The boyfriend is very good to the ex-girlfriend, although he is good to me, but I am unbalanced.

Netizen question 1:

His ex-girlfriend is wayward and loves to do things, so he is also wronged to listen to her, and some unreasonable requests will be accepted, even so he still loves him. Finally the ex-girlfriend split her legs and broke up. When I told him that my heart was unbalanced, he said that it was his first love that he did not understand, it was deformed love, it was unequal love. Talking to me is the love of equality between men and women. I would have thought that with my ex-girlfriend I could lower him a little, and when I came here, he would be equal. The ex-girlfriend still gave a lot of love to her, and I didn't get more love than the ex-girlfriend. But I still think that my understanding will be exchanged for more love. While my boyfriend is good to me now, but not as much as his love for his ex, what should I do?

My answer:

understand. But it is the willfulness and work of the ex-girlfriend that can hold him. He was also willing to accept her unreasonable demands in his mouth.

One is his first love, he attaches great importance to it; the second is that people are sometimes very mean, the more he is used for him, very subtle and contradictory psychology, the so-called one thing drops one thing is this meaning, it is unclear and unclear; the third is that he may really love her more than he loves you; the fourth is that she dumps him, he always has reluctance and regret, so she is his white moonlight, you may not be able to replace the unforgettable feeling she gives him.

But of course, he had to say that he didn't understand love at that time, or you understood things, or you were good at this and that, and he couldn't always say that what he loved most was that she couldn't forget her, right?

Only children who can cry and make trouble have sugar to eat.

Obedient and sensible, he will feel that your good is deserved. He does a good job or not, you will love him very much, then he is still tired to pay what? And you are so good, don't need him to make any effort, he just enjoys your good.

Unless you make him jealous, make him feel a sense of crisis, make him feel like he will lose you at any time...

With inner fluctuations, his heart is chaotic, and he begins to think about you and nervous about you.

When he is stimulated, he will change for you and begin to value your feelings.

But with all due respect, he'll never love you as much as he loves his ex. Because he was happy to be abused by her.

Netizen question 2:

I just graduated this year, a teacher, one meter seven four, normal weight, only daughter. Blind date, doctor, height 177 meters, normal weight, only child. I'm three years older.

Relatives introduced, contacted for eight days, WeChat chat, said contact contact, never promised to be together. Then on the eighth day, without saying a word to me, he brought a bunch of snacks and fruits to my house, and didn't tell the rest of my family. He said he had come to see me (I had given me photos and videos, and I knew what I looked like) and sent me something to eat.

I was normal at the time, and the more I thought about it after sending him away, the more angry I became. Mainly came without saying hello and I felt disrespected. Second, I haven't found any common ground with him in the exchanges of the past few days, and I don't think we are the same kind of people. Then in the evening I transferred the money to him, and I said that I did not use excessive words, but I also made it clear that the dispute would end peacefully.

But my mother is very angry now, not only my mother, my aunt, my grandmother, the women in our family think I am incomprehensible. I just rejected a blind date that I didn't like, only eight days, did not delay the second half of people's lives, did not hang on to others. What am I wrong?

My answer:

Introduced by relatives, but who is this man from your relative? If it is a neighbor of a relative, they will not look up in the future, and you will refuse to give it to others, and your relatives will be embarrassed.

If it is a relative who entrusts someone else to introduce it, it has taken several turns, and there will be more people in the shelf.

They are angry that you don't give face, even if you don't agree, you should first communicate with your relatives, rather than making up your own mind.

Moreover, they don't think that such a small matter will trigger such a resolute attitude of yours, and there is no room for turning back, and they directly reject the blind date.

And this man's condition is very good, under normal circumstances, it should be quite sought-after. They should think he's a great candidate with a lantern on, and you can't afford to look down on him. Maybe everyone is waiting to drink your happy wine, and as a result, you have only denied him for a few days, which is equivalent to you punching a group of people in the face.

At the same time, they think that you are too picky, arrogant, and do not understand what kind of person you want to find, so that it can not enter your eyes? Hate you for iron is not steel.

Personally, I am extremely dissatisfied with the sudden arrival of the door. When I meet, I must make an appointment in advance, I have to arrange my own affairs in advance, and then do a good job of psychological construction of meeting people. I will definitely refuse to ask me out that day, and I will directly shake my face when I come to the door. Of course, what you know in advance is slightly better.

However, I don't think I can see anything in eight days, and there is no need to rush to refuse, especially after he bought a gift and came to the door to break up, as if it was an extreme denial of him. He had thought it was a bonus, but it turned out to be self-defeating, and he must have been very upset and faceless. But his subsequent handling is quite generous.

Some people attach great importance to feelings, what is felt at first sight, what is felt at first. Maybe for you eight days down not only no feeling, but also feel that wasting time is useless, simply hurry to give people a reply, no need to expect anything from you, no one will delay anyone.

But blind dates are not so quick-moving. My advice to you is that in the future, you can extend the time to get to know each other a little longer, and don't rush to say no.

And you should ask these angry people what they are angry about.