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When we get married, we often tell the most beautiful love words to the lovers around us, afraid that the other party does not know how determined they are to be loyal to this love, just like the familiar marriage vow: "I want her to be my wife, from today on to have each other, support each other, whether good or bad, rich or poor, disease or health, love and cherish each other, until death can separate us." 」 ”
Moved, right? How many women can't resist such a vow is how many women are running for it. Like a moth to a fire. Some women, after marriage, really feel the sweetness of being pampered by their husbands, even if life is poorer, they feel warm and happy because someone loves them.
However, not every woman who runs for love can have such a good life, because not every man who swears can achieve the quality of "spitting is a nail".
Therefore, there will be women who are helpless to experience the pain of physical and mental exhaustion, and in the darkest moments of life with all their thoughts, they have to accept the cruel reality that "husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and the great trouble is about to fly separately". I have to recognize what is called "human nature cannot stand the test." ”
"I can understand, but I can't forgive." This is what Dr. Wang Lei, a female medical doctor, said after she was splashed with a basin of ice water by her beloved husband in the darkest moments of her life. Behind the open-mindedness, only she herself knows how much the heart hurts.
Wang Lei, born in 1982 in Huangshan, Anhui Province, to a well-off family, her goal in life is to become a top neurologist. During his studies, he won the national full scholarship for three consecutive years, and after working, he served as the attending physician of the Department of Neurology of the Second Affiliated Hospital of Nanchang University, and was a good doctor who regarded the patient's condition as the first priority.
The reason why she chose to work in Nanchang was also to go to love with her boyfriend.
Wang Lei is a native of Anhui, and her husband, a native of Hunan, chose the middle place in order to give love a good home. After graduation, the two quickly got married and obtained a license, and settled down in Nanchang.
However, when Wang Lei's marriage career was in full swing, fate made a big joke with her, and threw her directly from the beautiful clouds into the dark valley bottom.
On the evening of December 13, 2012, she suddenly fainted at home and was taken to the hospital by her husband for emergency treatment, and the diagnosis result was that Wang Lei had a massive bleeding in part of his brainstem, and the area of transverse fracture damage was as high as two-thirds. At that time, she was 4 months pregnant.
In the words of the doctor, it would be a miracle that she would be alive. However, later, she gave birth to a healthy big fat boy with strong perseverance.
After giving birth, Wang Lei's right side of the brain was bleeding again, falling into a severe coma, and finally woke up after half a year of treatment.
From an excellent attending physician, he was suddenly tortured by the disease into a "wasted man" who was paralyzed, his face was deformed, his speech was slurred, his right eye was completely blind, and only one of his ten fingers could move. She couldn't accept that kind of self for a while.
Fortunately, her son gave her the courage to face life positively. However, this little flame of hope has just brightened a little, but her husband has given her a fatal blow: I'm sorry, let's divorce.
In the face of high medical expenses and the second half of paralysis, the affection of the past is gone, and the affection of the husband and wife has also gone to a strange road.
She never expected her husband to be so desperate, choosing to abandon her when she was most difficult and needed the care and support of her lover. However, she did not do anything to retain, did not cry, did not accuse, calmly chose to respect human nature, let go of all illusions that tried to challenge human nature, and agreed to her husband's request for divorce.
In 2016, Wang Lei and her husband formally went through divorce procedures, the children were raised by Wang Lei, and the husband paid monthly maintenance.
"I can understand, but I can't forgive." Wang Lei summed up the smallness of love in the face of illness with such a sentence. At the same time, her frank acceptance of the reality of life is just another embodiment of bravery. Not drilling the tip of the bull's horn in the face of life's suffering is also a wise attitude towards life.
After experiencing the test of life and death, she decided to be strong for her son. Not only is the standard of living so low, she also has to live out her own life value and set a good example for her son.
She created a public welfare forum, free for patients to answer relevant consultations, her typing is too slow, sometimes need parents to do the work, and then later, the more popular the more, 6 years later, against the wind overturned.
"When I first did it, I didn't think about it so much, I just felt that I had learned so many things, how to apply what I learned, how to repay the motherland and society, and how to spread positive energy." This is what Wang Lei said in front of the reporter's lens, and it is still so plain.
An ordinary person's eyes of the "burden", but want to use what they learned to help more people in need, an accident although robbed her of her health and work, but did not take away her insistence on her dreams; an illness made her lose love, but did not make her lose the love of life.
Some women are abandoned by their most beloved husbands, often pessimistic and disappointed, and feel that life has no head. However, under the double blow of losing his beloved job and his beloved lover, Wang Lei still chooses to use a strong and optimistic attitude to live a life of courage, which is worthy of deep consideration by every woman whose life is not satisfactory.
When feelings are finally defeated by a reversal that we cannot complete by our own will and our own strength, we must bravely face and accept it. Divorce when life is dark, and you win by calming your mind. You have to believe that people who never give up are the most beautiful, and those who can insist on realizing the value of their lives in the face of adversity are the best.