Even the development of girls requires the involvement of their fathers.
In most families, widowhood education is staged, the mother takes care of everything alone, washes and cooks with the baby, and even some need to shine on the job and earn money to support the family.
And the weight of dad in the child's life is getting clearer, perhaps because mom is superhuman, and one person can cope with everything. Maybe it's because the mother is not at all at ease with handing over the child to the father, and is wary of the father everywhere.
Is Dad really that busy?
Caused by traditional cultural induction
For a long time, in the traditional thinking, a man in a family has to take on the heavy responsibility of earning money to support the family, become the pillar of the family, and cannot fall down when encountering any problems, especially in the face of livelihood problems.
If any man is not up to the task, they will be poked in the spine, or even their wives will look down on themselves, and this feeling of disgrace is not acceptable to everyone.
As a result, they need to spend more time on making money to support their families, more energy and time to create more benefits, not in their credo, preferably only better. Naturally, there is no time to take care of the family.
Dads don't have the confidence to take their kids well
Relative to moms, dads are careless, they are not willing to spend time to understand the child's care for the child, but also feel that they are not suitable for this, nor can they do it well.
When they have no parenting experience, in the face of children's cries and mistakes, they will only use force to solve them, so that they can solve them in the shortest possible time and establish their own majesty.
And it is because of this vicious circle that many children do not like their fathers, but also let them feel too much frustration in education, and they are getting farther and farther away.
Women who don't pay attention to food and clothing and don't like to dress up have the same kind of father
But even if it is a father, the relationship between the child and the child is not handled well, and the demand for the father is still very large in the process of the child's growth! Even no less than the need for mothers.
An educator from Harvard University once said that a child's intimate needs come from the mother, and the need for independence comes from the father. Any child raised by a father is more independent.
It is not surprising to come to such a conclusion, after all, in a family, the role of the mother is always the child's gentle hometown, and from birth, the child and the mother have developed a very special attachment relationship, which will never be able to compete with the father.
Even if the child makes a mistake and the mother criticizes him very seriously, this will not affect the intimate relationship between the child and the mother in the slightest, and even the child opens his hand to ask the mother to hug while crying.
If the child's growth is only the participation of the mother, when the child encounters difficulties and dangers, he will never grow up, and can only live as a coward hiding behind the mother.
At this time, the important role of dad education is highlighted! Because dads are braver and more rational, they will lead by example when they encounter problems, and use their own way to tell their children what to do is the right thing to do.
If this father is a macho, has a lot of requirements for his mother, and always threatens his mother to serve him in a commanding tone, the affected daughter will not pay attention to food and clothing, and does not like to dress.
Because in such a family, the daughter sees her mother who compromises herself, and her mother is like a puppet of her father, who has no subjective ideas of her own, and is at the mercy of her father, and she will not have the concept of active choice after she is separated from her father.
In this way, they will pose indifferent to their own quality of life, and the greatest meaning of their lives is to please, to please their fathers, to please their superiors, to please their friends. And in this pathological lifestyle has been running tirelessly, never thinking of changing, or breaking through.
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