Today's children eat a nutritious and healthy diet and develop their bodies early. Coupled with the development of the Internet, mobile phones and other technologies, the information that modern children are exposed to is also richer and more complex.
This leads to many children not only developing early physically, but also mentally developing early and becoming very precocious.
Parents are more worried about this, especially families with daughters. Mom and Dad are worried that their precious daughters secretly fall in love early, and even steal the forbidden fruit, resulting in irreparable results.
Therefore, if it is found that the daughter has received a love letter, many parents will severely criticize the child and let the child use his mind to learn.
But Cortana's mother's approach is very different. Xiaona was 14 years old this year and just entered the first year of junior high school, and her mother found that Xiaona had recently returned from school and looked wrong. I was always nervous when I talked, and I closed the door early after eating.
Mom guessed that Cortana might have received a love letter from a boy or had someone she liked. So, Mom and Xiaona talked calmly.
When she found out that Xiaona had received a love letter from a boy, her mother did not immediately accuse and criticize Xiaona, but said these 5 sentences to Xiaona:
1, received love letters show that you are starting to grow up slowly, can attract the attention and likes of the opposite sex, this is a good thing, so the mother will not blame you.
2, you can think about it, what qualities in your body attracted the likes of boys? Is it character, or learning? Or temperament and character, or even appearance and stature, this may be the reason.
If it's a good trait, then you should try to keep it. At the same time, you must also learn to see your own shortcomings and correct them, so that you will be liked by more people.
3, you must clearly understand what kind of age to do what kind of things. Now in your age, the most important thing is your studies, and you can't delay your learning because of impulse.
4) At your age, it is normal and beautiful to have this kind of like. But the real feeling is that each other can make progress with each other and face all the challenges of life together. So you have to be firm in your heart and make yourself better.
5. Say thank you to the boy who gave you the love letter, and tell him that your main task at present is to learn, even if you like each other, you must not affect the learning.
Xiaona listened to her mother's words and finally handled the relationship properly, and her mother also shared this experience on the Internet. Many netizens praised her high emotional intelligence, and also said that the way mother and daughter handled them was exemplary.
I agree with the practice of Xiaona's mother, but each family's educational concept is different, and each child's personality is also different, so it is still necessary to vary from person to person, and the specific situation is analyzed.
If you find that your child has received a love letter, the most undesirable way is to tear up the love letter, severely accuse, strictly control the child, and even monitor the child.
Children have a rebellious mentality, the more they do not let do things, the more they have to try, which will lead to more serious consequences.
In fact, it is normal to find that the child has received a love letter, and the parents do not have to panic. What parents have to do is to communicate with their children calmly and equally, listen to their children's true words, and care more about their children's true feelings.
At the same time, it is also necessary to use reasonable ways to help children understand some adolescent knowledge and physiological knowledge, so that children realize that interpersonal communication must not cross the line, and must be controlled within a reasonable range.
Finally, slowly dilute this matter, so that children naturally use their minds to learn.
When the same thing happens again, I believe that the child will handle it well and will be very happy to communicate with the parents.