Fang Yinuo married into the Xie family, and her in-laws treated her well, treating her like her own child, and was also very good to Hehe. Hehe is sick, although the Xie family's parents have also worried about Xie Tianhua's future life, in the process of Hehe's treatment, they are also dedicated to helping, often making some nutritious food to bring to Hehe to eat, and really treating Hehe as a granddaughter.
Xie Mu planned to take out some savings to see Hehe, leaving 30,000 yuan for her grandson Huihui, and the remaining 70,000 yuan was given to Fang Yinuo. Seeing this, many people said that if they were their own granddaughters, they would take out all the money to treat Hehe's illness at this time, and they would also find ways to borrow money everywhere, because they were not biological, and they would have reservations in spending money.
Xie Tianhua and his parents were indeed very good with Yinuo and Hehe, but at the critical moment, it can be seen that in the second-marriage family, "calculation" is everywhere.
I. The "account" in Xie Dan's heart
Xie Dan is the most opposed to her brother's marriage, she has loved her brother since she was a child, and seeing his brother marry a woman with children, she feels worthless for her brother. After Xie Tianhua got married, Xie Dan still looked down on Fang Yinuo and often sneered at her.
Xie Tianhua and Fang Yinuo have a good relationship, Hehe is also very sensible, and Fang Yinuo is also quite filial to his mother-in-law, but Xie Dan always feels that he should be in his heart. Now looking at Shedan's thoughts, her objections are really not unreasonable.
The younger brother has not been married, Fang Yinuo brought Hehe over, Xie Tianhua just got married to help other men raise children, and after the children grow up, it is likely to go to find their biological father, Xie Tianhua is equivalent to helping others raise their daughters in vain.
Raising a child takes a lot of money and energy, and Xie Dan is a sad brother. In most second-marriage families, the children brought in will be "abandoned" because they are not the people of this family and have to raise her.
Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua have been married for more than a year and have not been pregnant, Xie Dan is even more condescending for his brother, if Fang Yinuo does not plan to have another child, then the younger brother will not have his own child all his life, and he will suffer a loss.
Hehe had leukemia, and the treatment fee was astronomical for ordinary people, and selling cars and houses was a common thing. Xie Tianhua wants to sell the house, Xie Dan does not agree, for the sake of other people's children, the brother worked hard to buy the house, one day did not live, it will be sold, so Xie Dan hates the other party Yinuo more, she said that Fang Yinuo was "obscure", Fang Yinuo and Hehe arrived at the Xie family, Xie Tianhua was getting worse and worse.
All this is because Hehe is not Xie Tianhua's child, Xie Dan is not worth it for his brother, if it is his own child, no matter how much he invests, he will not regret it, even if the child does not give himself a pension in the future, he is willing to give all his things to the child.
Not Xie Tianhua's own child, spending 1 cent on Hehe, Xie Dan felt that it was a loss, and now Xie Tianhua wants to sell the house to Hehe to see a doctor, in Xie Dan's eyes, this is a "business" that loses money, so she does not agree.
Second, rely on
Fang Yinuo wanted to have another child with Xiao Lu and decided to divorce Xie Tianhua, and she told Xie Tianhua that she married him because she wanted to find a father for Hehe and find a way to rely on for her future life.
I think this is Fang Yinuo's heart, at the beginning, she decided to marry Xie Tianhua, the main reason is to find a father for Hehe, so that her daughter can also experience fatherly love in the process of growing up.
Fang Yinuo remarried, there is no love for Xie Tianhua, only "suitable", that is, the calculation of him, it is not because of love, Fang Yinuo has long passed the age of believing in love, not to mention the second marriage. Choosing a second marriage, most people are no longer considering whether they have feelings for the man, but whether the man can give him the life he wants.
Xie Tianhua's feelings for The other Yinuo have always been unchanged, he can do it to treat Hehe as if he were his own, and the other party Yinuo also really likes it. If Xie Tianhua was also divorced, or with children, his combination with Fang Yinuo would not be as simple as it is now.
Couples who are married twice, whether men or women, will not be so impulsive, living better than now, is the most important criterion, want to find a person to live, men find a housekeeper for the rest of their lives, women find a reliance for themselves.
After Fang Yinuo slowly got along with Xie Tianhua, she had feelings for Xie Tianhua, admired him, and believed in him, and she would say that she could not do without Xie Tianhua.
Third, the 30,000 yuan left
Xie Mu left 30,000 yuan for Hui Hui, I think on the one hand because of pain Hui Hui, on the other hand because of Xie Dan, if you don't leave some money for Hui Hui, Xie Dan will definitely not agree.
As an aunt, Xie Dan should not have stopped her parents from spending money on her niece's medical treatment, and she should have borrowed some money for her brother.
Hehe was not her niece, and all this changed. She is not Hehe's aunt, giving money is a sentiment, not giving is a duty. Because there is no blood relation, there will be a lot of emotional estrangement, if it is Xie Tianhua's own daughter, needless to say, Xie Dan will also find a way to help, even if she does not pay, she will be willing to help.
The 30,000 yuan left behind, I think, is more like a reservation of family affection.
In the second-married family, for the child brought, whether it is food, clothing, housing, or reading and getting married, in terms of spending money, it will be calculated, give more, feel uncomfortable, give less, and I am afraid that adults will not be able to get by.
Biological children, thrifty and thrifty, will also give the best to the children. If the child is sick and goes to the hospital, there is no hesitation, because it is biological, even if you know that the result is not necessarily good, you will not hesitate, just like Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu.
Hehe is not surnamed Xie, so the Xie family has less irrationality and more planning in the matter of treating Hehe, and the future days will be over, and they have to leave some money for the rest of the family.
Fang Yinuo was lucky to meet the Xie family's parents, and some old people who encountered such a thing would react the same as Xie Dan, not only would not take the initiative to take money out, but also stop Xie Tianhua from treating Hehe. Therefore, it is not easy for the Xie family's parents to give most of their savings to Fang Yinuo.
Fourth, Xie Tianhua's grievances
Fang Yinuo is pregnant, and in order to save Hehe, she still plans to have another child with Xiao Lu. When Xie Tianhua found out, he ran to Dr. Jin to "report" because he wanted to keep his child.
Xie Tianhua's approach, we can all understand, just like Fang Yinuo said before, Hehe is not Xie Tianhua's biological daughter after all, he just can't do it without reservation.
From the stepfather's point of view, Xie Tianhua should be regarded as a full score, and he could not pick out any shortcomings in him, and Hehe also regarded him as his father. When choosing between his own child and Hehe, Xie Tianhua still chose his own child.
Fang Yinuo had already given birth to Hehe, and if she had another child with Xiao Lu, she would basically not have three more children, which meant that Xie Tianhua would no longer have any more children of her own. In such a situation, Xie Tianhua's "blackening", I think many people will understand.
At this time, Fang Yinuo would not blame Xie Tianhua, because she had already seen through these things, not Hehe's biological father, and the fake would never be true.
Xie Tianhua is true love to the other party, but he also has his own plans. He also wants to have his own child, but he understands Fang Yinuo better, wants to wait for Hehe to be older, and then mention the matter of having a child with Fang Yinuo, and now that Fang Yinuo is pregnant, he can no longer be so selfless, in order to save Hehe, he lost the opportunity to be a father.
Xie Tianhua should be the most aggrieved person in the whole play, I believe that there is such a good man, has always been sincere to a woman, but, without selfishness, it is really difficult to find, he is good to Hehe, and it must be to let Fang Yinuo marry him with confidence.
Fifth, Dong Fan's calculations
Dong Fan is one of my favorite characters in the whole play, her knowledgeable and gentle and sensible, let me see the image of a perfect wife. If Dong Fan married a man, she might have been simple, and now that she is married to a second man, she has to learn to calculate.
Xiao Lu is Hehe's biological father, and every year he will give Hehe a birthday red envelope, as long as Hehe proposes it, XiaoLu will definitely meet her requirements, because of blood relations. After Hehe fell ill, Xiao Lu retired from the house, changed jobs, and advanced half a year's salary, all to save Hehe.
Dong Fan didn't think so much before she got married, she also thought about treating Hehe as her own child, and she didn't plan to have children herself. After Hehe fell ill, seeing Xiao Lu's change, her thoughts also changed, and she also became calculating.
If he had not had children all the time, Xiao Lu would have been thinking about his own daughter, and he would have put more feelings and energy on Hehe, and money and time would be divided up for Hehe. Therefore, Dong Fan's thinking has changed, she wants a child, because with a child, she can leave Xiao Lu at home, leave his heart and money at home, and the house can not be given to Hehe.
Originally simple Dong Fan, because Xiao Lu is married for the second time and has a child, she has to learn to calculate, she has to think about it later, in order to make her marriage with Xiao Lu more stable and long-lasting, she has to calculate.
6. Children
Why do second-married couples say that they are good at "calculation"? In fact, the calculation is still on the child. Because the child is not their own, they cannot do it wholeheartedly, and they want to be rewarded when they pay, and they are worried that the child will not kiss themselves in the future, and they do not want to spend more money and material resources on other people's children.
Therefore, the divorce of husband and wife, the most bitter is the child, the child can not get the true father's love and mother's love, but also by the stepfather or stepmother has been calculated, there will be no good life.
Although Fang Yinuo is divorced, she is a responsible mother, she can no longer marry for her daughter, for her daughter, she chose to marry Xie Tianhua. Xie Tianhua's character is good, and it is good for Hehe, he regards Hehe as his own daughter, if he is replaced by other men, Hehe's life may not be so ideal.
For example, if she raises someone else's child, that child's life will not be better.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage failed, both people have reasons, if both people are willing to reflect, don't be so strong, the two people will not go to the step of divorce. Hehe can also truly appreciate the love from her biological parents, and she does not have to face Xie Dan's dislike.
If the marriage encounters obstacles, if it is really principled, it cannot be changed after consultation, and it must be separated from it. If the marriage can go on, both people are willing to work hard for a better life, I think it is better not to gamble on divorce, after divorce, the most injured is the child, after remarriage, few families are living smoothly, remarried families with babies, most of them live in "calculation".
At last:
Seeing that Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu secretly tried to conceive, many people said that it would be better not to divorce them in the first place. They are not unable to live, Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage, but also give us a lot of enlightenment, some divorce, regret when they know that it is wrong.
In the book The Courage of Marriage, there is a passage that reads:
"Remember that what we want to achieve most is a win-win marriage relationship. It is not one side that overrides the difficulties and points fingers to cross and solve obstacles; it is not the other party that sits on the mountain and eats the air, stands still, and waits for the other half to be willing to pay. ”
When there is a problem in marriage, think about what the common goal is, how to solve it together, and ultimately achieve the goal of win-win for husband and wife, children and families.
Author: Muzi