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At the end of the "Biography of Ruyi", Ruyi asked the emperor before he died: "Do you know the words of Lan Yinxuguo?" When I read this sentence when I was young, I only felt sorry, but now I understand that flowers bloom and fall from time to time. ”
Yes, some love once existed beautifully, but eventually it will disappear. In life, examples of men and women getting married at the beginning of a happy marriage and eventually divorcing abound.
When we are young, we always think about being with the person we love for a lifetime, and when the time has passed, many people have found that true love may not be eternal, and the person who tried to be with him at the beginning will one day be separated.
Last year, because many stars have announced divorce, it was jokingly called the first year of divorce in the entertainment industry by netizens, and many friends around them said that celebrities getting married and divorcing are like playing around, wanting to tie the knot, wanting to leave, and how do people believe in love? But I still feel that love is worth believing, but love is the same as life, each has its own destiny, some people are doomed to no longevity, and some love is destined to die suddenly.
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I have a junior high school female classmate, after graduating from junior high school did not continue to study, went out to work, a few years later and a male colleague who was three years older than her had a mutual affection, because she was too young (in her early twenties), did not know the sky was thick, and soon became pregnant in the process of interacting with her boyfriend, they trembled and told both parents, the father's parents were very happy, hoping that they would settle the marriage as soon as possible, but the woman's parents jumped like thunder, insisted that she wanted to beat the child, because she was still too young, Moreover, the man's family conditions are not very ideal, and they are afraid that she will eventually suffer losses.
At that time, she was inseparable from his love, how could she be willing to listen to her parents, she cried and made trouble, and even threatened her parents, if she did not agree with them together, she would jump off the building and die twice. In the end, it was her parents who compromised and made all kinds of arrangements for her, so that she could get married.
After marriage, they also had a very good life at first, it is said that the man resigned to start a business very well, the woman was at home full-time with children, at that time, the social dynamics of my female classmates were basically the pictures of their family's happiness and harmony, she was studying how to make a variety of delicious and delicious meals for the child's husband almost every day, I can always feel her happiness in this small fragment of life.
Year after year passed, their children went from one to two, and I heard that they were going through the divorce process because my female classmate's husband had a new love outside and had not come home for a long time. She went from being wronged and begging for all the money to arguing with her husband hysterically, and even losing her mind to find Xiao San to push and shove and theorize, and made trouble at the police station, but the people her husband always protected were the new people.
Under the ashes of all thoughts, she proposed a divorce, as her husband wished, but also did not want to torture herself anymore, the children were divided into one, the love was long gone, and the marriage came to an end.
I don't know exactly what happened between them, and although I also feel sorry, how two people who once loved each other like this could become what they are now, step by step, but I understand that things in the world are unpredictable, and true love can't be eternal a lot of times. Maybe there have been countless quarrels between them because of trivial matters in life, or maybe it is just because the man has changed his heart halfway, in short, their love is gone, there is no cure. The original deep love is not false, the last love is also true, so what can be done except acceptance?
From the ideal state, of course, everyone hopes that they can have a long-term and immortal marriage, but the reason why it is called an ideal is because the ideal is not easy to achieve, isn't it?
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Of course, I am not here to create panic for everyone, I said that some love is destined to die suddenly, does not mean that there is no eternal true love in this world, after all, love is perfect, and people with beautiful marriages are also everywhere.
I just want to say that we don't have to idealize love too much, we must believe that there is unswerving love in this world, and we must also have psychological preparation and courage to face the changes in love and marriage, especially for those girls who are immersed in happiness and ready to step into marriage. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaspheming your love, I'm just speaking according to the facts, so many bloody examples in reality.
The love between Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo is familiar to many people, and their love is really beautiful, but after Wang Xiaobo's death, Li Yinhe said in the face of his remarriage and sarcasm: Even if Wang Xiaobo is alive, I may like others.
In fact, human emotions are a very subtle thing, and the more subtle things are, the more likely they are to be unpredictable. I used to think that "I don't care about the long days, only care about what I once had" is a self-comforting sentence, and as I get older, I really slowly understand that love and marriage are very beautiful when they have really been, because we have no way of knowing when they will suddenly disappear.
I like the words that Gu Jia, played by the nursery rhyme in "Thirty Only", said when she chose to divorce after facing her husband's cheating: "Our marriage is not a failure, just an end." This shows that the goodness of the past of the two people is real and worthy of recognition and memory, but the feelings of the two people have reached a fork in the road, and there is no way to continue.
Gu Jia is really good, beautiful looking, and especially capable. Keeping the family in good order at the same time can also help her husband deal with a lot of company affairs, but also take special care of her husband's self-esteem, always praise him for his talent, and always tell his children that dad is the hardest.
But so what, she was betrayed by her husband.
Look, the so-called love, the so-called marriage, the so-called happiness, the variables are really too big. Where there are so many happy marriages, more divorced people go to the end, and the parties can only accept it.
Some people may ask, if this is the case, is it best not to fall in love and not to get married? It is not like this, love and marriage itself is beautiful, it is longing and yearning, no one can refuse happiness to beckon to themselves, we can still accept love and marriage, as long as we do our best in the process, without shame, as for the result, it is not what we can predict and control.
If you can live, you can pass, and if you can't pass, you will scatter.
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"Ruyi Biography" in Ruyi said that the original young love can also go to look at each other, psychology also has aesthetic fatigue, saying that long-term married life makes themselves have a bland and numb feeling of the other half, although there are many emotional experts to express a variety of so-called professional views, a variety of teaching people how to make love fresh, let the marriage keep fresh, but in fact, everyone's marriage is different, how can there be a template to set?
Whether the marriage can last, the most important thing is not to see what kind of person the person you meet is naturally? If the person you meet is cold in nature, then even if the sweetness between you is true at the beginning, it will not affect the other party's sudden change of heart. Those who run their marriages well, in addition to being worthy of being cherished, must also be that the other party knows how to cherish and is willing to cherish, and it is easy to have such a beautiful result by running in both directions for a long time.
Then relax your mind, love well in the days when you can still love each other, accept the status quo calmly when you are not loved, and then live your future life with a good attitude.