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Moms all over the world share a common affliction:
How to make the baby finish her homework on time and on time!
Many parents uphold it
Job first
The principle, as soon as the child comes home from school, he will shout and rush the baby to write homework, who knows that the baby sat at the table for a few hours, stunned that he did not complete the homework that other people's children could complete in half an hour.
In desperation, I can only sit next to stare at the child to write, the child is indeed no longer touching here, poking there, but the old mother's blood pressure is also rubbing upwards,
Children's homework is still written as slowly as a scalper. In this situation, old mothers usually collapse and ask: What is the problem?
Psychology generally believes that a child's problem is a parent's problem. Children's low homework efficiency is inseparable from the wrong way parents guide.
Li Meijin, a well-known education expert, once suggested on this issue that we should not let our children write homework as soon as they go home, which is easy to backfire and should be given a buffer time.
Before the child writes his homework, allow the child to run around the yard for a while, let him let out the excitement he has accumulated for a day, and then let him go back to the room and start writing his homework. Exercise consumes the child's excessive passion, and he can sit quietly at his desk and write his homework.
From the perspective of behavioral psychology,
This model is similar to the reward mechanism, which can strengthen the child's motivation to learn. To know that learning is bound to be painful, a child who has been in school for a day has entered a state of exhaustion, at this time has produced a tired psychology, and then let it continue to enter the learning state, which will lead to its regression psychology and boredom of learning.
At this time, letting him play freely for a while is equivalent to a reward, which can stimulate the child's enthusiasm for learning to some extent.
The scientific method can produce high-quality results. All parents hope to cultivate good learning habits for their children, and hope that their children will complete their homework as soon as they return home from school.
But such expectations are not in line with the child's psychological change state, think about the school discipline is bound to pay more attention to the program than the family discipline, so the child's behavior in school will be greatly limited, and now the child almost needs to sit for a day to go to school.
In this situation, the child is after school
The most urgent need is to act freely to release the accumulated power in his body, and you let him sit quietly and write homework is indeed not in line with his current needs, and the effect is naturally greatly reduced.
Conform to his needs, release the excess energy, and then guide him back to the desk to write homework efficiency will naturally be raised.
Of course, in this process, as a parent, you need to determine the rules with your child in advance, such as how long to play, where to play, and what to play.
Children are actually not so stubborn, the most important thing is that as a parent, whether you can actively find the child and dig out the child's shining point.
In addition, children are required to enter the state of learning as soon as they are out of school.
Parents will miss out on the opportunity to establish an intimate relationship with their children
。 For a child, school and family are two completely different worlds, and his experience and performance will naturally be different.
When the child spends a day at school with others or a happy or bad day, the first time after returning home, he must want to share his experience with his parents, at this time, you say "go homework quickly", all his enthusiasm for expression will be extinguished, and over time, the child will become unwilling to communicate with parents.
Many parents complain that their children are no longer willing to communicate with themselves as they grow older. In fact, where the child is unwilling to communicate, it is obvious that you have blocked the communication channel. Although children are small, their emotional sensitivity is extremely sharp, and they can also feel your subtle impatience.
In fact, for the child's entire growth career,
Homework is only a small part of it, what is really important is their attachment to intimate relationships, personality background, and the formation of thinking habits, and these need to run through every day of children's growth, and parents must not lose too much because of small.
Professor Li Meijin once said: "A child who has not been respected since childhood, a person who does not feel happy, will not have a healthy and sunny mentality." ”
The most common mistake Chinese parents make is to use parental authority to suppress their children and ignore their children's needs as human beings.
But even if he is young, he is also a person, need to be respected and seen to be empathetic, only in respect of children who grow up, his mental health, state will be better, adulthood can spontaneously breed against the world's inner strength.
Education is not a rigid indoctrination of knowledge points, nor a beautiful score on the test paper, but to respect the child's personality background and let him exert his potential to infinity.
The biggest drawback of the current education system is that it is easy to kill the creativity of children, and as a parent, do not increase the resistance of children. We must know how to develop a flexible little brain, teach according to the talent, and ensure that the small sapling around you can absorb the really useful growth nutrients.