Text: Xi Xihuan
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Love at first sight should be the most beautiful love in the eyes of many people, there is no so-called trade-offs and disadvantages, there is not too much heart and routine, just because it is the person who is destined, so at a glance, I moved my heart and identified him.
In the eyes of many people who are accustomed to prudence, love at first sight is not very acceptable, because these four words mean impulsive and reckless.
In many love at first sight, it is the feelings generated on the basis of not understanding each other's details, which is unacceptable in the eyes of many people.
Even if it is a blind date, it is also necessary to introduce the person to explain what the conditions are for each other, what kind of work to do, and what the family background is, and the two people will initially judge whether it is suitable or not to decide whether to continue to get along.
Love at first sight is different, you don't need to understand any situation of the other party, love is love, reckless kind of love, so that it is worthy of love at first sight.
However, not all people can accept love at first sight, although it is heartwarming, but there is no long-term love.
Feelings need to be based, and only when two people have enough contact and deepen their understanding of each other in the process of contact, will they have more confidence to weigh whether two people are suitable for being together.
Therefore, more people may feel that the love that lasts for a long time will be more lasting and more basic.
But in fact, love at first sight is not what many people think, not unscrupulous, and not all kinds of people can fall in love at first sight.
Love at first sight in the true sense is to divide people, but also need certain conditions, only such a person, is worth your love at first sight, worth your abandonment of many external factors to love.
01 has temperament
There is a saying in the Bible that some people can love you only one time because they were your lover in a past life.
Maybe this sentence sounds like a fantasy to many people, and the so-called wonderful fate is just to find an excuse for seeing sex.
Some people will say that the most basic condition for seeing each other is that the other party's appearance should be high, just like the saying that no one is obliged to see your lovely heart through your sloppy appearance.
If you are a person who does not pay attention to your appearance, it is actually difficult to attract the attention of others, let alone move your heart.
To put it bluntly, the people who really make people fall in love at first sight are often people who are more outstanding in appearance and temperament.
People are yearning for beautiful people and things, this is a kind of human nature, not the color heart, and even from a certain point of view, temperamental talents are worthy of your love at first sight.
Imagine a man hanging in front of you, untrimmed, dressed sloppily, or even full of foul language, then you can't fall in love with him at first sight.
Because it is obvious what kind of person he is, not well educated, no self-disciplined habits, not self-motivated, does not care what others think of him.
It can be love at first sight, but the premise is that the person is worth it, so when you see such a person, will you fall in love at first sight? Presumably the answer should be no.
For a man, although he is not handsome, he is very temperamental in dress, well-proportioned, well-spoken, and full of man's charm.
Such a man is temperamental, and even if he doesn't say anything, it is easy to make people fall in love with him at first sight.
Behind his temperament, you can actually see what kind of person he is, such as dressing up with temperament, indicating that his aesthetic is very online; the body is well-proportioned is a manifestation of self-discipline, will not overeat, and even insist on exercise and fitness; talk decently to prove that he has received a good education.
So, such a man is actually worth falling in love at first sight.
In fact, from a psychological point of view, the reason why we fall in love with a person at first sight is because this person meets most of the fantasies in our hearts about our lovers, and once it appears, it will immediately match.
What matters to a temperamental person is not his watch, but the bottom of the table, which is the key to really deciding whether it is worth being touched by him.
02 has its own position
What kind of people attract the attention of others the most? The answer should be special people, so what kind of special law should be used to make others fall in love with themselves at first sight?
If we notice a person in a group of people, in addition to the factors of appearance and temperament, the most important thing should be the words he says and the views he expresses.
A man who has a position and is able to maintain his position is always sparkling, and his insistence on position reveals his confident charm and proves that he is a thoughtful person.
Even if a person's appearance is outstanding, if there is no opinion of his own, he will have no idea when he encounters something, and he will only blindly follow when he is with others, then it is actually difficult for such a person to attract the attention of others, let alone love at first sight.
Cousin has always been a person who has a lot of principles and pursuit of standards for feelings, in her own words is rather than indiscriminate, if she does not meet her own criteria for choosing a mate, then she will never make it up, otherwise it is a waste of her time and feelings.
She once tried to have a relationship with a man who was very good in all aspects under the arrangement of her parents, but the first time she saw that man, she felt that it was not suitable.
When dating, the man came with his mother, so did his cousin, and the two mothers talked for a while and then found an excuse to leave, after all, the feelings of young people still have to be talked about by the parties themselves to know whether it is really appropriate.
But after chatting for a while, the cousin felt that it was really impossible to continue, no matter what she asked, the man always wavered, and even said that he had to ask his mother to know.
Such a man has no opinion at all in the cousin's view, and in the end there is no following.
Later, on a business trip, my cousin met a man at a cocktail party, and without knowing his name, she fell in love with him at first sight.
The man's talk is not exaggerated at all, his remarks are reasonable and well-founded, and invisibly become the focus of the whole scene, and when someone refutes him, he is not angry, but patiently continues to use his theory to explain.
At that moment, the cousin knew that she was moved, and she fell in love with the man at first sight, and such a man who had a position and insisted on a position was particularly attractive to her.
I have to say that such a man is actually easy to let the opposite sex fall in love with him at first sight, no one wants to get along with a person who has no opinion and position, or even love, love is a matter of two people.
Maybe you don't know much about that person, but from the performance of his position, you can see that the other party is a person with a heart and a mind, so it is worth your love at first sight.
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