In the process of raising children, many mothers can't help but be angry with their children, because of the pressure of work and life.
It is also possible that the emotions that have been suppressed for a long time will be unconsciously vented when facing the child, rather than the mother herself is a person with a bad temper.
In such cases, the mother can choose to relax instead of venting all the negative emotions on the child.
Mothers have to be themselves first, and motherhood second.
If the mother does not be herself first, she will feel that the root cause of all this is because of her son, resulting in her not having the opportunity to live the life she wants.
Therefore, mothers who have this layer of psychology themselves will be doubly angry when their children are unreasonable and will be more likely to completely collapse.
So how does Mom change herself?
First of all, the mother must first change herself, to do a good job, to make herself better, so that the child can become better.
The mother tries to control her temper as much as possible, so that the child feels the patience and composure of the mother, but the mother herself must know that she is not a superhero!
When you are tired, you have to rest, and when you can't restrain your temper, you should first leave for a while to calm your mood, and then find a suitable way to relax yourself and calm your mood.
Second, turn the expectation of children into expectations of yourself.
Don't put expectations on your children, at their age, growth and gains are inevitable things, and you shouldn't live in your mother's expectations.
When your expectations of your child decrease, your temper will naturally be controlled. Therefore, it is recommended that mothers put their expectations on themselves and strive to achieve their ideals, and children will learn from their mothers to work hard and persevere.
Mothers must first become themselves in order to let children grow, and the atmosphere of the whole family will be more harmonious.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Director Li of Orangutan Village
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