Some time ago, I saw a very touching report on the Internet: a great stepfather, one person supported three families, not only burdened with deaf and mute disabled brothers, but also his divorced 3 children, as well as 3 daughters brought by his remarried wife, forced to take the bitter days out of the head, and offered 3 stepdaughters to become graduate students at Harvard, the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and Beijing Normal University.
Today, I want to write about them.
Reorganizing the family, the family of nine, the daughter stepfather, each of these words, is not easy to put on ordinary people, because the broken original family has brought too many tragedies to this society, and even when we hear such a combination, it is inevitable to sigh for them and worry about their children.
However, this reorganized family has delivered full of positive energy to us. The analysis of the reasons behind the analysis found that whether it is the original family or the reorganized family, it is the parents' three views that play a decisive role in the family style.
1. Outlook on life
What kind of outlook on life do we want to convey to our children? This is not book education. Reading to children according to books is far less profound than parents' action education.
Strictly speaking, being a parent is the beginning of a person's approach to maturity, because you have followers behind you, and what you do must play a correct exemplary role in helping children open the door of life.
The child's cognition will affect the child's life, in turn, the change of years will also react to the second half of the parent's life, so correcting their own outlook on life, removing the bad parts, and perfecting the missing parts is the first step on the road of parents' cultivation.
2. Values
In a person's life, he will encounter a special number of choices, and the core that determines these choices is the values in the hearts of each of us.
In the time of accompanying children, we can give children value guidance in time, but if we do not help children to establish their own value judgment standards in their hearts, then it is difficult to imagine what will happen to our children in the future.
Therefore, the construction of values should be early, based on love, with love to moisturize things silently, the most important task of parents is to teach children what is right when they still need us.
This process is not necessarily very decent, happy, relaxed, good and evil, life and death, right and wrong, bitterness that will be encountered in ordinary life, every wave is an educational opportunity, which requires parents at any time, to have the ability to make values correct enough, which is the second step on the road of parents' cultivation.
3. Worldview
We often say that how big the heart is, how big the stage is. To a large extent, the worldview is based on cognition, vision, experience, knowledge, pattern, which does not depend on whether you are a farmer, a worker, or a civil servant.
Similarly, the parents' world view is not the boundary of the child's world view, which is the part of the world view that is different from the outlook on life and the influence of values on the child.
Therefore, parents can do a lot of things to help their children establish a world view, just like the old saying, reading thousands of books is not as good as walking thousands of miles, reading and traveling is the best way for parents and children to build a worldview.
Finally, to sum up
This remarkable peasant father, with his actions under the guidance of the three views and three views, supported this unusual reorganization of the family, because to earn money to support the family, every drop of sweat shed by this father became the driving force for the children to move forward.
On the road of being a parent, every drop of sweat we shed will not be wasted, and will eventually become a factor affecting the child's life, so if you want good parenting results, then pay attention to every process, every family is no exception.