Text/Coriander
When people reach middle age, their personality will slowly mature, and they will gradually move towards a platform period emotionally.
In the eyes of many people, middle-aged people no longer need love, or love is far away from them.
This is because many real problems plague middle-aged people and make them physically and mentally tired.
But don't middle-aged people need love? In fact, this is not the truth, so often, middle-aged people have four "misunderstandings" for feelings.
In fact, for feelings, no matter what age group people are, they are needed, just to see how you treat them. The so-called "planting melons to get melons, planting beans to get beans", what kind of life you want to have, you have to pay corresponding efforts.
★ Middle-aged, needless to say love
In some places, it seems to be a shameful thing for people to say love again when they reach middle age. Especially in rural areas.
Those people always think that love is a young person's business, and to talk about love in middle age is both pretentious and humiliating.
Actually, is this really the case?
Of course not.
To think that love is the preserve of young people is a big mistake. Love knows no age or borders, as long as there is love in the heart, it can be at any time.
Or, it is precisely because of this mentality that middle-aged people cannot say love that many middle-aged marriages are now in crisis.
Middle-aged people, because of the pressure of life, will live very hard every day. They may not have the energy and time to enjoy love, but this does not mean that middle-aged people do not have love, nor can they say love.
Love is a feeling that exists in the heart of a loving person. In the end, love is actually just a habit. You are used to the companionship of your lover, accustomed to eating her meal for three meals, accustomed to his snoring at night, these are actually love.
It's just that sometimes, what middle-aged people lack is an opportunity to express themselves. There is love in the heart, but it is rare to say it, because I feel that the other party can know without saying it.
However, many things need to be communicated through language. You don't say, how will he or she know? Therefore, it is still necessary to talk about love.
★ Old husbands and wives do not have to be too affectionate
Sometimes, when we talk about the word "intimacy", many middle-aged couples will say "they are old husbands and wives". Subconsciously, I feel that the old husband and wife do not have to be too affectionate.
This is actually a misunderstanding.
The intimacy of the old husband and wife is not on the surface, unlike young people, who may kiss on the street, or they may have intimate behavior on a certain occasion.
The intimacy of middle-aged couples is more likely to be introverted and implicit. Even if they do such intimate things at night, during the day, in front of people, they will pretend not to care so much.
In fact, the expression of love is good, whether it is young or old, there is love, in order to have a good life. So no matter what age you are, intimacy is very necessary.
Otherwise, why would you see a white-haired old couple walking hand in hand on the road, or an old lady would be envious of the old man.
Such intimacy will only make people feel warm, not disgusted.
★ Everything must "make way" for the child
Some people say that the lives of middle-aged people are occupied by children, where is their own time?
It was really an excuse to use the child to carry a pot that he shouldn't have carried.
Children are only the product of love, but they are not the obstacles of love! What does the love that middle-aged people want to express have to do with children? Don't use your children as an excuse anymore, everything is just your own will.
It is true that children will occupy a lot of the time and energy of middle-aged people. But when people reach middle age, in fact, they will not be with their children 24 hours a day, at least at night, and children will no longer sleep with you, right?
Expressing emotions requires a state of mind, not an excuse at any time. Even, the space to work, to say a few words to the wife, send a few fun pictures, are all expressions of love.
★ It's not worth spending money on "love."
When people reach middle age, is it worth it to spend money for love? I believe that many middle-aged couples will be more inclined to be pragmatic.
For example, on the wedding anniversary, a romantic man will send flowers to his wife, but the pragmatic wife may complain that he spends money indiscriminately, thinking that it is better to buy a bundle of green vegetables.
In fact, it is wrong for women to have such a mentality. Middle-aged couples should occasionally create some small romance to adjust love.
Originally, when people reach middle age, their feelings will go flat, and if they do not go through the palace well, they will be as calm as stagnant water.
Spending a little money occasionally will not lose anything, on the contrary, it will add a little interest to middle-aged love, why not enjoy it?
Therefore, when people reach middle age, they should pay close attention to the four "misunderstandings" of love. Otherwise, the marriage will be more prosaic, the people's hearts will gradually deviate, and the stability of the marriage will be more difficult to guarantee.