There is a little boy Hui Hui in the neighbor's house, Hui Hui's parents are very busy at work, so they handed Hui Hui over to Hui Hui's grandparents who live next door to our house to take care of, Hui Hui's grandparents are afraid of this baby grandson in their mouths, they are afraid of falling in their hands, they are spoiled, every day our family can hear them at home saying: "Baby Hui Hui, Grandma made you delicious today, Baby Hui Hui, what you want to eat today, Grandma bought it for you." ”
Hui Hui is a little bully at home, that day Hui Hui Grandma and my mother went out to buy vegetables together, my mother saw Hui Hui Grandma had a large piece of bruise on her arm, and asked her curiously, why was this, she told my mother, it was Hui Hui who wanted to watch TV, she did not let me see, Hui Hui started to beat her, the child did not have a light weight, directly hit the bruise.
Mom came back and said this, I had to sigh that the current child is really a little bully, but the next day I met downstairs made me very shocked, Hui Hui Grandpa took Hui Hui for a walk in the park, Grandpa ran to play chess with several people, there was a small child who snatched Hui Hui's bread, Hui Hui stood there, did nothing, did not snatch his own bread back.
I was surprised, wasn't he a little bully? Why could he beat his grandmother, but when someone else snatched his things, he wouldn't fight back? Later, I saw him slip into grandpa's arms to complain about his grievances, and the little bully was so instigated outside.
In fact, there are many children like Hui Hui who are in the nest and outside, many children are a little bully at home, and they dare not fight back when they are bullied outside, why is this so? Because parents make these mistakes.
First, children are influenced by their parents
Some parents are typical of the nest, outside instigation, bullied in the company, do not say a word, hard work, look honest, back home, give the family a tantrum, and even beat the family, leaving all the bad emotions to the family.
Parents are the child's first teacher, if the parents do this, the child may learn the behavior of the parents, at home is a small bully, outside is a bag, after they get married, they may also be so, outside the wronged home beat their wives and children, many domestic violence men are formed in this way.
Second, parents spoil their children too much
Today's children, not only have the spoiling of parents, but also the spoiling of grandparents, grandparents are almost responsive to children, what to eat to buy for children, this situation will spoil the child into a small bully.
Children at home say one or the other, children bully their parents at home, bully their grandparents, because they know that their parents and grandparents, do not bother with themselves, even if they beat them, they will not be angry, and even will be angry and coax him, so he can do it vigorously, but the outside society is different.
Outside the society, everyone is equal, no one will let the child, if you hit people, others will also hit the child, even more severe, the child will be afraid of others, to the outside become a bag.
Third, children always stay at home
There are many parents who feel that their children are great, do not let their children communicate with other people's children, have been letting their children stay at home, children have no social skills, at home like a small bully, after going out, children will not say anything, in the face of other strangers is to instigate the bag, when bullied is also not to fight back, scolding does not return the mouth.
Fourth, differences in educational methods
Some parents pay attention to scientific parenting, but grandparents always spoil children, such as the most common, parents teach children, grandparents protect children, children will bully people who have been spoiling him, but when they see their parents, they will be afraid, which also develops the character of nesting and outside.
So what should parents do?
First of all, we must lead by example, parents themselves should not lose their temper with their families, have a kind attitude towards people, rather than angry with their families, leave their bad tempers to their families, and do not let their children learn the bad habits of their parents and get angry with their families.
Don't spoil the child too much, spoiling the child is not good for the child, to educate the child, spoil the child will only ruin the child, raise a child who has achieved nothing.