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